4x a father, never a dad

by Ashely
(Thayer, KS 66776)

Brylea Rae Anne- Christmas 07

Brylea Rae Anne- Christmas 07

The father of my biological daughter is also the father to 3 other children. Two reside in Tennessee with their mother, his first wife, two in Kansas, one with his second wife and one with me. The oldest child is 10 and the youngest, mine, turned two in January 2008.

He has paid a total of 3 months of child support to me since our daughter was born and I know that he is tens of thousands of dollars arrears in child support to his ex-wives also. He doesn't file income taxes and hasn't for at least five years because he knows that the government will take it anyway to pay his back child support. During the 3 months I did receive child support, I got $47 every two weeks.

Not enough to even provide my daughter with diapers, let alone any other necessities. He has seen our daughter only three times in her life (at 6 months of age). The last I heard, he had left the state and I haven't heard from him since. Please explain to me why this man who has three child support orders in two states, and a medical support order here in Kansas, that he has never fulfilled, and yet he continues to get away with this. When the child support enforcement catches up with him, he just switches jobs or works under the table.

However, a good friend of mine who is an awesome father, was in a car accident a few years ago and was unable to pay child support for 3 months during his recovery due to this 3 month gap in his payments, he was hauled into court, treated like deadbeat trash & was put in jail for 6 months. I have seen both sides of the system and how unfair it can be.

I sympathize with those fathers who are honestly doing their best to support their children, but shame on those who don't, and shame on the system for not recognizing the difference.

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dirt bag
by: bobby

sounds like this guy is just a sperm bank for women

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I AGREE
by: MELISSA

I AGREE WITH YOU WHY IS IT SOME PEOPLE CAN GET AWAY WITH THINGS AND OTHERS DON'T. YOU WOULD THINK WE COULD GET A PRESIDENT WHO WOULD THINK ABOUT THINGS LIKE THIS INSTEAD OF THINGS OVER IN THE THRID WORLD.

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What Are Dads Supposed to Live On????
by: Anonymous

We have been stung by the system's favoritism toward the custodial parent. Horrible that a parent is sent to jail....yeah, that will help with child support payments! How is the parent supposed to work?

I do think that the AG should consider each case individually, it is too important not to. Instead, his office just hides behind "court orders" and they are innocent of anything that happens because the non-custodial parent could not afford to hire an attorney to change it.

I'm sorry to hear that you are angry but there are other children involved. How is a man supposed to live if his entire paycheck goes to child support? It really needs to be divided fairly, then maybe he will actually pay to help support.

My husband's ex-wife left him with their four children. She chose to leave the marriage and then couldn't handle working in the real world, she wanted to have my husband pay to support her. When two children came to live with us and another moved out at 18, my husband's paychecks were garnished and he sometimes got $0 because they said he owed months of back child support for FOUR children! She only had one! I had a child and was seven months pregnant looking for a job...how fair is that? While his ex just took the money and refused to work with a ten year old! We could do nothing because we live in CA and she in Texas and we did not have money to pay for an attorney. The AG would do NOTHING to help us.

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