A Father's plight to visit his daughter.by Rob
I served two tours in Iraq and when I came home things had changed which ultimately led to a divorce. It was agreed on that I pay child support to my Ex-wife in our divorce along with the visitation rights of every other weekend, half of all holidays and on Fathers day.I paid the child support every Friday when I got paid. Then things changed again, I met a woman and recently got re-married which was a reason for war to be declared against me by my ex. My ex did not like the idea of my marriage although my wife now tried very hard to get along with my ex for me and my daughter's sake. Up until the time I got engaged I was seeing my daughter anytime I wanted for whatever period of time I wanted without questions from her mother, when this other woman came into my life it was always some excuse everytime I called to visit my daughter. Since March 2009 I have seen her 4 times although she lives about an hours drive away, which I might add I am willing to drive both ways to pick my daughter up and to take her home. I got a letter from the local department of social services stating that I was to show up at their office and bring all kinds of documentation, which I did. The reason being that my ex had applied for medicade and whatever other kind of help she could get, not needing the medicade I might add because I carry my daughter on my insurance at work but none the less she was approved for it which landed me in a court decision that raised my child support from $75.00 a week to $125.00 a week which comes out of my check and is sent directly to her mother. I ask at the hearing about the visitation in our divorce papers and was told that even though a judge singed them I would have to get a lawyer, go back to court and even then I may not get to see my daughter. It intrigues me that I could have been held in contempt of court had I not carried my daughter on my insurance and had I not paid child support leading to my arrest but the court thinks that I need another hearing to enforce the visitation that was agreed upon in our divorce papers, her mother can not be held in contempt of court by not abiding by the divirce/vistation agreement which makes no sense to me, if one can why not the other? I have no problem paying child support but when it comes to father's rights we have none at all except to pay and pay and pay.
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