Abuse by Man Hating Judges
My husband has two children from a previous relationship, and we now have one on the way. From day one the judge assigned to his case has completely abused the power they have, giving his ex the fuel she needs to push and push for me. She lives with her father, and recieves 545 a month for the boys. When the child support order was first made, my husband was forced to pay a ridiculous amount of back support because SHE had chose to wait to file. After the fact, my husband faithfully paid his support weekly without falling behind. Then shortly after we were married, he got an order in the mail saying the child support would be taken from his work wages by his employer and sent in by him. At first, we were relieved. It was one less thing we needed to worry about paying ourselves every week.
Then, he started getting calls from his ex saying that she wasn't getting the payments and he was still responsible for making them. Now, we know that it gets taken out every week because he gets paid salary, BUT his boss does not give him pay stubs so we have no proof of this. His ex is now taking him back to court for contempt of court, after they took 3,000 dollars out of our taxes this year for what his boss isn't paying. So, he has paid that 3,000 dollars twice now because of his boss.
Do you think that the judge cares about any of this? No. It still falls back on my husband and he is the one facing jail time for no fault of his own. They don't go after the boss who is state ordered to pay it, they go after the father who works 50 hours a week to take care of his kids. I fully agree that he should be paying and that it is his responsibility, but he is being completely taken advantage of. He had planned to have the court order changed this year so that he would get "shared parenting" instead of just visitation and now he just looks like a dead beat dad, so he is never going to get equal time with his kids. All while their mother doesn't work and isn't financially responsible for those boys at all. The system is a sad one, that doesn't give rights to the fathers who actually do deserve it.