I'm a mother with a 1 and half year old. I got pregnant after a few weeks dating this guy. He had told his friends and family that he was going to get me pregnant on purpose so he could keep me in his life. I wasn't aware of his plans until it was to late. After I found out I was pregnant I had told him and thats when the abuse started. I was physically and mentally beaten.
After 3 months of the abuse I couldn't take it anymore so I left and I had told him that I was changing my number so he couldn't contact me anymore. In febuary I had my child and he isn't on the birth certificate he had called me and I had to get my number changed again. She was 6 months old when he had started to stalk me at my home and he had wrote a letter saying he was sorry for everything I didn't believe anything he was saying bc he had told me many of times before and he still abused me.
I filed for an order of protection and after he filed for a paternity protition. We went for my order of protection and he denied everything but I had proof of his abuse and him stalking me. So he wanted to go for trial for the order of protection bc he had told the judge he did nothing wrong. Well before we went to trial for my order of protection we went to court for the paternity proceedings.
We both agreed that my daugter is his but when the judge said you have to pay for the back child support till she's 21, Medicade (I couldn't get health care were I was working at the time) and he had told the judge that he wanted DNA witch I don't blamb him but it is his child I don't mess around like that.
He kept try to prolong the testing date and the judge had told him that he couldn't do it any farther then feb 1st. It was set for the 1 st of feb 2011 and in Jan we went for the trial for my order of protection. He had told the judge if I got granted my order of protection he wasn't going for the paternity test, he had granted me the protection papers but it wasn't on my daughter.
Feb 1 st comes around and he didn't show or pay for the proceeding so it got voided. After my order had expired he had contacted me again not even a week later it expired and I applied for another order of Protection. He demanded to see my daughter witch he has no rights of her bc in the courts eyes she isn't his. He had threaded my daughters and my life and had threaded my brothers life so I filed that with the sheriffs department and he had 2 warrents out for his arrest for Agervated harassment. I moved out of state for my daughter and my safety.
He had got charged for 1 st degree sexal abuse after I had left. He has another daughter that is 9 and she wants to meet her half sister and I would love to let her see her but I don't want my daughter to have anything to do with her father bc he is not only abusive to women that he dates he's abusive and he neglects to his other 9 year old daughter. He does drugs and he's an alcoholic.
I pay for my daughter myself I don't receive any kind of assistance and I don't have child support for my daughter. Is it wrong for me to keep my daughter away from an abusive father?
Trey's Thoughts: You must protect your children at all cost no matter from whom. If the father is physically or mentally abusive the the children, then you should make sure they are safe.