Already deemed a deadbeat by NY state family court

by Barb
(NY)

I am writing this story in regards to my bf,he does owe back child support monies, but that came to be because when he first went in front of the courts, rather then go by what he was then making, they went by what he used to make years before which back then made decent money,until the economic downfall. They have ignored several modifications, actually when he did file a modification strangely enough, the support obligations went up, rather then decreased.So he was ordered to pay a sizable amount, one which he could not afford, he has and still does send extra monies to his children, although NY state courts cal it a " Gift".

Does the NY family court system even realize now that we are in the midst of a recession? or do they not just care, and automatically deem a father a deadbeat no sooner as he walks into a court of law. Wake up out there, people are losing their jobs, are homeless, are standing on unemployment lines, food pantry lines. etc.. but NY state still thinks that a good father who has been looking for work, just about be willing to do anything,think of him as a no good dad, just because he can't find work.

And even when he does look for work, no perspective employers want to deal with anyone with child support issues let alone garnishments, yes they do discriminate even though they are not supposed to.They take away the fathers rights, drivers license, as a punishment, making it harder to get to work, when a man finds a job then they take out so much that even the father can't afford to live, basically he might as well be homeless and be a bum.

The judge in court never even give the father a chance to speak, and when they do have something to say, they say" we are not here for that", basically whatever the father says falls on deaf ears and a blind eye.

What it boils down to is that if the father can't afford to pay the support obligations. they threaten to send them to jail, more like a debtors prison if you ask me, totally ridiculous!
Now please tell me that sending a father to jail is a good thing? Okay so the court sends him to jail, he comes out in 6 months, guess what? by the time he gets out, his job is gone, he still owes the same amount of money, the mother still gets no money and our hard earned taxes are still going to support the father who NY state threw in jail, this is insanity!!

The laws are always in favor of the mother, she could be the biggest drug addict in the world, the worst mother and still the woman nine out of ten times ends up with everything.Thats because the laws are unfair and unjust,next time you are in a NY State court of law, looks at the flag, its the one thats says "Excelsior", its has a woman holding 2 scales and she is blindfolded, thats because justice is unfair, its blind and unequal, seems NY state is the only state that boasts inequality and unfairness.

They now want my my bf to pay $1100,00 a month, absurd,thats unfair and no one in this area even can afford to make that kind of payment,because of the economy and lack of jobs out there.More punishment, if you have any support issues, you can't get a hunting license,or a fishing license, guess they dont want the fathers to be able to do anything or have any kind of fun.

My bf already has bi-polar depression, if he goes to jail, guess what he will be even more depressed, or try and take his life after he gets out or will find a way to do himself in if he goes to jail, still, the mother gets nothing, except the chance to see her ex at his funeral,way to go NY state, I applaud you, lets make sure more fathers do the same while your at it.

I know what he is going through and this whole thing makes me wonder, way back when, where was the child support when I needed the help?I ended up getting 80 bucks a month,and the guidelines were the same back then as far as percentages, how do these women rate anyways? if I could sit back and collect 1100 dollars a month, I'd be able to quite my second job and have more free time.