Anonymous


(Kansas City)

My husband has a ten year old son with a woman he was never married to. We have three children together, under the age of 5, and his child support payments are too high. We requested a modification in 2006 that was denied by the state of Missouri.

His original order for support has never been re-examined since it started in 2001. We tried to work with the mother to come to a more equitable amount which got us nowhere. He is paying $484 in current support and $242 in arrearages. We barely make enough to feed our kids and the government just keeps taking more. My husband is currently laid off and drawing unemployment, which his ex is getting half of.

Leaving us $600 a month to support our children. Mind you, she has a degree, has had 5 jobs in four years and is currently drawing unemployment herself. Is it fair that our children should suffer while she makes out like a queen? I don't disagree that he should pay, only that it should take into consideration that there are other children involved.

Bush signed the No child left behind act, I guess that only goes for school because it sure does nothing for economic situations like this. To make matters worse, every tax year they take half of or EIC and give it to the ex as well. We file married and I include the injured spouse form requested by the IRS.

The form states that they are to take the fathers income as single and give to the ex what he would have received. That is not at all what they are doing. Last year they took $2000 and only $580 was his. I feel that it's not right to take money that should be for my children and give to his ex! We DO NOT live in a community property state, yet, the IRS does what they want with no explanantion. I have been fighting them for 4 years and have also included the help of the Congressman's office.

This is a very frustrating battle. The legal system should take the disposable income by the number of children it is to support and allocate it equally. Then others would not have to suffer.

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stupid repsonses
by: Anonymous

I have read the comments about some of us complaining and I figure that the idiots writing these are dead beat parents. That is only reason you would complain about ppl wanting child support. We are the ones taking care of the child/children. In the mean time the other parent is out parting and drinking and whatever the fuck they want. I love my child. My sons dad is 21,000.00 dollars behind in child support, but he buys a camper and a truck and whatever he needs but forgets he has a child. So you idiots need to keep your damn mouth shut about this.

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you knew
by: Anonymous

It must be easy for you to judge a situation you know nothing about. I knew he had a kid, not that the system was screwed. Thanks for you intelligent input--now go get a life!

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You knew
by: Anonymous

You knew he had a child to support before you had more children with him. I think I'd have taken that into consideration before getting involved.

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To the administrators of this site
by: Frustrated

Why let people post these ridiculous stories?
They are no help to anyone who is really trying to deal with child support issues. They are misleading, and impossible to read.

Why let us rate our own posting? That doesn't make any sense...even a moron would know to give himself 5 stars.


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Screwed
by: Anonymous

Think of yourself lucky. I was employed at a high paying position when my ex-girlfriends mother signed me up for the OCSE for her to be able to get a loan for her house. Brilliant idea. Three years ago, I was laid off when the company closed. Being in the automotive trade, my license is paramont to me to obtain and keep a position. Well, lets put it this way, if the OCSE is after you, they will suspend your license within 2 months of arrearage. I tried for a year fruitlessly to obtain a position. Everyone knows if the OCSE is after you, the license is probably gone or on the way out. Try reasoning with the OCSE you will get the "get a letter of intent to hire" speech. I managed for many years, no way would I give anyone a letter on a maybe for a month or two license letter, I would rather have a person without such baggage. So, after 3 years of no work the ex decides she wants to control the payments and release the government from this activity. No such luck, we need to go to court in January 11, 2011. So another year unemployed. Seems the state of Maryland not only is screwed up, it appears my officer can't even bill the correct person. I got a rather nasty call from a gentleman from Tacoma park stating that they are billing him on his credit regarding my child support case. He accused me of ID theft. So Ladies if you want your child to grow up a semi normal life in this world, and really believe that "I just want you to pay your fair share", then don't involve the government. So now I am a dead beat dad becuase of a real screwed up policy, of actually unconstitutuional policies (deptors rites) and I cant get a job becuase of this mess. And one last thing, if you decide to go to a financial war with a person that is responsible for half the financial welfare of your child, at least let him be employable. And at least let the poor sap see the kid in between abusive boyfriends once in a while before he hits 15 and decides to bolt on you. It would be horrible for a woman to be unemployable and homeless wouldnt it.

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The dead beats have it made!
by: Anonymous

I am a mother of an 8 year old son. I left my husband 2 years ago. He never helped out with our son when we were married, he is an alcoholic an a cheater, and wife beater. I left so my son could have a better life and to know that is not the way people are to be treated. I went thru dss to file for child support. They have not helped me at all. I am from NC and he lives in WV. I have called my worker here and I never hear from her. I called the child support in WV, the Nicolas Co. area and I still have not heard anything. This man is around 9000.00 dollars behind. They have not done anything about it. At one time I got a hold of someone they told me he lived in Kentucy. I called and told them he was living with his grandmother. I call him every once in a while just to see if he is still free to have his fun. I gave them the address and phone number, even where he was working at the time. They treat me as if I am bothering them. I am so sick of this. They always say theat they are out for the childs best interest, what, when and how are they doing this. I am struggling to make sure my child has what he needs, in the meantime, his father is in WV haveing fun, drinking and god only knows what else. He even has warrants from here, but NC wont do anything about that either. Why is it the system cant help us out more that they so, or at least say they do.
Trish

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by: Anonymous

Not sure why there is complaining about paying arears. That is money that is owed to the custodial parent from receiving nothing in the past. Just because the custodial parent is motivated and acheived degrees by working hard and you and your spouse, the non custodial parent do not or did not that does not get you out of your obligations.

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just a thought
by: Anonymous

fu!@#$ed up system but an option money is required so good luck but ask for modification you want more custody time with other kid hard to have another in household but more custody you have less you pay and that money could go directly to the child and your household rather than someone else's unfornutaly court is required and if she disagrees then lawyer might be needed but their are groups out there that can help look for them and if one day you lucky enough to get 49/51 your payments will be lower you get to be part of your childs life, and split the taxes little more in your favor doesn't always work out that way based on given situtation and circumstances but a thought not alone in fu@#ed up system good luck

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