Arizona and a hole in the ground

by James
(LA, CA)

Maybe it's just me... But it seems to me that Arizona has to be the most ass backwards, neophyte run states in the union. How is it that a man gets a paternity suit nine (9) years after conception... Yes you heard it NINE years after conception. With this being said I being the father, had no knowledge of this child because it was a summer hookup when I was 17 and the girl went back to AZ... Never to be heard from again.


Now, fast forward to nine years later... DNA, court doc's, attorney fees, and utter financial ruin, all whilst being located 600 miles away mind you. DNA came back positive... Of course handled by AZ... Imagine that? I owe 8 years in the rears for something I knew nothing about... Thanks AZ. It immediately hit my credit because it was 8 years "past due"... Thanks AZ. Now, my wife and I can't get a loan, can't get a credit card, can't even get a bus pass on credit if we tried. When I asked the judge in CA who was handling the case for AZ at the time, "why they went back 8 years?" His response was "Because that's the way we do it".

Now, I owe $53,000.00 for a kid I have never met (over $700.00 a month). Needless to say, I am a little upset and have refused to give into their system and pay a dime over the last three years. Seems to me like something is really rotten in AZ. I have since found out that she tried to pin it on another guy for the first eight years because she wasn't sure who's kid it was. Go figure... Were is the justice in all this? Now, my only recourse to fight this injustice is to go to AZ court and risk being thrown into corrupt Nazi uncle Joe's tent camps for contempt of court.

I am all about helping my kid if that's where the money is even going??? If you want my advice... I say down with the system. If the state needs cash cows and a way to balance their collapsing budgets, then maybe they should take a good hard look at their own misuse of tax payer money and keep their greedy, fat, over fed, over privileged fingers away from mine. I may not be an AZ resident. In fact, I have never been to AZ... And I have no intention of doing so anytime soon. If enough people say *F* this system that is so obviously corrupt and DON'T PAY... It will have nothing left to feed itself and it will die at the roots. This system is so obviously against making amends in any situation. We are all dollar signs to this system. The more women on assistance... The more federal funding the state gets...

The more so called "Dead beat Dad's" they can finger... The more money they can skim for themselves. This is why both sides take it in the backside by state systems like this. Parents need to stop blaming each other and look at the system that's screwing ALL parties involved. Wake up people... It's your only chance at survival. As for me I will continue to NOT pay. If my kid needs something... She has my number and will do everything in my power to get her what she needs... In closing, I strongly recommend we ALL bring this system down and start from scratch... MOM's and DAD's....

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sometimes works against you
by: Anonymous

I agree that this situation sucks and does not sound fair at all. However, I did not file for child support for my daughter until she was 9 years old (paternity was never in question) and that was because I had continued to give her father chance after chance to do right by her. I told myself numerous times that I would not have someone make him take care of his child but all the while I was struggling to do it on my own. I asked him to just help out with $50 a week & then to just help whenever he could. He still would not help financially and was out having children by other women. He would not even accept the paperwork to go to court, had his mother refuse deliver of the paperwork and even wrote wrong address return to sender on the packet that I mailed to his brother home. He accepted paperwork for one of his other children because she would not allow him to their child so they considered him served for my case as well. He didn’t show up for the meeting and even called me on the phone during the meeting to tell me he had forgotten. The state only went back 3 years for our case and made me 100% responsible for our daughter’s medical care (to which I had been taking care of all along anyways) and financially I was responsible for 76% of her care and he was only responsible for 24%. I was only making a little over $11.00 per hour at the time. My order was for $202 per month and that included for arrearages. This was about 5 years ago and to this day he had never paid a full month of support and I am still just like I have been majority of her life 100% responsible for her care. He sees our daughter whenever he wants to, talks to her whenever he wants to and helps pay for things for her whenever he wants to or as he says whenever he can. The last money I received for support was $75 in May of 2011 and today is March 11, 2012. Her father has 3 children younger than our daughter that I know of all by different mothers and continues to claim that things are tight and things are hard for him but he is still out making other children he can’t take care of. I wish they would put him in jail but then I think we’ll then he wouldn’t be available to take her to an appointment if I needed him too. He lies to his family and female friends about how much he does for our daughter, how I always have my hand out for money and so on. His web of lies had labeled me as jealous by his mother and ended the 15+ year long relationship I had with his sister. He paints the picture of me being the bad guy in this situation. I don’t worry because I know the truth, my daughter knows the truth and I have always worked hard to provide for us so we will be alright.I can not even really be mad at him because I chose to have a child with him so I am just as much at fault as he is.

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Hell In AZ
by: Anonymous

My boyfriend just went to court and is very very far behind in child support. All I want to say is why did they not say anything about his other childs mothers income. From what I understand she had a job for several days and then quit because they did not give her a day off. And before that she worked in the court house where we had to go to court. I am just so pissed off with the way the system is. I myself have a child support case in N.C. and I know they brought up both of our incomes in court. A.Z. is screwed up and we are about to lose everything we own. We have to pay money to the court in 2 weeks and then the same amount 2 weeks after that just so my boyfriend won't go to jail for 6 months. Just so she can sit on her behind and do nothing all day. Thanks for the hell you have caused!!

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I'm with you
by: Anonymous

I am the wife of a husband who had a fling 15 years ago! Ya 15 years ago and then the mother decides to file for back support plus we had to finish paying until she is 18. Ok How is that fair? We had to tell our families my kids and oh ya my husband had to tell me!! We ended up having to pay 500.00 a month so we lost our vehicle and we almost lost our home and we were way past due on our bills. It has been horrible and the state of az has no cares in the world about the families it hurts. Just to make it right with the mother. That's not fair! There should be laws that allow the mother a timeline to file and if they don't then they are responsible.

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how can we change child support so all win
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have you taken any legal steps to change your situation. Have you looked into anything you may be able to do that will change laws that are so obviously defective. I would agree that you should be able to fight this with compensation financialy from the dead beat mother. Her bad choices put both you and the system in an uproar.

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I"m with you
by: Rjamison331

I'm with you, on getting together and going to the government on these issues that all of us is suffering from. But you must do it the wright way, pay and fight to show the wrong that has been bestoled upon you. I'm going through the same situation and not for nothing, and truth be at hand. there's a tall tale that state if the child have not been in contact with either parent in four years and the parent is not known that party should not be held accountable, but they won't tell you that either. Ask a lawyer and watch how he respond, and then start a petition.
Let's take it to congress the correct way

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