BEYOND DEAD BEAT!!

by KATHY
(TEXAS)

I was 21 when I had my son. His father left for the army when I was two months pregnant. He was suppose to come back for us but he never did. He changed addresses and phone numbers like he changed his underwear. After my son's birth, I immediately went to the welfare office and was awared TANF (formerly known as AFDC), food stamps, and WIC. He questioned the child's paternity from day one. I told him to have a DNA at his expense. He refused; he stated he knew the child was his and that the OAG was gonna put the support on him any way. He got out of the service. The little support I was getting was usually interupted because he could not keep a job long enough to save his life. And when he did, I only received $24-$46 a week in support. He saw his son for the first time at age 14. At age 15 my son spent three days with his father and he said he talked to his uncles more that he talked to his father. That was the only time he went to stay with his father. Usually the child does not have a good relationship with the father. My child has NO realationship with his father. He has other children that he adores but he does not claim my son, his first born. My son is 18 and a freshmen in college. His father owes me back time support and medical support that he was court ordered to pay but he feels the child is grown and he should not have to pay it. I tried to work with him over the years but enough is enough. We were recently ordered to appear in court but as usual he could not make it. He always find ways and reasons not to appear. This has gone on for years. The only thing he really knows about our son is his name. Althoug he was invited, he never attended any birthday parties. He never came to see him when he was sick with asthma. One year he was admitted to the hospital on Christmas Day. No phone calls, no nothing. He did not check on his son periodically like some fathers do. He did not even come to his middle school graduation and he did not show for his high school graduation in June 2010. Anytime something was going on with our son I would always let him know ahead of time but he never supported our son in anything. He acts like our son doesn't exist. And now since he has been hit with return of medical insurance premiums since 2001, he is questioning his paternity. You would think he would have taken action years ago if he was not sure the child was his. He just doesn't want to do nothing for this child. But his other children....oh he plays the doting father. STINKIN' BITCH!!! HE CAN KISS MY ASS!! We have another court date coming up shortly. Wonder what excuse he's gonna give them for not appearing in court this time. Currently,there is a warrant out for his arrest. Lovely! I hope they hold him until the court date. Otherwise he's gonna pull a no-show again. Rest for sure he has a fight on his hands. He is not gonna get off easy. Talk about dead beat dads, this man is TRIFLIN'!!

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Apr 05, 2011
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if you want to contact me
by: Bree

o and ifyou want to talk my email is brianawincek@yahoo.com

Apr 05, 2011
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i know what your going through
by: Bree

i understand what you are going through i have a daughter who is 1 and a half and she hasn't met her father at all.i just recently talked to him and only cuz my friend contacted him and he said he would give up his rights if i want him to then he said it seems like im keeping her from him then he said he wants split custody and he wants a paternity test done....like wtf he left the state a monthe before i was about to give birth to my daughter n has never bothered to contact me to see how she is doing or asked for a picture of her...i think he is only saying he wants split custody so he wont have to pay child support

Nov 27, 2010
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by: Rjamison331

I must say you have every right to be angry with this man, but taking him to court on something from eighteen years ago. You have already got your just do, your son graduated and is on his way to College. This is not going to make the situation any better, I'm asking you to give this thought for you are fighting something that never was. Its a lot of people going through this terrible system and being torn apart because of it, trust me hes regreting not being there.

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