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CAN ANY ONE HELP ME,GOING THRU:-(

by DEE GIVENS
(MADISON FLORIDA)

(NON-C.P),I PAY CHILD SUPPORT,WHILE I WAS IN THE MILIATARY(AFRICA)FOR 5YRS,MY KIDS MOTHER,(C.PARENT) WAS BACK IN THE STATES NEGLECTING MY KIDS.(DCF) CHILDREN SERVICES HAD REMOVED THE KIDS FROM THE HOME TWICE,BOTH TIMES BEING FOR NEGLECT AND HER HOUSE BEING VERY NASTY,AND MY KIDS GOING TO SCHOOLD DIRTY ETC....THE FIRST TIME THEY WERE REMOVED FOR 3WEEKS AND THE SECOND TIME THEY WERE REMOVED FOR ALMOST A MONTH,HOWEVER THE KIDS WERE GIVING BACK TO HER,SHE LATER WAS REPORTED AT THE SCHOOL BECAUSE MY SON COULD NOT RETURN TO SCHOOL BECAUSE OF SOME KIND OF NASTY SKIN RASH,SOME ONE ALSO CALLED THE POLICE ON HER AND REPORTED HER BECAUSE SHE HAD LEFT THE KIDS IN THE CAR BY THERE SELF IN THE STORE PARKING LOT WHILE SHE WENT IN THE STORE TO SHOP,MIGHT I REMIND YOU THAT THE HEAT INDEX WAS 102,THE KIDS AGES ARE 8,6,AND 3,THEY TALKED WITH HER AND LET HER WENT ON HER MARRY WAY.THERE HAVE BEEN SEVERAL TIMES WHEN I HAVE BEEN AT A STORE WITH MY NOW WIFE AND OUR KIDS DRESSED AND LOOKING NICE AND I SEE THE MOTHER OF MY KIDS WALK IN THE STORE ALL DOLLED UP HAIR DID NICE OUTFIT,HER BOYFRIEND DRESSED UP AND THEN MY KIDS WALK IN AND SEE ME AND RUN TO ME WITH DIRTY CLOTHES THAT ARE TO LITTLE AND THEY ARE ASHY NOISE NASTY HAIR NOT DID,I WAS SO HURT TO SEE THEM LOOKING LIKE THAT,AND ON TOP OF THAT I GOT PEOPLE COMING UP TO ME ON MY JOB TELLING ME THINGS ABOUT MY KIDS LIKE HOW THEY SAW THEM ALL DIRTY AND LOOKING THROWN AWAY,AND HOW THE KIDS ALWAYS BE LEFT AT HOME TO WATCH AFTER THEMSELVES.AND SHE WONT WORK SHE LIVE OFF CHILDSUPPORT,HUD AND FOODSTAMPS,SHE GOT IT MADE.SHE IS ONLY 24 THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH HER SHE JUST CONTINUES TO MANIPULATE THE SYSTEM.AND THEN ON TOP OF ALL THAT,WHEN INCOME TAX TIME COME AROUND SHE GETS A INCOME TAX.HOW YOU ASK? SHE SELLS THE KIDS,AND CHECK THIS OUT I GOT TO TAKE HER BACK TO COURT SO I CAN CLAIM MY KIDS ON MY INCOME TAX,NOPE I CAN'T EVEN CLAIM THEM ON MY INCOME TAX AND I TAKE CARE OF THEM,AND SHE DON'T EVEN HAVE A JOB,OTHER PEOPLE THAT DON'T EVEN TAKE CARE OF THEM CLAIM MY KIDS.NOW THE SYSTEM IS REALLY SCREWED UP.AND JUST RECENTLY I WENT OUT TO THE SCHOOL HOUSE TO CHECK ON MY KIDS TO SEE HOW THEY WAS DOING IN CLASS AS FAR AS GRADES AND THE TEACHER PULLS ME ASIDE(REMEMBER I LIKE TO LOOK GOOD WHEN I STEP OUT) AND THE TEACHER TELLS ME THAT MY SON HAS BEEN COMING TO SCHOOL DIRTY AND WITH TO LITTLE CLOTHES AND SHOES ON.SO WHEN I LEFT THE SCHOOL I CALLED THE 1-800 NUMBER AND REPORTED HER,THEY TOLD ME THERE WAS NOTHING THAT THEY COULD DO.JUST RECENTLY RETURNED FROM THE MILIATARY,SO NOW I AM SAVING UP MONEY FOR ME A GOOD LAWYER SO I CAN TAKE HER TO COURT AND GET CUSTODY OF MY KIDS,

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CAN ANY ONE HELP ME,GOING THRU:-(

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Just My 2 Cents
by: Anonymous

It sounds like your in-between a rock and hiding place, but there's hope in the mist of it all. The best part about it is, ur not talking about giving up on your children, obviously you care enough about them to want better for them & if your stable and can provide better, I can seriously understand your wanting custody and you should be granted. It's one thing to complain about ur children living environment & physical appearance, but its another to have the school putting in personal complaints & the community complaining.This child support/custody battle screams, "CHILD NEGLECT" all over it & it will take you to make your case scream child neglect to get the attention of the judge. Believe it or not, there's steps you can take right now and legal documents you can file with the proper legal supporting documents of course to request temporary emergency custody 4 your children.At least your children will know ur doing something & you will be better able to sleep at night, knowing ur making a difference and 1 step closer to freeing your children from this nightmare that they are enduring.

Once you cut off her assets such as child support foodstamps, you will see her get a dose of reality in her face directly served by the law. It's all about how you do things to get the law on your side. You have a clear case of child neglect, there's laws in place that support children that are being neglected and you have to use these laws to the fullest to support your claim, statement and your supporting documents.

Hello I'm a "Child Support Advocate for Father's" and I would like to enlighten you by informing you to keep hope and don't give up, instead of getting mad and even, get some determination and will-power to not take NO for an answer. In the judicial system, judges are looking for a certain format that supports your request to get "Temporary Emergency Custody" of your children. You have to really be able to bring your supporting documents in order to get the judge to move-in on your request and he can with the right supporting documents to support your claim or accusation. The judge has to rule out a act of retaliation or your desire to dismiss child support, so your evidence must not show this, but instead your evidence must show that you are looking out in the best interest of your children. I feel your case is winner able, but it all depends on what you do and how you do and the supporting legal documents you submit to the judge and your attitude towards the entire situation. Interested in knowing more about what's needed to help support your case, feel free to contact me at: get.a.chance.to.be.heard@gmail.com or you can download my eBook "A Father Black Book On Child Support", email me for details.

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To get started
by: Anonymous

I suggest that when you do fight for custody remember these 3 things.
#1 Hire a referred local family law attorney that is regularly in the particular court that will hear your case.
#2 Be very specific on what you want and get it all included the first time.
#3 Get every wittness and report you can get your hands on to help plead your case. Be prepared with everything when you go to see your attorney.
There are some attorneys that have free consultations but they usually cost a pretty penny. You are the boss-they are working for you-do your research and be exact.
Who gets the tax deductions? What are the specific visitation times? What are the specific things that will be cause enough to change support-(like unemployment?) When will support end? Who is responsible for medical care and medical expenses that are not covered by insurance? What about school expenses?
To often when people appear in court it is to fight over one or two specifics and the rest is forgotten until later resulting in furher court appearances and more attorny fees.
You need to research local divorce and child custody cases and see what judges have ruled and why, on what grounds?
It's not easy to do all this but it's for your own good and it sounds like your kids need you.

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DON'T PAY
by: Anonymous

TO: CAN ANY ONE HELP ME,--
DON'T PAY THIS POOR WHITE TRASH OF A WOMEN ONE DIME! DON'T PAY CHILD SUPPORT TO THIS WOMEN UNLESS YOU SUPPORT THE WAY YOUR CHILDEREN ARE BEING RAISED! A LAWYER WILL NOT HELP YOU! HE WILL TAKE YOUR MONEY! YOU HAVE NO RIGHTS! SORRY BUT IT'S TRUE!

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TO PERISH OR TO LIVE LIKE SLAVES
by: Anonymous

FRUSTRATED PAYER, CAN ANYONE HELP, You men are CRAZY for paying any child support at all! DON'T PAY ANY CHILD SUPPORT! IT'S BETTER TO PERISH THAN TO LIVE LIKE SLAVES!

YOU MAY HAVE TO FIGHT WHEN THERE IS NO CHANCE TO WIN, BECAUSE IT IS BETTER TO PERISH, THAN TO LIVE LIKE SLAVES!

UNFORTUNATELY IN AMERICA, BECAUSE OF CASE LAW YOU HAVE NO CONSTITUTIONAL RIGHTS. YOU HAVE NO FREEDOM, YOUR WHOLE LIVES FROM NOW ON IS SUBJECT TO A JUDGE! WOMEN RULE OVER YOU, THEY ARE YOUR MASTER! THEY WILL CRACK THE WHIP, THEY WILL STEP ON YOU!

I WOULDN'T PAY ONE DIME CHILD SUPPORT! I DON'T! ANYONE WHO TELLS YOU ANYTHING DIFFERENT IS DELUDED. ALL THESE LAWYERS WANT IS YOUR MONEY! IN THE LONG RUN THEY WON'T HELP YOU. BECAUSE YOUR LIVING LIKE SLAVES ON THE OLD PLANTATION!

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