Can You Federally Sue a Child Support Office?!

by M
(California)

I'm not one to sue but i'm tired of being lied to. Here's my story, and my frustration. I was married to someone who was not an American citizen but a European. He was educated and was hired as a consultant on projects here in the U.S.. When we met I had just come out of a long illness and surgeries, so he knew I had medical problems but I also had money. When my daughter was born he didn't want children and abuse started so I went out on my own. He cleared out my bank acccounts etc., and the house that I owned signed my name and sold. Got rid of my car and left me with the shirt on my back and pregnant. I brushed myself off and did what I had to do.


He wasn't a U.S. citizen so child support was based on no income at $150 a month. I knew he was making good money but I couldn't find proof at the time. My child was born autistic, I needed help so I moved near family. I never collected or asked about child support. After a number of years my money ran out and my medical and her we in the thousands. Doctor's said they would no longer allow me to work and would never give me clearance to work. But I found things to do in the home and we were fine. Then both she and I became really ill about four years ago. I had to go onto disability and AFDC for her for a couple of months.

I had also what states call "good cause" and no one did anything about child support. Then I was told that I had no choice he didn't live in the same state etc., the state of California was going to go after child support. When I got a lump sum from disability, the government took their cut for monies given to us during that time. Then we were on our own for awhile not needing help. But things got complicated with health and again I needed assistance. AFDC would not allow me to be in their work program even though I wrote a work plan etc., they said if I got complications it was on them. They went after my ex not only for the money that they gave me at that time but for 10 years of back child support. Come to find out he was working in the U.S. making great money, bought a house and was having fun traveling and doing his thing. He blamed me for them going after child support. They then did a modification and the order went to $2,500 a month.

After a year he quit that job. Did I see a penny, no states go after fathers, so that they get their money back. Children and mothers in most states never see a dime. Plus they can go after a father for half of any medical expenses if the child is not on SSI. What is strange is that a child can get SSI and 80% of the child support order on top of that. What happens is that these modifications are done without me being able to participate, or tell my side. The system is keeping us poor and sick. Now the state is putting pressure for my daughter to have special treatments, in home care etc., who will pay for that they will go after him. I think the system stinks. It breaks fathers and mothers. I was refused medical for my daughter because they said her father has insurance for her but they didn't know who the provider was. Four years, yes four years with visits to the Child Support agency and letter to the other state.

Then I got slapped with a letter saying that if I get any state aid only the state we reside in can contact the state in which the original order is drawn upon, because he's working there. But do I get the paper work, can they even find my letters and request to them or from the other state. Or the other state sends me letters to them which must be done by law, but it takes 7 days to get here and another 7 to 10 for the snail mail to reach me sometimes longer and then the letter is outdated and I have not given them the material they are asking for or I have one day. I was thinking if I nailed myself upon a cross outside the Child Support Office would I get their attention. I'd like to know what they are doing in "my name" for their benefit?! Parents beware it's in you best interest to work things out, and oh by the way you cannot close a case in another state if any party owe money. What a mess this system is can't a class action suit take place?

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Jul 30, 2012
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a joke, or no vasaline
by: Anonymous

So if i rob a bank and kill of couple of people i wont have to pay child support or take the harder road and appeal to my "babys mama"(who lives on planet swiss account) to get me out of the fudge receiving business. Wheres the help when it comes to fathers. So far i lost my license and paid college tuition twice to csu or cse or the state. the gov does what they want and leave you with no light to an end to the retarded maddness. I pay taxes and vote i dont steal and commit fraud or sell drugs across the border. mind you now my kids do not see me or i can not afford to go see them and the idiots on the other end just happy to get a check. I pray to GOD cause i will not be feelig sorry if those buildings get blow up. Just want fair service because it is a service i'm paying or.

Jul 16, 2012
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Texas is a load of crap
by: Tired

We live in Texas and the child support division here is a joke. My husband and I have been married for over 3 years and in that time they have pulled him into court every 3 months for each case (he has 2). I'm so tired of the bullshit. I have to take time off from work which btw I don't have pto or sick leave, and get our baby and 6 year old up at 5am tp drive over 2 hours away. Why you ask? Well, we have 1 car and every court date they tell him he's going to jail on the next one so we have to go. The legal system is so screwed up here it's not funny. They have him paying 16% on one case and 16% on the other, and it's suppose to be 16% total, but their loophole is that each mother resides in 2 separate counties so the judge doesn't catch it. We can't even afford a lawyer much less our bills.Between the both of us we work 100 hours per week, and still can't make ends meet. I would love to sue the Texas AG Child Support Division. Anyone else out there want to please email me at joyesmith1981@yahoo.com.

Jun 14, 2012
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Angery woman
by: Blessed

I know all too well the hardship imposed by child support,the sther of my infant son takes new york child support for a joke.qe pays twenty five dollars a month,come on Albany don't you think the law for support should be more strict,he should have a fulltime job and be splitting everything down the line. Twenty five dollars a month barely buys diapers for my son,so in my eyes your a deadbeat dad.

May 31, 2012
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VIRGINIA DCSE can burn in hell
by: FUCK VIRGINIA DCSE

I agree with "not a deadbeat" I have been dealing with the same thing and worse for the last 5 yrs. There has got to be a way to stop these corrupt agencies that are only in it for monetary gains. Sad to see fathers rights taken away because of gender. Deadbeats are one thing, but fathers that are more than willing to pay, they take advantage of and let the deadbeats run free. Some women may not agree with this but I believe a child is 50/50, not 100/0. I am now unemployed (laid off) but can still pay some, but they are still being charged $1,200/mo for one infant child, after being notified of unemployment AND multiple submissions of modification, leaving me thousands in debt, and they continue to ignore and try to pass my case onto another state, which neither I nor depepndants live in, and refuse to retroactively reduce my payments, not to mention when I was working they were overcharging me. oh and then there are the "arrears" that I paid for $14,000 owed that was apparently "gifted" to her because she didnt file as soon as he was born. I am done trying to talk with them and send in forms that they "cant find", So I suppose i'll be going to jail soon due to the states screw up. Are there any class action lawsuits or groups to fight these agencies and get fathers rights back and/or the money they owe to some of us?

May 22, 2012
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cHILD SUPPORT FREEZE MY BANK ACCOUNT
by: Anonymous

Do not put your money in a bank if you own child support.Child support put a freeze on my money and my money was in a credit union.I was current in child support but only old rears that I was disputing. Less than 3,000 in rears, but I was making child support payments and rears. I miss a court date and try to talk to my case worker to be put back on the docket.She told me I need to get a lawyer. I want to know is there any lawyers out there who want to take the case of suing the child support government.

May 14, 2012
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Agreed and have filed a suit
by: Art

Many who have posted here are moms. I feel bad for you guys, but I'm a dad who has received the other end of the illegal processes of state government. The reality to the above stated question is; if an arm of the government is outsourced or not acting within the confines of laws established by the state assembly it can be sued. I would like to file a class action suit against several state entities. Please contact me at this address. Suethestate@hotmail.com

Good luck

May 01, 2012
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Child Support systems is a joke..
by: Rachel Carter

I feel for you and most for your daughter..She did not ask to be here, and she's being neglected from her father and child support system..I am too in a situation, where I have been fighting for child support from day one..My child will be18 yrs old Friday..I recieved a letter from child support saying she will be emancipated because she is turning 18...How dare they let this clown walk scout free without paying his portion of the childs expenses..I believe we as WOMEN need to come together and create a forum or even a blog to try to cvhange the child support laws to help us get the support we need from these dead beat fathers...please feel free to let me know what we can do to better this system..blackasia7033@yahoo.com thank u

Aug 24, 2011
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WILL ANY LAYWER ANSER THESE
by: NOT A DEADBEAT

It is sad to realize that, so many people are being screwed by the child support sytem, reguardless of the state involved. I too want to sue a corrupt, illegal child support agency.
I have attempted numerous times, to at least have the agency pay attention to my case. I have based on my income, paid more than a fair, legally required amount of support, to a cheating ex spouse. I sent proof of income, copies of statements made by the agency, and even copies of their state laws, showing they were violating, their own supreme court. they sent me a notice saying sorry, you sent that to the wrong department, so continue to remain in the bent position. I am ready to hopefully based on my limited income, to attain the services of a law firm. I wish to make the Headlines of every newspaper in America, and all the T.V. stations, Oprah retired !!!!,. Darn it !!. Is there any law firm that wants the injustice for all to end... post a comment somewhere so we can settle this for all the victims of the system....

Jul 12, 2011
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dead beat dad for 23yrs and 5 kids later
by: tammi

i too would like to know if i can sue a child support office i have been fighting for child support for more then 23 years. dead beat in arrears, and still the sys allows his excuses, while he continues to make more babies. sad to say but he is not supporting any of his 5 children,1st child 1990, last child born 2011. five different women. why is sys in place if it is not helping anyone. from frederick md

Feb 10, 2011
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Flawed System..............
by: Frustrated Dad

The Child Support system is a joke...........I plan on suing because I was paying child support on calculations that were done incorrectly. Period. Child support services needs to start answering for some of their mistakes....Bunch of third graders playing with your money.

Oct 28, 2009
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I agree!
by: Anonymous

I feel for you sis and your situation. I hope all will workout for you and your child. May you ask God to work things out for you. I am fighting the sys too. I am paying 319.00 a month for my one child that I am paying child support on. But I am trying to fight the sys to tell them that I do not owe the 16,000.00 that they claim I owed. I do have proof that I have been paying child support all along when my rights were taken from me as a parent when this case first opened. Well thats my story, but I hope your so called ex-hubby be a man at least and pay his child support like I am. God bless you and good luck.

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