Change Is Coming for Custodial Parents

by Sylvia Fenstermacher
(Austin, TX)

I raised two kids, working two jobs for almost 10 years, 7 days a week. My kids are grown now, my ex became disabled and owed over $100,000 in child support when he passed away in 2007. Now I have a 3 year old grandson and his father is already behind by $8000. We all know what the AG's office has done about that and thousands of others, that's right NOTHING!!! I got lucky and landed a job in a lobby firm which I worked for almost 20 years.


It may be too late for me and my children, but not for my grandson or any other child out there. I am now self-employed (Legislative Data Services) working with lobbyists, legislators and political action committees on campaign finance, non profit filings, and sending out invitations for fundraisers; etc...however, I am in the process of using the tools I learned employed at the lobby firm. I have been meeting with legislators and will continue to do so during the interim to encourage another Sunset Review of the AG's Office.

According to their last report they did not meet all the recommendations or actions required under their last review. The AG's Office received $27,300,000 in appropriations this legislative session for child support enforcement, its time for them to stop making excuses and start doing their job. During the last session I testified on bills dealing with Net Resources, Earnings and Disposable Earnings. If you are a custodial parent and the non-custodial parent works in the restaurant/bar service industry I have big news for you, "tips" are included as garnishable wages.

I managed to get an AG's Opinion clarifiying this. Call the Texas AG's office and ask for a copy, ask for Louisa McGee, Kathy McMichael or Alicia Keys and get your child support. Or you can hire an attorney because Sec. 158.206 says the employer becomes liable to you if they fail to collect, it also awards attorney fees and court costs. The are also liable for a $200 fine per pay period for failure to collect which goes toward child support enforcement. Go to the AG's website and go to the employer section, they receive a booklet on this and still they fail to collect "tips". My grandsons case is going to the Domestion Relations Office in Travis County for enforcement and is no longer with the AG's office. They all know grandma is on her way. Check your county for an office like this if you are not getting anywhere with the AG's office. Contact your legislator about the Sunset Process.

As a child I used to play in the halls of the Capitol Building growing up in the State of Nebraska, I moved to Texas in 1986, when I was 26, now I am 48 and know I am in the right place at the right time. Change is long overdue.

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Single Stressed MOM Help.
by: Anonymous

I am a Single mother was in a relationship for 6yrs with my sons father. He has 2other children which were before me, he pays child support for both children.In our relationship he lied, and cheated for 6yrs during pregnancy and after. I was a fool to stay but now we have a 6month yr old son who is well taken care of. when i found out i was pregnant he wasnt that happy he asked my to go to the doctor to make sure, after birth he made the commit of he should have left me alone a long time ago and he wouldnt be in this.I have taken care of every thing with the love and support of my family.i paid for all of my doctors visit, medical bills, my sons doctors visits his medicine needed, diapers, milk, food,daycare which is $150 a week and i paid for him to be put on birth certificate bc he wasnt there he was doing a training in dallas He has given me a total of $190 from pregnancy to birth for my son.He and His parents always ask what do i need I let them know and his my mom would always bring up a price of what it is and would push WIC on my she wanted to take me to a Wic office in another city 2-3hrs away where her friend works to try and get me on isnt that illegal.I have been trying to work with him because i know he has 2others kids and his work situation from him telling me is not well but who knows he lies alot.I have not allowed him to take our Son to his house with out me.I feel like he is still to young i have not denied his or his parents rights to see our son see he lives with his parents still and I do as well we are 1yr apart im 27 but they come over once .he comes and spends 1hr and when i was going to let him.he didnt want me to drop him off, which i found suspicious, finally he tell me he was going to take him to galveston with out me knowing @3-4months I dont Trust him.He and His Mother have alot of say about how i am doing things.everything that comes from his mouth is my momma said his mother is use to being more in the 1st born life bc her son was young and the mother was too.Recently he wants to pick our son up bc he is off which ik its his mother that wants him But i feel if you cant take care of responsiblities he has nothing for my son no car seat no food no milk and always rely on me for everything.Then why should i say yes, you lie and the Grandmother doesnt follow my instructions.I told him they can come see him plus hes just getting over a cold they feel like if you can take him to daycare then we can get him.I dont want him to be over there till he is about 9-12months.Leave out of town without me till he is about 7-10yrs i feel thats fair he can understand things and old enough to tell if something wrong happened I dont know this is my first child and they(meaning him and his mother) have always had something to say from day 1.I just want to be able to enjoy my son without the stress headache and heartaches. I am so tired I work hard for my Son I love him So much.But i need Help Am I WRONG.what should i do

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Wow
by: Anonymous

This is great news! I'm not the type of parent that constantly hounds my ex and the attorney general about my child support that I've never seen, but it's really unfortunate that as a single mother I'm suppose to get $180. a month because he choose to have three more children( not me) and it still doesn't come.i think if more mothers focused more on the children instead of the all mighty dollar and constantly taking the non custodial parent back to court every time he got a .50 raise the office would be able to help mothers that don't get any support.I can't say all women are bad or evil, but I get nothing, not even the measly $180. Or any gov. assistance and guess what that's a mistake I made on choosing a horrible spouse and parent for my children.No it's not fair that men can leave and not care or even help financially help raise their children ,but unfortunately the laws aren't on our side so instead of complaining do something! Write your congressmen and get you voice heard. We can't change the world but don't complain if you do nothing or even vote.

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child support
by: Dorothy DEl

Well you are one of the few who do pay child support.I worked and raised 5 kids and never recieved a penny in child support even though it was court ordered. He was never made to pay anything even though he was in and out of jail he was never there for child support even though he owed over 200,000 dollars!!If you've never walked in the shoes of a struggling mother trying to feed and cloth her children while their sperm donor is out living the high life then don't comment!!! Its not an easy fun life!!

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CHANGE NEEDS TO BE DONE
by: Anonymous

Im a father of one child pay 300 cs and 200 medical. Barely have any money considering that i have to pay car insurance, rent, bills,food, and gasoline which just keep going up seems like i can't catch a brake. Ex-wife was the one who cheated yet im the one having to pay for her mistake? common for crying out loud we werent even divorced at the time and she already had a child with this guy their making twice as much money or maybe triple. Have nice new cars and in the other hand im force to take the bus and live at home with my parents again. And take in mind that im not a dead beat dad. ive been on my childs life since day one. An what ever little money i have left i spend it on my child:entertaiment, clothes, shoes, toys, etc...if my child is their im there to provide whatever i get.all im really asking for is some fairness.

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TO THE WOMAN HATING FATHER
by: Tammy

I am sorry you feel that all women are like that. I am sorry you feel that the only thing about BEING A FATHER is your money!!!!!! I am a woman, oviously and have my children, now remarried, and have another child with my husband. I do collect child support and will continue until I am paid in full of what I am owed! He has never as much even sent a birthday wish to my daughters. DEAD BEAT! Now my husband has two other children with a previous marriage. I made sure those child support payments were sent out every month on time everytime! I work and depend on NO MAN NO FATHER OR NO ONR ELSE for my support. Yes both my daughters I collect monies for are grown, and he is still paying the back owed, every penny is put into an account that pays for their college or partly anyway. I raised them, put them through school and all the extra they wanted growing up, now he's paying for part of their college. Don't go thinking every woman is like your ex. My husband paid child support for 14 yrs. I made sure of that. Also made sure our rights for visitation were met. We ended up with one of the children before it was over.

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Be Thankful you have custody of your kids!
by: Anonymous

Seems women with kids these days all sit around waiting to see how much money they'll screw out of the father. Ive been paying child support for 23 years and have 3 more to go before my sentence is over and I can feel what being "Free" agian is like for the first time in 26 years! Ive been sued over and over again, drug in and out of court more times than Al Capone, harassed, humiliated, had half my inhertince taken away, on and on and on. Had I been given custody I would just be thankful I have my kids and not sitting around waiting to see how much money my kids would get me! Get a job and feed your kids for God sake and quit waiting around like some bum / buzzard to see how money your going to get! This whole child support racket is unconstitutional to the point of absolute rediculous. Just a way for the governement to transfer wealth at the expense of innocent children! Sickening, plain and simple. Been an absolute nightmare for me being a father, the Feds sure know how to turn it into a living hell of fear! Its pathetic and will never change, the money machine will keep on running at the expense of children having thier fathers kicked out of their lives and then milked for every penny they have and threatened with prison if the dont pay the ransom, you call this a free country? Better think again. Ive lived it for 23 years and counting, its not! If your a young man in this world you better get a vasectomy as soon as you can or you'll find yourself being a slave to the mother of your children and the state you live in. They will stomp on every civil right you have and laugh at your plea for your constitional rights. You forfiet your constitutional rights the minute your child is born. That child IS NOT YOUR CHILD if you are a man, it belongs to the mother and the state in which it was born. Your on borrowed time, you piss off mom and she walks with your children, your home, half your savings and 30% of your payroll check for up to 21 years! Hows that for being a dad! ?

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poor laws for dads that pay but cant see their kids
by: felicia

i am recieving child support now and i didnt let my ex pick up our son because he only wanted him when it was convenient for his bar hopping girlfriend.so my lawyer told me not to let him have an visitation and i didnt,hes what you call a dead beat,he only pays child support because i had my lawyer take out of his checks .everytime i asked him before he always had an excuse,he was to busy spending the woney on cheap women(well they werent that cheap).well i got tired of it,now hes paying for it,he was behind so had his tax refund held which i will be recieving shorltly,and hes pissed now he said he wanted to buy a car with the money,boy they were spending the money and they didnt even have it yet,i knew for months i was gana get but had to act surprised when he told me.now because my son misses his father and needs a father figure im gana let him stay with him for the summer,this is his last chance.but people who are not allowed to see their children when they are paying for them shoul speak out protest there are other parents like you out there.get it started,SOMEBODY HAS TO DO IT!!!!man these kids need to stop being brain washed,they love their parents,this really does hurt the kids,they loose sleep,their grades go down,and they cry when your not looking.memories are of their childhood,speakout before their grown,go down in history as being the person who braught a new bill out,the person who changed the law,people stop being affraid,there are people out there that will help you.good luck to you all!!!

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WRITE COMPLAINTS TO AUSTIN
by: FELICIA

THE A.G IS TRYING TO SCREW WITH ME BECAUSE THEY HELD MY CHECKS WITHOUT TELLING ME I FOUND OUT IT WAS AGAINST THE LAW FOR THEM TO DO THAT WELL EVERYONE SEEMS TO BE GETTING SCREWED EITHER PAYING EVEN THOUGH THE KIDS ARE OVER EIGHTEEN OR PAYING MORE THAN YOU SHOULD,EVERYONE NEEDS TO STOP BEING SCARED OF THESE PEOPLE AND SPEAK OUT THE MORE WE DO THEY WILL STOP SCREWING US AROUND I WROTE A COMPLAINT TO AUSTIN AND TOLD THEM THEY MESSED WITH THE WRONG PERSON I TOLD THEM I WAS GOING TO SEE THAT I REACHED OUT TO OTHER PARENTS WHO THEY HAVE SCREWED WITH AND HAVE THEM WRITE COMPLAINTS ALSO.THE MORE PEOPLE THAT COMPLAINT I CAN ASSURE YOU THEY ARE GOING TO GET RID OF THE EMPLOYEES THAT ARE CAUSING ALL THE TROUBLE.PEOPLE DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT,YOU DONT THEN YOUR JUST GANA KEEP PAYING FOR THEIR MISTAKES.IM WAITING FOR THEM TO RESPOND TO ME I GO ON LINE I CALL AND IM GANA KEEP DOING THIS TILL I CANT ANYMORE AND IF YOU KNEW ME,YOU WOULD KNOW THAT AINT GANA HAPPEN.WRITE TO OFFICE OF THE ATTORNEY GENERAL CHILD SUPPORT DIVISION P.O BOX 12017AUSTIN TEXAS 78711 (512)460-6000.PASS IT ON.I AM LIVING IN CALIFORNIA NOW TWO MONTHS BUT IM MOVING BACK TO WHARTON BECAUSE I AM GOING TO BE CLOSE TO THE MISSOURI OFFICE.SO I CAN FIGHT THIS I AM NOT GANA LEAVE THIS ALONE BECAUSE IF I DO THEY WILL DO THIS TO SOMEONE ELSE THERE ARE A LOT.I REPEAT A LOT OF CROUCKED PEOPLE IN OFFICE,AND I HOPE THAT THEY GET MY ALL THE INFO THAT IM TRYING TO REVEAL THEIR CRIMES AND HOPE THAT THEY TRY TO SUE ME BECAUSE ILL GO BACK AND SUE THEM. GUARINTEE I WILL HAVE MORE PEOPLE ON MY SIDE.AND I KNOW THEY DONT WANA GO PUBLIC ABOUT ALL THESE COMPLAINTS WRITE AND DATE ALL INFO KEEP FOR YOUR RECORDS,WHEN YOU CALL THEM TELL THEM THAT THE COMVERSATION YA ARE HAVING IS BEING RECORDED LIKE THEY DO I DI THAT TO THEM.THEY THINK EVERYONES STUPID,AS LONG AS WE ALL TALK AND EXCHANGE OUR INFO WE CAN ALL FIGURE THESE THINGS OUT,JUST WAIT TILL I GET BACK TO TEXAS,THEY ARE GANA WISH THEY DIDNT SCREW WITH MY CASE,BECAUSE I GOT A BIG MOUTH AND KNOW A LOT OF PEOPLE IN HIGH N LOW PLACES,JUSTICE IS GOING DOWN.PLEASE DO NOT BE AFFRAID TO SPEAK OUT KEEP HARRASING THEM ON THE PHONE YOU HAVE EVERY RIGHT YOU ARE PAYING SUPPORT YOU ARE AN AMERICAN YOU BET YOU GOT THE RIGHT

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because of those dead beats everyone has to pay
by: felicia

i realy feel for all you out there that are getting screwed around by the a.g.i am getting child support but the a.g in missouri city tryed to screw me.they held my checks for almost two months and told me they were lost.i found out they had them all the time they told me they were still going to take out of my ex husbands check any ways,so i would of never got the two monthes checks and my ex would of payed twice spread it around to everyone that the a.g may be keeping the money to make up for the mistake they made or pocketing it themselves.i am now making complaints to austin and i am not going to drop ot they messed with the wrong person i am going to get compinsated and an appology from them and if it takes 20 years i am going to get justice

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problems with the a.g
by: felicia

i have been having trouble with the a.g also.i didnt get my checks for a while and callled the a.g.office,they told me they were probally lost or my ex didnt pay.they said i needed to find out where they were,after looking i found out by going on line and digging they had them the whole time.they gave every excuse and would not release them.they never notified me they wrer going to hold then at any time.well after argueing with them and threating,i told them i had found out by one of their employees,by law they cannot hold a child support check,boy they were shocked.i told them i wanted compisation for all the trouble and for making my bank account overdrawn.they had a fake person call me pretending he was representing the a.g after i yelled at him he messed up and i found out he was a fake he was just trying to get me to drop the case and he told me it was a computer mistake,thats bull because they told me they put a hold on them themselves,i wrote austin about this and they are stalling also,but i bet you i will get compisated and go public.im glad someone like is on line so that we can find out info.on these dihonest people.if you want to contact me feel free,felicia 916-544-1868

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i feel for the dads and moms who do pay
by: felicia

ive been seperated for two years now and i have had the worst time trying to collect from my soon to be ex.before i threw him out he had my car repoed and was behind paying the house,i ended up loosing both and moving 3 hours away from my grandkids,the whole time i kept asking him to give us money to help pay the bills,he made every excuse why he couldnt.he was going to bars and paying for cheap women,that was more important than his son.he never buys him b-day or christmas gifts,and always has an excuse for it.im now getting c.s and hes telling everyone hes broke because of me.i had the a.g hold his tax refunds now and he keeps calling me to see if i can loan him some money,guess what my answer is?hes very behind now does not worry about hi son,but i bet you the day my son makes it big and rich his father will want to spend time with then,i told him one day a real man is going to take his place and be a good father to him.its a shame a man will take care of a sluts child rather than his own,thats ok cuz im strict with my son and i push him to graduate and do something in life,i made both our daughters graduate by my self and ill do the same for him.all those parents that do for their kids u r awsom,love them and spend time with them,because they do hurt,they just dont say anything because they dont wana hurt either parent,but i did have to do a lot of the work myself on getting back child support,my lawyer and the a.g take their time and dont care.they witheld my checks for a couple of months and did not tell me anything about it,i just found out its against the law for them to hold any checks and i am fighting for compinsation from them.i threatened them about going public about their mistakes,i will too.pass it on if you know any one whos having trouble.write a letter to austin,i did.if you need the #call me 916-544-1868.the more people who speak out the better.my husbands girlfriends really dont like me now.

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What about the rest of us
by: Anonymous

I undrestand that child support laws were written to protect mother and child from a non-responsible, dead beat s.o.b. But what about those of us who have paid since day one of the split, not just since the divorce was signed, but day one of you leaving the house with no intention of returning to your ex. Lawyers call the money you gave her then a 'gift' not child support and you start the life after divorce in the hole having extra monies deducted untill that gap is paid. If for any reason fellas, do not lose your job. Even if you get a new job right away and theres no delay in paychecks, there will be a delay child support red tape. You'll find yourself being behind again in no time. Not to mention the lack of insurance you now have untill your new jobs waiting period is satisfied. You are responsible for health care in lack of insurance. If thats not bad enough I hope you didn't get a new job that paid less, you can't get your support changed to match to save your life. They go off her need as well as your income during the review period. A great lawyer might ease some of the burden of what I was going through, but if I could afford one... plus I'm not trying to deny my child or her out of anything, really, but do I have to work 2 jobs and overtime just to make it easier on her, what about her getting a second job, and I can start seeing my son more regularly than 'whenever daddys not working'. Again, I undrstand why, but what about the guy who falls in the cracks and gats nailed over and again by the hammer of the government when he's actually doing his part.

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I dont get it
by: Step DAD (Father)

I have a daughter from a previous wife, I have paid CS since the day I left she had it increased and I have no issues with it at all. My current wife has 2 beautiful girls I love dearly and wouldnt trade for anything! Her Ex on the other hand is a typical dead beat in my book from the day we met he was paying 400 a month for both girls on a 32,000 a year salary granted she agreed to it. We went back to court this last year as circumstances changed where he didnt have them every other day according to the previous decree, (his mom had them in reality)and she is a whole different story.So we asked him to sign the paper work we had drawn up stating they had joint custody but she was the primary and he paid the same support, we would claim the taxes and nothing else to be changed he fought us over it so we hired an attorney 4K later we had the modification and his cp increased by 100 dollars a month and he carrys insurance which I have carried since 2006!And hes behind on medical and CP over 2k.
6 Months later he still does not have insurance and is not reimbursing us half the premium as before not to mention has filled for a modification because he quit his 30k plus a year job and took a lower paying one because he and his girlfriend had a baby and want to save daycare expenses! I would say it was a great effort accept they flat out told us they were looking for ways to decrease the child support they pay us his girlfriend checked into filling for child support on him for the new baby just so my wife and I would get less child support. I cant believe some of the things people do to avoid responsability to there children. Honestly we could survive without his child support but it is the principal of it all I was raised in a split family my father paid support religiously he was self employeed and could have done shady things to decrease or avoid it but he had true character. So bottom line is dead beats keep one thing in mind your messing with the quality of life of your children the money you dont think you need to pay might be what keeps them from being a cheerleader or playing in sports might even leave them with some jacked up teeth. these are your children they deserve your financial support!

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I applaud all the fathers that pay their cs
by: Jacqueline

I applaud all the fathers and mothers who pay their cs. I don't understand how some of these women get over so well on the system. I was overpaid and got in trouble now I have a record and it is hard for me to find a descent job to care for my children. This recession has almost killed my spirits and it hurts my soul that I cant find a job to support my children since their dad wont. I have gone back to school to get my degree and pray that I can get a job with that. I live in a small town with narrowed minded people, they only look at what the papers says about me. So what do I do, yes I do empathize with the dads but I too have a serious problem. All I can say is pray and be thankful that you can pay and take care of your children. Your children will come to you in the end because you are GREAT PARENTS, and when they are older and will see it that the problems were not all your fault.
God Bless you for being the GREAT PARENTS that you are.

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bust dead beat moms
by: Anonymous

My husband and I both work. We can't hardly pay our bills, but the AG is going to make sure his skanky ex gets her money. His ex and her husband dont work because they know how to work the system, they bring in $3600.00 a month. Thats more than we do working full time jobs. We have a hard time just getting visitation, but she can make 1 phone call and we have to go back to court to give her more money. The kids look like crap when we do see them so obviously that money is not going to them. Also, why don't people getting cs have to prove where the money is going, claim it as income, or take a freaking drug test. We do to make it for them...our system is totally screwed up!

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fair child support
by: Anonymous

so why does a disabled person get 100,000 in back child support? because they didn't lower it to a level he could pay. so tired of the bitchy women who think they are owed something because there hurt so they use there children as pawns!

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Step mother of 2
by: Anonymous

I agree with every bit of what all the dads and stepmoms said!!!!!!!
Do something Texas!!! You said CHANGE then CHANGE it!!

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Self employed
by: Anonymous

My ex husband is supposed to be paying me child support in the amount of 1100,.00 for two of our children. The oldest lives with him.
In our agreement I allowed him to stay in our house until the youngest graduated in exchange for my child support for the oldest. Now he has allowed the house to fall into total disrepair, abandoned it and owes me more than 6000.00 in back child support and (lol) has decided to go to the AG for me to pay him support for our oldest. Due to the fact that he is self employed I am unable to have his wages garnished and I am struggling desperately to pay just the day to day cost of raising my sons. I call the AG's office on a regular basis and the only thing that has been done so far is a freeze on his accounts. I have seen none of the money from that and the AG's office will tell me nothing of the next step except that it is in the enforcement process. I am so frustrated. At this rate I will have to move into my mothers small house to be able to live and my sons will contitnue to "enjoy" time with thier father who seems to have the money for laser tag, roller skating, new video games, etc>!
What other recourse is available to me?

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change needs to come on both side not just one
by: Erick

how about the dad's there are paying child support but the mom is not working and on medicade and other goverment help. I am going to school with 4.0 gpa and work for the future of my son, do everthing possible. and she does nothing but leach off hard working women like yourself fighting for the moms that are making a effort. you are right the laws should get tough on dead beat dads but also on dead beat moms. holding them liable because at the end of the day we are fighting for the childern and not for benifit of gain.

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What Change... only for the mothers of the children...
by: Anonymous

I got divorced in 2004 and had been paying my ex's house note, auto insurance and had my 2kids on medical, dental and vision insurance... we were seperated for 2 yrs and my ex tried to get me for back pay and luckily i had a good lawyer and good judge to tell her no that i had paid my part and more but i didnt get credit for.. i ended up paying 967.11 a month for 2 kids and i already had another... i had another child in 2006 and continued to pay the same amount making less a month i just had my 3rd child and i went to the AOG office but because my ex didnt agree to the lower child support of 737 at that time nothing was done.. but if i would have gone up then the AOG would have gone after me... i finally had to borrow money to hire a lawyer and take her to court... i was making less than 3k a month paying 967.11 with 3 kids already... tell me how is that fair? plus paying 180.55 in insurance... then to top it off when we went to the court hearing i didnt get no retroactive child support.. so she walked away with 1250 that i overpaid... but if i would have owed her 1250 they would have quickly took me for that... i think the AOG of houston are idiots who just manipulate and screw over hard working dads that bust their butt to make a decent living... so tell me what change? and to top it off she hid my kids from denied me visitation and when i would call to report her nothing was done... i have the reports but what.... so im paying and not having rights to see my kids and what does the AOG do... not a thing... just sits back and keeps screwing hard working dads....

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CS System sucks
by: Anonymous

I'm a excellent father who has two children with two different women however one does not live with their mom, the child lives with my mother due to my job, I do pay support to her and the CS did not give me any credit for taking care of him and now I'm paying double of what I'm suppose to be paying. To top that off I don't have any rights to my child! Talk about injustice!

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Change isn't coming...It's a facade!
by: Non-existant species

AMEN anonomous! My fiance hasn't seen his kids in 2 years! She continually moves and doesn't give him a forwarding address or numbers! The difference is that he owes back child support for the failure of FSR. He started receiving checks from Ohio that were in his name.We'd been praying that since the economy was so bad that we'd get a break. Most of his paychecks went to child support, so when he got the checks he presumed they were overpayment.NOW FSR is saying he owes that money to his ex because she never received the money! Here's the catch (and of course they won't admit they're at fault)...it is a child support law that the non-custodial parent CANNOT receive out-of-state checks from FSR and that they are bound by the law to send the checks to FSR where non-custodial parent resides.My question is this- if they (FSR) made the legal mistake, then why is he in jail and FSR not being held accountable for their failure to obey their own laws?! AND when did the money you send become more important than the relationship between a father and his kids? I'm angry as HE** that they want the money then lock men up so that they CANNOT PAY! This is why when someone asks me my political views I respond by saying,"Can I get another choice or vote for None of the Above!" Our leaders don't hear us because they have good jobs and we are just statistics!

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I agree with any other tips!
by: Stepmother of 3

Yes I believe in the IDEA of child support fully. When it is USED FOR THE CHILD!!!! So what is the state of Texas & the AG going to do as far as with the responsiblitys of the CUSTODIAL PARENT? Mojority of Custodial Parents that I know from MY HOME STATE OF NEBRASKA work their butt off and get a small amont of child support like 150-250 a month, while in the GREAT F**KING STATE OF TEXAS my husband payes 1500 a month in child support to the mother and grand parents of his 3 children, while the mother of his oldest son collects CS, food stamps,SSI for her other son by another man, the state of TEXAS also pays for her van,& insurance. She claims she can't work because of her disabled son BS he goes to school 8hrs a day for 10 months a yr, then during the summer my sister in law takes care of him. All the child support system in the state of Texas does is REWARD UNEMPLOYED CUSTODIAL PARENTS, while the NON CUSTODIAL PARENT BUST THEIR BUTT TO PAY CS, and might see there children 1-2 weeks out of a year... that is how many days my husband and I have seen the kids so far in the year 2009. After CS, insurance, taxes and our utility bills we maybe see $75 a week, that doesn't even put gas in our vehicles. We even took the oldest son to the denist after his mother let him sit with an abseted tooth for a month, she said she couldn't afford it! BS the child is insured and you recevie 841 dollers a month in child support. We ended up paying what insurance didn't cover $160 and she said she didn't have 80 to pay her half. SO MY QUESTION IS WHEN IS THE STATE OF TEXAS AND THE ANTI MEN AG GOING TO STOP LETTING WOMEN LIKE THIS SCREW THE SYSTEM????????

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Do you have any other tips?
by: Anonymous

Do you have any tips for fathers that pay child support but don't get visitation with their children? I personally think the child support system is wrong for all those involved and certainly the child. If I had children I wouldn't ever go through child support because they do more harm than good. For instance they reward women for their bad behavior by allowing them to quit their jobs, collect food stamps, assisted housing, and child support. All the while if the man quits his job he has his license suspended, he goes to jail, and his credit is in ruins, he gets behind in child support and they tax interest onto that. And the worst part is the child looses that much needed relationship with his/her father. Are you doing anything to revise these laws? I don't think a woman should receive child support if she is unwilling to allow visitation. I don't think she should receive child support if she doesn't have a job - unless she was a housewife. I don't think lazy, vindictive behavior should be rewarded. Have you thought about these things? How are you trying to change them?

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