Change is coming!

by T R Caggiano
(Florida, USA)

In Florida many laws have changed concerning the whole custody debate. For starters, the parents are not in charge, but rather the kids. Let me explain. Before the mom would get the kids and the dad would receive the bill, now it is not what the parents want in time and funds, but the kids who dictate where they are going and for how long.


In Florida they do not use the word, "Visitation," but rather Time-sharing and a parenting plan has to be filled out between the two parents. The notion that two people get a divorce and use the children for ransom is gone. Now 50/50 with no child support; one week with dad and he pays the bills for that week and one week with mom and she covers the bills for that week. There are special provisions and the health insurance thing needs to get worked out. No longer all the other stuff that just waste the courts time and hurts the children in the long run.

So you ask about school, well dad or mom might have to drive the kids to school and pick them up if the bus does not drive to there side of town, but that's not a deciding factor. The kids are not divorcing their parents so why do they have to act like they are. The old system of child visitation and support makes the children divorce various members of their family and that is not fair to them. The kids are loving everyone and probably do not understand why dad or mom is moving out, so why should they suffer more than they ought to? Flexibility and understanding that the time is the kids not the parents helps to put into perspective. It is the kids time, what do they want to do with it?

Don't forget the cousins and grandparents either, they are all part of the family and every is going to be involved. On the Seminole county clerk of court Website there is a parenting plan
(http://www.flcourts18.org/PDF/Family/Parenting_Plan_Seminole.pdf) and other info, I think that anyone getting a divorce should take a look at this revolutionary way to help with the children involved with the parents divorce. I believe if you go into court not worried about yourself and mention the kids desires to the judge, you might get along a whole lot better.

Children are not ransom or bargaining tools, they are people with feelings and they love you very much. Don't treat them as a way to get even or back at the other. For those with spouses who wont let the other see or talk to the children, Florida also has changed that. It is a 3rd degree felony: interference with custody. The one holding the kids away from the other has to prove a very good reason to hold back contact from the children and the other parent.

Sometimes it will be necessary, but if it actually needed to protect the kids, the parent holding the kids has 10 days to make a police report about it. If the report is then bogus or made up, as the judge finds it to be a bunch of garbage, contempt and perjury charges will be awarded. Remember it is not the kids fault of why two adults can't get along, so why are they being punished. I hope to tell you more, for I am battling again, with the same person, but this time I am glad the rules have changed for the better, with the kids being in charge!

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DIRECTOR SHOOTING DOCUMENTARY
by: Anonymous

I have to disagree completely with your comment on "no excuse for anyone to fall behind in child support". We do not live in a perfect world we are in midst of bad economy and we have men and women that are Judges. So look at their education some of the most corrupt colleges they come from not to mention their own lives corrupt. Their are some bad people in our society and unfortunately there are some Judges too and many. Now if you could guarantee a system where the child support is COMPLETELY calculated based on their income and not guessing or putting out there unrealistic numbers then I will say no excuse to fall behind in child support. To this day this child support system has never had a complete overhaul and child support and the CPS system both needs it dearly.

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DIRECTOR SHOOTING DOCUMENTARY
by: Anonymous

I agree with these guys totally. I am a non custodial parent who has been order to pay child support even though I was against the pregnancy because I was not in the position to care for the child financially nor was the mother. Though I pleaded with her and explained how the decision to have this baby would disrupt our lives in ways we could not imagine. The mother and I were never in a committed relationship and did not have the means or maturity to take on this responsibility, nonetheless she had the baby anyway. Ever since my life has been a living hell no peace what so ever. What I've learned about the child support system is that there is no excuse that you could give for falling behind on payments, the inability to find work is no excuse, the state wants the money. SO FELAS ITS OUR TURN TO TELL THE SYSTEM WHERE TO STICK IT. I AM PRESENTLY FILMING A DOCUMENTARY ON THE CURRENT CHILD SUPPORT SYSTEM AND HOW IT DESTROYS LIVES. ANYONE INTERESTED IN TELLING THEIR STORY SUBMIT A REQUEST TO BE INTERVIEW FOR THE FILM TO EMAIL: VEGASHUNTER@HOTMAIL.COM PLEASE NOTE CHILD SUPPORT MOVIE IN SUBJECT. THANKS LOOK FORWARD TO HEARING FROM YOU SOON.

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child support reply
by: Anonymous

Well first have you left her. If not then there is no way that child support in this case is legal. Even the dumbest of Judges would tell you that. But you need to see if you can get legal aid lawyer. You cannot just let her live on this.

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Child support paid but not divorced and living together
by: Anonymous

My wife filed for child support and we were still married, living together and did not intend on getting divorced or separated. I left for a couple weeks when i was served with the order for child support. She asked me to come back so I moved back in and now she refuses to drop child support. I pay all the bills and still pay child support.The support goes into her sole bank account. Im drowing in debt and I have not a clue what she does with the "child support" money.(hair, nails, waxing) How is this legal for her to do?

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change is coming response
by: Anonymous

The problem with this is that one parent may have and in my case corrupted the child into believing one way or another like seeing one parent hate the other and their family. The only way to fix that situation is time with the other parent and that family. Simple visitation not enough time to fix that problem. In a perfect world sure it would work. What happens is one parent involves the child in the case while the other abides by the court not to talk to the child over what time is spent with the other parent. This is why Guardian et litems need to go away and involve the child psychologist when needed to find out the real answers.

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