Child Support doesn't Work for Everyone

by Annie Flowers
(Colorado Springs, CO)

I was divorced in South Carolina and was awarded $250 for Child Support for three children. Because I was in the military I had to move to Colorado. Two years passed and I didn't receive child support from my children's father as per the divorce decree. I went to the local Social Service office in Colorado, who contacted the South Carolina Social Service office. A year later I recieved my first child support check of $20 for three children. My checks fluctuated every two weeks from $1 - $20. I received these checks for a couple of years, then they stopped because my children's father was terminated from his job and he moved. I was fortunate to have had a career in the military and was able to raise my children with the help of God and my family. I felt like I was punished for having a job and able to provide for my children and my ex-husband was not pressured in anyway to ensure he took care of his monetary obligation to his children. My oldest child at the time of our divorce was 10 and my youngerst was 6. My yougest will be 18 this summer and I received a letter in the mail from the Social Service office in South Carolina that notified me that my husbands obligation would be terminated once my youngest turn 18, unless I returned the letter to obtain back child support. What a joke.

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Jul 12, 2011
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You are Right it doesn't work for everyone!
by: Discouraged

I too have had this same issue difference is we were not married. However the facts are the same. I have 3 children was only awarded $396 a month, mainly because I had a pretty good paying job, never mind the fact i had rent, car note car insurace, day care expenses. my kids at that time were 3,2, and 1. well i had to relocate to Indiana, so i was unemployed, in the meantime he quits (or got fired) and I have not recieved any child support in almost 2 years. I recieved a letter from child support emforcement stating that his wages will be garnished if he files his taxes. he hasn't since we were together so thats a joke. and he has a bench warrant for his arrest for non payment, however now he lives in Georgia. They suspended his license but he drives for a trucking company in Ga. making pretty good money may i add, so theres no help that way. What is left to do? When we were in contact, I begged him to help me out. to no avail ofcourse, and although i am working now i am not makin nearly what I was making before, and i can't track him down! again what else can i do? when i call child support enforcement, i end up with the worker that is overwhelmed with paperwork but more than that could care less about my issues. I am doing my own investigating to find him, but it gets weary. and i don't really know if that would work either

Jun 16, 2011
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tch, tch, tch
by: Anonymous

Poor things... what percentile you are.

Jun 16, 2011
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I feel for u all....
by: Anonymous

sorry to hear about u alls troubles with the child support system in those states....i guess i should thank my lucky stars the state of New Jersey were great services. I longer live in NJ and moved back to NM, which the a big joke. OMG, i feel for these people who are trying to get child support here. All i can say is pray, pray and goodluck. NJ family courts was wonderful to me and a BIG, HUGE thanks to the GREAT individuals who just happened to receive my paperwork. I thank u God a million times everything worked out for me!!

Apr 17, 2011
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I Agree!
by: Anonymous

My 2 children are now 27 and 21, and the child support battle has been ongoing for almost 20 years, only this year I learned I am now paying child support to him (he has not spent more than 1 solid year with them in the past 17 years). I thought I was paying back the state for welfare, which he received under fraudulent pretenses when he picked them up for a summer visit. He just received a very "large" lump sum of my tax refund and is receiving payments from my paycheck every 2 weeks. I'm still trying to figure out why I am paying child support to someone who has "never" been there for their children. I have a child support case against him with a $40,000-plus debt, and I basically only get that money when he works. Yeah, no justice here either.

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