I fathered a child at the age of 19 with his mom 18 at the time. She had child support in Alabama taken immediately with the help of her mom and attorney. She was then married for a number of years and recently divorced her husband. While married she actually stated that the child support she received was a blessing given her and her husbands income. It is now 10years later from original support petition...she is now divorced and wants more money. I am married and have two children/wife/and stepchild that I am responsible for. I love my son (11 yrs old) but feel I am getting hammered by his moms decisions in life. Again she only has 1 child and is going to get 20 % of my entire family's income which is a large chunk. To top it I would gladly take my son under our roof and do not feel it would cost me 750 month to care for him...This is not right can any one help?? Please.
I'm a proud father of a 12yr old girl from Alabama, and I was denied my standard visitations on numerous occasions. From changing my weekend to just telling me no you can,t have her. Summer visits for 6wks, what a joke, I got a wk at a time until I moved to Virginia, after surgery in 2003. My moving didn't help at all even though I called and wrote as much as possible, and made 3 trips a year to Alabama. I just got custody of my daughter in April 2008, when I got DHS involved in discipline at her mothers house. What really pisses me off is getting her to sign the papers would only be done if the papers read " no visitations, no child support, but this does not mean she relinquishes her rights... What a crock I had to pay child support in Alabama for 12yrs, along with medical, and back support, I bought school clothes, I did all the traveling to and from, and she is willing to just let her daughter go without visits or calls,only to avoid Child Support" The justice system is screwed up, as a father if you miss a few payments or change jobs she can do what she wants with your standard visits and can get OCSE to take you to court at anytime. But as a man we are screwed where is our help, who has our back when things aren't followed even though its court ordered. I think the whole OCSE system and the courts need a restructuring so everyone is treated equal, just because you have breast doesn't mean you should get away with vindictive, or just plain old spiteful actions!!!!!!!!!!!!! Rookie.
First off I was only married 3 months and I adopted my ex's daughter. We got married 1 month before my son was born and lasted 2 months after. She got in to smoking meth. I tried to stop it but got put to the side. I've gone threw a few jobs in the meantime and did get behind, but only by about 1500. I have had a good job for a while now and am about to become an asst manager. Anyways they set it up so I can only see the ids at her house 8 hours one day and 10 another. I live 2 and half hours away so when I come up she is gone and never will answer my calls. But now we are at a new stage. Child services just took the ids from her. They found cocaine in my sons system. He is only 4. At first no one even called me to let me know. When I finally caught wind the case worker says that I cant get the kids and that she is trying to reunite them back with my ex.... why????? I have no felonies any charges of any kind. She was doing cocaine with my son around. Why should she be able to get them before me?
FOR THE FATHERS THAT ARE DOING THE RIGHT THING I APPULADE YOU, HOWEVER THAT IS NOT MY CASE. INSTEAD MY DAUTGHTER HAS A FATHER HOW HASN'T BEEN THERE FROM THE BEGINNING. INSTEAD HER MOM HAS MY DAUGHTER CALLING HER GOD FATHER DADDY JUST BECAUSE HE DOES FOR HER. MAN, HER FIRST CHRISTMAS WAS A TEXT MESSAGE TO HER MOTHER. I DIDN'T EVEN COME AND PICK THEM UP FROM THE HOSPITAL, NOT TO MENTION I LEFT HER MOTHER FOR A OLDER WOMAN TO TAKE CARE OF ME. LOL. I ALWAYS PLACED THE BLAME ON HER AS IF IT WAS HER FAULT I WASN'T HERE. WE EVEN SET UP VISITATIONS THAT FELL THROUGH BECAUSE I WANTED TO PLEASE THE PERSON WHO WAS GOING TO BE MY WIFE. I HAVEN'T EVEN BROUGHT MY DAUGHTER A PACK OF DIAPERS, BUT I HELPED MY NEW WIFE TAKE CARE OF HER THREE CHILDREN THAT WERE NOT MINE. NOW I AM TAKING MY DAUGHTERS MOTHER TO COURT BECASUE AFTER WE HAD AN AFFAIR AND SHE REALIZED I WAS THE SAME ABUSIVE PERSON WHO DIDN'T CARE WHO I HURTED I CANT STAND HER. I REFUSED TO PAY CHILD SUPPORT AND I ENJOY MAKING HER LIFE HELL. I AM FIGHING HER FOR SOLE CUSTODY BUT I REFUSE TO PARTICIPATE AND ATTEND ANY EVENTS MY DAUGHTER HAS BECAUSE I DON'T WANT TO SATISFY HER NEEDS. I WONT GO TO THE HOUSE AND PICK UP MY CHILD, HELL I WONT EVEN WASH HER DIRTY UNDERPANTS. NAW MAN IM MAKING HER GO TO THE POLICE STATION AND PICK HER UP. MAN IF MY BABY MOMA WOULD HAVE JUST LET ME HIT IT WHEN EVER I WANTED IT AND NEVER FLIPPED TO SCRIPT I WOULDNT GO THROUGH THIS. JUST TO GIVE HER THE ILLUSION THAT I ACTUALLY WANT TO BE THERE.