Child support laws are abused and dont work

by Fred
(Corpus christi)

I have been divorced to a woman who didnt work when we were married, nor does she work now after 7 years of being divorced. I was married to her for 9 1/2 years. I worked 2 jobs to support her, her son and my son. My x wife never pushed for child support from her privous relationship father of her son. We made it ok finacially. I got the house, cars, ect.. that she wanted. 1 week before christmas, she left me for another man. I couldnt believe she did this to me and I asked her why, she claimed that i didnt give her enough attention.


So I asked her why she couldnt work. Needless to say we divorced but she claimed that I was abusive. Since she wiped out 2 bank accounts, I had no money for anything. I found an attorney who accepted payments and finally got a divorce. After our divorce, she applied for welfare in which she got housing, food stamps, everything that my hard working taxes pay for.

How does our legal system provide and help women who cheat. I was relieved that supporting a woman who didnt know how to work, clean or cook. Now after 7 years, i have a very hard time trying to see my son. Phone numbers always get disconnected. My x wife claims that her boyfriends are sometimes upset that i come to pick up my son, in which one of them came out to fight me while i was in my car.

I defended myself but the cops never arrest her for not allowing me to see my son. I can almost bet that she has filled my son's head with all kinds of negative ideas. I have a good job, and i have never missed a child support payment. I also buy his clothes for school and whatever he needs thru out the year.

His mother on the other had, just enjoys the free ride on the welfare system not doing anything but showing my son how to be ghetto. My son isnt doing good in school, gets into fights and gets into trouble. My brother has a child that attends the same high school. So where does the attorney general do for the children. I tell you the attorney general is a joke.

They are not there for the best interest of the child, but to prove that men dont have hearts and take away while women are having more and more kids on the welfare system. I even offered to keep paying child suppport but to let me have my son so he can have a better life. I got a flat NO. Of course that would lower the food stamps and income she gets free.

WE need these lazy organizations who claim they are for the children to stop leeching off our taxes and these welfare people do and take a real look at how these children are being used as items for free housing, food, living and income taxes. I love my son and if ever the Attorney General would look into childrens welfare rather than discrimating against men, then i might just have a chance to turn my sons life around.

I havent seen my son in over 4 months. No one there when i go over, no phone, ect.. So if me The FAther does not get to see their son due to neglect from the mom, do i get some reimbursment from child support? I bet the answer is NO, However I can lose my income tax, drivers licence, freeze on back accounts, ect.. if i dont play by the rules. The entire system is a joke!

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THE LAWS ARE ABUSED!
by: Anonymous

I have seen and lived both sides of this. I am married I have 2 kids and my husband has 2 kids. I just recently took my ex-husband back to raise child support becuase he paid 200.00 less a month for the past 5 years than he should have. All because he told me that he would buy school clothes and pay for all the extras that came along through out the year. but it turned out that I ended up doing a majority of all those extras...school clothes, activities, etc. We also support my husbands kids. He pays his child support every month never missed a payment and has too carry health insurance on them...even though she gets to keep them on medicaid. She gets a welfare check and foos stamps every month. She has not worked in over 3 years, and refuses to work because they will cut her benefits. So my husband gets slamed by the state for his ex-wife being a laxy dead beat welfare tax cheating &#^&@.
I have no choice but to do what i have to do to make ny ex-husband pay is part. So i totally get where most of you all are coming from. I think that the system has gone bad and they need to revamp it just like our government needs to be revamped.

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13th amendment
by: Anonymous

Does the 13th amendment make forced Child support illegal?
The simple answer is no. Child support is a legal obligation, not a debt. A child support order establishes that legal obligation. Therefore, when found in contempt of court for failure to pay child support, if jail time is sentenced, it is in response for failure to follow court orders.

Hey Dad, if you are not able to visit with your children due to actions of the mother, file for contempt of court. The police will not get involved in a civil matter. Do the research. It is up to you to stand up for your rights.

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Child Support
by: Anonymous

I do believe that perhaps the creators of child support laws did have good intentions, however I don't understand how child support can be charged against the parent who is taking care of the children. I have been taking care of my children and they have been in my custody, however, my now ex wife filed for child support and has been approved! How will I support my family if I have to send her X amount of money a month and the children aren't even with her?

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Back Child Support
by: Anonymous

My husband & I lived together years ago & he ended up having an affair and got drunk & married in Oklahoma even though he and I were common law married in Texas. He dumped her after a couple of weeks but she was pregnant & claimed the child was his. He & I ended up back together after about five years but he is now paying $400.00 per month in back child support and has been paying now for 14 or so years. The back child support started out at $22000.00 and after 14 years of paying the $400.00 a month, the amount he still owes is about $38000.00. All because of the percent the state puts on the back child support. It was 12% for years and then about 6 years ago, he went to court & they lowered it to 6%. Now, we are almost certain the child is not his but we are stuck anyway. I wonder, if her marriage to my husband was even valid because we were common law married in Texas at the time she & he married in Oklahoma. Isn't that bigamy? Anyway, I am sure it doesn't make a diff.

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What about the children
by: Anonymous

Most of the comments I've heard have been from people who have been forced to pay child support. my heart goes out to the ones who's spouse left the marriage and chose not to stick it out. Trust me, I can relate, but the comments don't seem to reflect that the money is still to raise your children. Yes, I understand that there are lousy parents that don't spend that money for their benefit, but unfortunately there are also lousy parents who unless forced to pay would not support their children. Even good parents don't think they have to pay as much because the feelings of their spouse get in the way. The system isn't perfect but without it people would not do the right thing. I wish more effort would go into saving the marriage than people fighting over money to spend on the kids who didn't ask for any of this. I just want my children to be okay. I wish that I could beleive that my husband would do the right thing without the assistance of the courts, but if he doesn't my children will be the ones to pay and that isn't acceptable!

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The System is shattered...
by: Anonymous

I believe the creation of child support was probably done with good intentions, but just like anything else it needs to be revamped and corrected and not at the state level! The worst thing of all is how the state makes 6% interest if a person is in arrears! Free money for the state! When the kid turns 18, and wants to go to college I bet that 6% would help!

The best interest of the child is GREAT...in theory because we all want the best for our children, but if a person is behind or can't pay, is sending them to jail really in the best interest of the kid??? I believe a person would much rather have the opportunity to have a relationship with a child versus being behind bars not being able to see the child, and if they could see the child who wants to do that from a jail! That would do more damage to a child psychologically and cost society in the long run! but I guess it's OH WELL as far as the AG is concerned.

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Does the 13th amendment make forced Child support illegal?
by: Anonymous

The United States Constitution
Amendment 13 - Slavery Abolished. Ratified 12/6/1865.

Section 1. Neither slavery nor involuntary servitude, except as a punishment for crime whereof the party shall have been duly convicted, shall exist within the United States, or any place subject to their jurisdiction.

Section 2. Congress shall have power to enforce this article by appropriate legislation

Definition:"Involuntary servitude" is a United States legal and constitutional term for a person laboring against that person's will to benefit another, under some form of coercion other than the worker's financial needs

Fact:Child support is for something "other than the worker's financial needs."

Definition:Coercion is the practice of forcing another party to behave in an involuntary manner (whether through action or inaction) by use of Threats, intimidation or some other form of pressure or force

Fact:Failure to pay Child support will result in the threat and action of loss of Drivers License and incarceration if not paid after being court ordered.

Summary: Forced Child support forces someone to work for something "other than their own financial needs" under threat of loss of Liberty.

If someone has an argument OTHER than "moral obligation to the child" to show where this is in fact NOT unconstitutional please enlighten me.

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Divorce and the father..why he's just a checkbook!
by: Anonymous

i COMPLETELY agree with other posters. My wife and i divorced after 15 years, because she "DIDN'T WANT TO BE MARRIED ANYMORE" That's it! So because she didn,'t want to be married anymore, she filed for divorce. The great state of Texas really looked after her. I have NO PROBLEM doing my part..i have never missed a child support payment for our two children. They have never wanted for anything. My ex-wife got to keep the beautiful home we built, the new car we had just bought her...basically had NO CHANGES at all to her life. What did I get? Well, i got to move into a one bedroom apt, that i could barely afford after paying her $1000 a month child support. The debt that we had, i got to assume that also..throwing me into a financial turmoil. Well, the first month right after i moved out, the mortgage payments began being late...for 27 consecutive months and counting...DESTROYING my credit. My FICO score went from a high 700 to a 577 at last check. I cant get financed for anything. When we got divorced, i looked the judge in the eye and asked him directly, "There were 2 parents that made this family..there were 2 parents that built our home..there were 2 parents that had a nice lifestyle..why is only 1 parent taken care of after a divorce and the other basically discarded?" He replied that the laws were put in place to be fair to both parties. I looked him right in the eye and asked, "Does this seem fair to you?" After all this, i wish the State of Texas would implement a law..that both parties HAVE to go to marriage classes and know the laws..that they both understand the responsibilities of marriage and the REPERCUSSIONS of divorce for the non-custodial parent..which is almost always the father. I would BET that the amount of failed marriegs and divorces would drastically fall. Because, you just never know when your wife will decide "she doesnt want to be married anymore", and your life will be thrown into HELL!

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My heart goes out to the good fathers..
by: Anonymous

Hello,

I am a mother of two beautiful kids. I'm not on welfare or housing or anything of that sort. I have a good job.. I offered to my kids father that instead of putting him on child support if he would just help with school clothing and supplies and assist when ever I needed it. He barely did anything. So finally I decided to quit begging him for help and put him on child support. Well you know if it wasn't taking from his check, I highly doubt he would do anything. But every year around income tax season, here he comes thinking he has reserved the right to carry the kids since they have garnished his check for child support. Of course he hasn't been to visit nor offered to assist in any form or fashion. However, he feels he EARNED the right to claim him since he paid child support.. and he doesn't want the money for leisure.. Oh no, he wants the tax refund to clear a debt owed to the IRS so they will stop garnishing his wages for something HE did with his NEW WIFE and Children. Are you kidding me!!!!


I do agree that AG does not work for the better father and I also agree there are too many women taking advantage of the system.

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so true
by: Anonymous

it doesnt make sence at all. i dont know what to say or where to go. BUT the glory of when the child turns 18 and the support and state assistance end will be the day i fall to my knees with happiness. That day will come. it wont come fast enouph but when its here you get to enoy watching her fall!

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