After 7 years I finally got served papers for child support and got to request a DNA test. He is mine 99.9 %wow! Several court dates and thousands of dollars later, I can't tell the difference except for the 335.00 per month and medical bills. I was ordered to carry him on my insurance that I do, but she won't use it and I am expected to pay 1/2 of everything on her insurance. I don't get to see him for more than a couple of hours at a time, because she took him to a psyche doctor who wrote a statement saying it wasn't best at this time since he didn't know me. I am not a bad guy; I have a wife and a 5 year old, work everyday and have never been in trouble. How bad can it be? He says he can't spend the night or his weekend because he is scared he will miss time with his mom, he is 12 years old, when will he be ready.
It's true guys, we're ALL deadbeat dads because the system, no matter what state or child support agreement you honor, will make you so. My example is I have been divorced just over 5 years and I voluntarily set my child support up as a garnishment because I honestly did not want to be reminded every month that I was paying support to someone for children I was denied visitation with. My pay checks have been garnished without fail for over five years and when trying to buy a car recently and being turned down over and over and finally told by my companies credit union of 5 years they would not do business with someone who would not even honor they're debt for child support. I was floored and joined an identity theft organization and pulled my credit only to find the Dept. of Child Support had reported me in excess of 2000.00 delinquents. Conversations with this moronic entity reveals it doesn't matter if the court or a Dad sets up a garnishment the Father is still responsible for payment and therefore penalties...they just confiscated my 600.00 tax stimulus check. I continue, two months now, to spend countless hours, faxes, emails, phone calls to correct my name, credit and protect myself from pending punishments like drivers license suspension, further garnishments, and possible incarceration all due to the system and the fact my ex failed to notify anyone she remarried and moved to another state for the sole purpose of letting the "system" wrongfully determine me delinquent. Suck it up Dads.... you ARE a Deadbeat no matter what you do.
It was N.C. Government Jim Hunt in the 80"s who started the ''dead beat Daddy'' thing. THANK YOU GOV. HUNT. So, you see all Dads are mostly known as such. Especially, if you don't just go along with the system and stick your tail between your legs and keep your mouth shut. I really felt like such when I called the Catawba county court house to complain about the continued visitation violation. Going on now since 2005. The clerk told me to call my attorney. I have no money to get one with because of my child support, I told her. I ask her if she had a form that I could fill out to that her to court. She said there is none. If the courts dealt with visitation violations, like the dead beat dad thing, fathers like myself could have a life after divorce with our children. But instead, the state wants to give all of the father's money to the x, in the name of the children, and the fathers just have to go away. Everyone wins. Attorney's laugh all the way to the bank. The x wins because she has all of the fathers money. The courts win because they will not have to spend tax money on helping the fathers. Now the fathers have their newly acquired 2nd class citizenship... And the best interest of the children that you always hear about if you're a father... WE CONTINUE TO BE AT THE BACK OF THE LINE. IT'S ALL OUR FAULT. If I had any idea I was going to be treated this way I would never have gone to Vietnam. You know, life is unfair. Just look around you! But there is no reason why the law of the land can't be. Us men have been divided and separated.