Child support laws in Texas are completely biased against men

by AMC
(Houston, TX, US)

My husband is continually getting ripped off by the state of Texas. We are both hardworking employees who work full time and live pay check to pay check to make ends meet. Instead of the state calculating a regular 40 hour week, which is more reasonable, they calculate all earnings made even if it varies. So if my husband works 10 hours overtime each week for a few months and then all of a sudden gets no overtime, they still take out what he made for overtime. They also include any bonuses as well. So one year my husband may get a $1800 bonus and the next year no bonus.

The state of Texas only does reviews every 3 years, unless their is a major change in income. If you have a change in income, you have to collect about 6 months of paychecks to get the child support reduced. His Ex works part time, is on Medicaid and collects food stamps. She is continually trying to rip us off. She went behind our backs and took my step son off our PPO Blue Cross insurance that we were already paying for and put him on Medicaid. So my husband was paying and extra $50 for Medicaid a month, plus paying for him to be on our PPO insurance, plus paying child support.

She also went to try and get more money and my husband wasn't aware of her intentions. He thought the only issue was about insurance and he did what the state of Texas asked him to do-fax to them that he was on our PPO insurance to get him off Medicaid. Since my husband was not at the meeting that his ex requested, they automatically increased his child support by $50.00 a month, saying that he probably was making 2-3 percent more now. They increased his child support even though the 3 years was not up yet. Why, because his ex is greedy and money hungry. In reality he is making less because they are going off of last years W2 form which had about $5000 of overtime on. He was already paying more than he should be paying for what he is making now, plus it just increased $50 more a month. Now my husband is barely getting any overtime and we are struggling to make ends meet each week and the state doesn't care becasue they are going off what he made last year when he was getting all of the overtime, plus increasing it 2-3 percent!

The funny thing is that his ex is so greedy about money she just went back in last week to try and get more money, saying she thought he was making more money now so she should be getting more too. And they just raised his child support 3 months ago off incorrect information!!!! She doesnt' care about her son, only about getting as much money as she can. She has frauded the state twice and now she is doing the same thing to my husband. She never sees her son, alwasy leaves him with family. We recently found out she is leaving her son at her apartment for 4 hours each day and he is only 9!!! We reported it and the state doesn't care. They said that until something happens they can't do anything about it. Well hello, when something happens it will be too late!!! Wake up! She has 3 children by 3 different men and she doesn't have custody of either girls. For one of the girls she can only see her for 2 hours and has to be supervised by another adult. Something sounds fishy there, yet the state still seems to think that he is better with his mother.

A few years ago, she was willing to give us her son until she found out that she was not going to be getting any child support. She changed her mind very quickly! That is very sad. I know not all women are like her, but from what I see a lot only care about money and not the well being of the child. I understand that men need to help support their children, but the whole idea is the mothers using the money for the benefit of the child(food, insurance, school, clothes, etc.). Not themselves which happens more than we think.
I hope the state of Texas reads these stories and tries to make things better. I don't think the state realizes how these inconsistencies are hurting the families of dad's who are paying for child support. The only thing I ask is they look at both sides and be fair. Things should be 50-50 and with the laws in Texas it is not even close.

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Texas laws make all father's deadbeats!
by: Anonymous

TEXAS LAWS ARE COMPLETLY UNFAIRE!
My husband had a child with the girl in high school who everyone slept with! Fast foward to present: Were married two great boys and his daughters mother, has five children all have diffrent fathers. Well she lives out of the county and well according to what i've heard about that the person who moves out of the county has to bring the child all the way to other parents home. Well this has not been the case, my husband pays child support, insurance, flights and on top of all that the mother of his daughter uses drugs, works at IHop and never buys this child clothes or anything for that matter. I'm trying to go to school and be a nurse he works his ass off. It seems that we can never get ahead! This girl is a completly unfit mother but yet the state does nothing! We also have to but his daughter a full woredrobe of clothes in the summer and then she comes in the winter for holidays without clothes again! We dont even spend half the money he spends on his daughter on our two bys togethere. I feel my boys get cheated! While this chick is collecting child support from 4 diffrent guys, food stamps from the state working at Ihop. While were trying to survive and raise our boys ina normal inviorment! I'm tired of all this women living off other peoples money! Instead of puting on there big girl pants and doing what they need to do for there kids! But yet the state looks at the father as a deadbeat! Dont they see that women like this girl are just having children to collect on them? I'm so sick of the system!

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BOTH SIDES PART 2
by: Anonymous

Now I am 30 and I have a wonderful man that I am going to spend the rest of my life with. He is a father of 2, 1 for sure...iffy on the 2nd. The boys live in Louisiana and the mother is always on the move, changing phone numbers and addresses. His never changing. YET the state 6 months ago increased his payments, based on 1 good year at his job. 1 year. He now makes a quarter less than the year they are basing his payments off of. he cannot go back to court for 2 1/2 more years. WHY is this system so messed up??? They do nothing to the men/women who cheat the system, blatantly doing so, and make it unbearable for the ones who work and do the very best they can. I am seriously baffled. I grew up with what society calls a "dead beat dad"and now I am seeing it from the other side. NOT at all condoning or understanding of my fathers actions, just saying. Is there really nothing he can do? It is disheartening. I have no children of my own, I want one, but we live pay check to pay check and cannot afford to have a child. He is paying over a 1/4 of what he makes a month. Totally in acceptance that life is not fair; there needs to be some reform to this system. Perhaps a case by case basis, no this across the board percentage, automatic child support calculating BS. But an in depth look at what is really going on on both sides. There are many mothers/fathers (custodial parents) MILKING this system. The amount of money they spend on jailing and imprisoning parents who don't pay could be used for this, or even educating the payees. SOMETHING, ANYTHING but this. Please.

To those of you who took the time to read this:
Thank you very much and God Bless you and yours.

tiffanyrowan21@gmail.com just in case there is a solution, answers, help.. will you email me.

Again, Thank You

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BOTH SIDES PART 1
by: TMR

My parents divorced when I was 10, my dad paid child support for 1 year for my sister and I. After that the money was occasional. My mother filed with the AG and nothing ever happened because my dad and his new wife created a company, she was the owner and he the employee. What he reported in earnings was less than 1000 a year. YES this is true. We struggled badly, my mother was is mourning and had no job experience. they were married for 32 years. I am now 30, 2 years ago my mom and dad finally settled in court for the back child support he owed which was a lot, my dad was a very successful business man and so the original 1000 a month stood for all those years. they settled Oct.of '09 to be exact. He owed her sooo much money she settled for the interest. My parents were in there 40's when I was born, by '09 my mom was on her 3rd year battling lung cancer. the following month my siblings and I, there are 7 of us, found out my step-mom divorced my dad, taking everything he had, because over the years he put everything in her name so my mom could get nothing. Not like my mom had the means to do anything anyway, but that's what they did. So, my dad having nowhere to go and he lost his job because he worked for a van line company and the max age is 72, he called 1 of my sisters needing a place to go. My mom agreed that he could come stay at the house, yes the one they shared many years before. In '05 they began speaking to each other again, almost 14 years later, after my nephew died. So, he came to live at my moms house, she passed away about 5 months later and he is still living in her house, helping us take care of it. I am grateful that he was home and he is there for all of us NOW. There were many years that most of us had no contact with him. Most important lesson learned: KARMA is a bitch!!. PLEASE READ THE OTHER HALF.


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Child Support in Texas
by: Anonymous

Texas is Texas for you. I'm from Texas born and raised there until I moved up here to Washington. I had an open case there and they closed it because my kids & I moved up here since my husband got orders- they said they can't do anything about it, but the lady i spoke with here in Washington said since the kids were born there that Texas should do something about it. But, that's not happening- they aren't making him do anything. I'm so upset, that I have to start from scratch!

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both have a child
by: Anonymous

I have an X living in tx and Im living in Pa and we both have one child, What do you think is going to happen? I had to pay her 40 dollars a week up here in Pa. Now she is going to use Tx laws to get money from me..

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you are so right
by: Anonymous

The state of texas really stinks they really mess with the men we have the same thing happening to us be happy at is only a few years left for you .my husband it is for life because he is disable and she get s.s. and child support and and puts with providers all day does not even takes care of him she has a lottery for life .i know how you feel the state sucks for men.very unfair it takes 2 so why is it unfair for just the men.

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YOU ARE SO RIGHT!!
by: Anonymous

I HAVE TO AGREE WITH YOU.LAWS IN TX ARE BIASED AGAINST MEN.MY HUSBAND JUST GOT 6 MONTHS IN JAIL AND 2000 FINE BECAUSE HIS EX TOLD THE JUDGE SHE WANTED HIM INCARCERATED IF HE DID NOT HAVE 2000 TO GIVE HER THAT DAY IN COURT. THEY HAVE 2 CHILDREN TOGETHER, A BOY 13 AND A GIRL 11. SHE KICKS THE BOY OUT OF THE HOUSE WITH ALL HIS CLOTHES ON A REGULAR BASIS. WE GO PICK HIM UP AND HE STAYS WITH US. THEN SHE WILL CALL AND SAY "YOU BETTER BRING MY BOY BACK OR IM GONNA CALL THE POLICE." THIS POOR CHILD IS SUFFERING EMOTIONALLY. HE HAS BEHAVIOR PROBLEMS AND I THINK IT IS DUE TO HIS HOME LIFE WITH HIS MOM. SHE LIES TO THE CHILDREN ABOUT THEIR DAD AND AT LEAST 3 OR 4 MONTHS OUT OF THE YEAR SHE SENDS MY HUSBAND TO JAIL. WHAT CAN WE DO? HES MAKING HIS PAYMENTS BUT HE'S STARTING TO FEEL LIKE NO MATTER WHAT HE DOES IT ISNT ENOUGH.

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