Child support laws in Texas are completely biased against men
(Houston, TX, US)
My husband is continually getting ripped off by the state of Texas. We are both hardworking employees who work full time and live pay check to pay check to make ends meet. Instead of the state calculating a regular 40 hour week, which is more reasonable, they calculate all earnings made even if it varies. So if my husband works 10 hours overtime each week for a few months and then all of a sudden gets no overtime, they still take out what he made for overtime. They also include any bonuses as well. So one year my husband may get a $1800 bonus and the next year no bonus.
The state of Texas only does reviews every 3 years, unless their is a major change in income. If you have a change in income, you have to collect about 6 months of paychecks to get the child support reduced. His Ex works part time, is on Medicaid and collects food stamps. She is continually trying to rip us off. She went behind our backs and took my step son off our PPO Blue Cross insurance that we were already paying for and put him on Medicaid. So my husband was paying and extra $50 for Medicaid a month, plus paying for him to be on our PPO insurance, plus paying child support.
She also went to try and get more money and my husband wasn't aware of her intentions. He thought the only issue was about insurance and he did what the state of Texas asked him to do-fax to them that he was on our PPO insurance to get him off Medicaid. Since my husband was not at the meeting that his ex requested, they automatically increased his child support by $50.00 a month, saying that he probably was making 2-3 percent more now. They increased his child support even though the 3 years was not up yet. Why, because his ex is greedy and money hungry. In reality he is making less because they are going off of last years W2 form which had about $5000 of overtime on. He was already paying more than he should be paying for what he is making now, plus it just increased $50 more a month. Now my husband is barely getting any overtime and we are struggling to make ends meet each week and the state doesn't care becasue they are going off what he made last year when he was getting all of the overtime, plus increasing it 2-3 percent!
The funny thing is that his ex is so greedy about money she just went back in last week to try and get more money, saying she thought he was making more money now so she should be getting more too. And they just raised his child support 3 months ago off incorrect information!!!! She doesnt' care about her son, only about getting as much money as she can. She has frauded the state twice and now she is doing the same thing to my husband. She never sees her son, alwasy leaves him with family. We recently found out she is leaving her son at her apartment for 4 hours each day and he is only 9!!! We reported it and the state doesn't care. They said that until something happens they can't do anything about it. Well hello, when something happens it will be too late!!! Wake up! She has 3 children by 3 different men and she doesn't have custody of either girls. For one of the girls she can only see her for 2 hours and has to be supervised by another adult. Something sounds fishy there, yet the state still seems to think that he is better with his mother.
A few years ago, she was willing to give us her son until she found out that she was not going to be getting any child support. She changed her mind very quickly! That is very sad. I know not all women are like her, but from what I see a lot only care about money and not the well being of the child. I understand that men need to help support their children, but the whole idea is the mothers using the money for the benefit of the child(food, insurance, school, clothes, etc.). Not themselves which happens more than we think.
I hope the state of Texas reads these stories and tries to make things better. I don't think the state realizes how these inconsistencies are hurting the families of dad's who are paying for child support. The only thing I ask is they look at both sides and be fair. Things should be 50-50 and with the laws in Texas it is not even close.