Child Support laws need a SERIOUS review!

My husband pays support on two different cases (for two children who have different mothers). He is involved in the life of one of them, but chose not to be involved with the other due to the lack of relationship with the mother and the fact that she broadcasted to everyone that all she wanted to do was have a baby and didn't need to be in a relationship with the father. So out of carelessness and stupidity, she ended up getting pregnant. THIS is the one we have problems with. We have paid the county over 9,000.00, most of it in one lump sum because they levied our bank account and took it, leaving us and the children we have together with absolutely NOTHING. All of our savings, all of the money that was to support the children in our home was gone.


Within the past 2 years or so (the child in the case is about 2 by now) since they took the money from our account, payments have been made and yet they keep saying he is still behind on support and on what he owes to the state. It's interesting how medical costs from the pregnancy and confinement 2 years ago, still have yet to be paid. They take extra money out of his check that supposedly goes towards what is owed from the past 2 years and not one of the amounts have budged! On top of that, they take tax returns every year! Which in turn means that, NO, there shouldn't still be back owed support and there shouldn't be anything that is still owed to the state! But they keep piling on the costs and fees and what they say is owed which in turn means that my husband sooner or later could have a bench warrant out and be put in jail all because he can't keep up with the counties bull****!

And all for a child that he is not and does not want to be involved with? I think child support laws take advantage of the non-custodial parent (usually the father), all it is is a meal ticket. There are some women, like the one in this case, who wait and wait for the weekly check because they "need" it, but yet they have a live-in boyfriend or husband who works and pays the bills and at the same time they collect assistance from the state.

Meanwhile, my husband has to pay back the state because this mother and new father to the child are all on welfare when they don't need to be because they're perfectly capable of supporting themselves. And yes, I support my husband in his decision not to be involved in the child's life. I was a single mother myself for over 6 years and decided that I was not going to force my child's father to take care of her. If he didn't want to, that was fine with me.

I supported her on my own until I got remarried. I wish I knew a way to go about trying to get things changed when it comes to support. My whole outlook on the situation is, a woman can have a baby and leave it at a hospital without any explanation ... she can give her baby up for adoption, give everyone a sob story about how she's not able to take care of it, and she gets PRAISED for giving another family a chance to adopt the baby?! For one, if a father doesn't have the right to give up custody of a child and is FORCED by the state to pay and pay and pay, then a mother shouldn't have the right to give up custody of a child either.

Women can give their children away all day and get away scott free with no responsibility to pay support to a family that adopts their child. Yes, it takes two to make a baby ... there's that old saying. But it's ultimately the woman's decision on whether or not she has the baby. If a woman is not with the father when she is pregnant and when she has the baby, that was her decision to do it on her own ... so take care of it on your own. Instead, they go after the man for everything he has and DOESN'T have for that matter, and they make him pay in any way they can whether it be money, jail time, taking away licenses, etc.

What about his decision in all of it? He wasn't asked if he wanted the baby or not. But because the woman wanted the baby, he is forced into it ... had SHE have not wanted the baby, SHE wouldn't have been forced into taking care of it. Women, even men, who collect child support should have to be reviewed every so often. They review a case and make sure that the man is paying their support, they review it to see if they need show cause, or to see if they need to put out a bench warrant ... why do they not review it and make sure the mother is putting that money towards the child. Review it and see if the mother even needs the money.

Half the time, the non-custodial parent needs the money more than the custodial parent! Especially when you're on state assistance, it does not take that much to take care of a child ... single mothers end up getting everything paid for by the state. They can't take into account that the parent has to pay rent or mortgage, or that they need gas in their car or they have to make a car payment ............ they would need to do that whether they had the child or not! So a lot of single mothers/single fathers get medical paid for by medicaid and get free food through the state some even get cash assistance ... that really doesn't leave much left to when it comes to taking care of a child ... extra money to clothe them. Oh, the child support pays that so the custodial parent doesn't have to worry about forking over any money for that either. I just think there is a lot more responsibility being put on the non-custodial parent because all in all most people look down on the non-custodial parent and treat them like they're a deadbeat .............. it's ridiculous

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Not all Dads are Dead Beats!!
by: Anonymous

Starting with my worthless Dad who truly was & is a true Dead Beat,there are alot of poor excuses of men & (women)out there who dare call them selves "Parents"...Every situation is different I have 4 sons who mean the world to me "2 baby mama's 1 good & 1 evil one" I work my ASS OFF TO SUPPORT THEM THE BEST THAT i CAN BUT YET IT SEEMS IMPERIAL COUNTY Dept of Child Support expects me to not feed them,cloth them,entertain them & so on....They are my kids I love them & want nuthin but the best for them. I am 100% all about supporting them "that's what parents are supposed to do right" well i gotta bust my ass doing shit jobs because I am Not able to get a respectable job because I owe total $30,000 in back pay,even though I have always had 50% of my wages garnished "go figure" Child Support needs a complete make over cause its not fair to me or my kids!!

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Sum women r da deadbeat
by: Greensboro, NC wife n Mom

In reality da person receivin child support is really da deadbeat bcuz dey r dependn on sumone elses money 2 raise da child nstead of @ least tryn 2 do it on their own. A real parent would try dey best witout dependn on a child support check. Half da time sum of ds women put men on child support 2 get dey hair n nails dne n get dem a new putfit 2 where 2 da club. Sum put men on child support bcuz da man moved on n he happy wit sumbody else so whether he cums out his pocket or nt dey still gne want more money. I thnk da child support system is so screwd up. Sum of ds women jus dnt want a man 2 have anythng. Im a woman myself n my husband has otha children plus 1 by me. Wen he calls 2 hear frm his children da Bm always brngs me up n da convo sayn where yo b**** @ like I have anythng 2 do wit dey situation so she want let him c his children cuz he wit me n we have a child 2getha so she lies n says she moved 2 anotha state bt yet its funny hw we ends up runnin n2 her several times a wk. Ds laws need 2 b reviewd really badly

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Fair solution
by: Anonymous

Its very simple to be fair. Joint custody and no support ordered for either party. The courts have turned Fathers into weekend parents under the assumption that women are better parents than men. Take money out of the equation you eliminate 90 percent of the problem. the child gets to spend equal time with both parents and fathers arent treated as criminals.

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What this father should do?
by: Looking Justice

A mother doesn't want to care a biological son and through away only keeping him max 48 hours. start take him from Friday and Saturday morning start making harassment calls saying come and pick your fucking son, because I am sick and tired of him and still collecting the money from child support do nothing. I feel really bad for my friend he is a really good father he take too much abusive from that woman quietly for love of his son! Why law doesn't exist to against supposed a mother?

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FATHERS RIGHTS ABUSED IN ALABAMA
by: Anonymous

I agree 100% with you. My husband had 3 children, by 2 previous wives. We have none together. The first wife kept him in court. He lived with his mother, his sister and friends, until he could get his own home. His mother passed away and left him a modest amount, and that is the only reason he could put a down payment down. He was in the hospital & got behind on his payments, due to not being able to work. His lungs collapsed.(this was prior to our relationship). She took him to court for being 3 months behind. My husband explained to the judge what happened, The judge told him "Get a second job and pay this woman". My husband could not afford the electric bill, they turned his electricity off(in the winter). He could not afford food. His mother, sister & brothers use to drop off bags of food on his porch, while he was at work. This is a very proud man, a very honourable man. He has paid child support on all these children, and he doesnt even think any of them are his. He does without, so they will have what they need. When I married him, he was a broken man, in every way possible.I paid his home & car off. Two out of the three are grown. They do not call him on Fathers day or any holiday, nor do they buy any gifts for him. They are extremely disrespectful to him. In June my husband will be telling his oldest daughter that he no longer wants a relationship with her. That may sound selfish, but she has made it quite clear, that she has no use for this man, except when she wants money from him. Mothers can & do make a big difference in their childrens lives. When they bad-mouth the father, then there will be many problems that follow. The laws need to be addressed. Humans should not have live the way my husband had to.

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greed
by: Anonymous

it seems as the x was pushing to gain more assets she gives 0 about the kids. they hurt the worst. i never thouht my x would do that...but she really got greedy...still is. it is sad that lawyers have the strategy laid on how bad you can burn every penny, max cards with credit protection. ya know if money is more important than hurting your kids, that parent is in deep trouble. lawyers breed greed, along with x in-laws.

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yep
by: Anonymous

it is ugly that's all women want is more money. i never thouht she would be a bloodsuking stranger after 22years. she expects me to pay her. mn. leaves so little for the man. it should be 50
50

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your my hero
by: Anonymous

i hear you loud and clear. My husband is neither lazy or a deadbeat.but a victim of a man hating club. He met and married who thought was a good person. But SHOCKER after the second child was born she suddenly remembered that she was a lesbian. He has been paying child support for 20 years yet never even gets a call on his b day.compliments of her brainwashing man haters club. It sickens me to see his pain and sacrafice all for what?

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Dead beat dad and stepmom..
by: Anonymous

Wow.. you guys sound so stupid.. you are selfish and sorry excuses for parents.. I am a single mother taking care of a 5 year old little girl on my own because her father decided that when I told him that I was pregnant he quit his job, lost his apt and moved back home with his mother to get out of paying child support.. I have never forced the issue for him to pay.. I've never taken him to court and never have I planned on it.. she does not need the disappointment of a man forced to be in her life that does not want to be there.. but for you to be more concerned about your child together than to want to help a child from your husbands previous relationship is heartless and sad in so many aspects.. he laid down and played and got a child out of it so now he should step up and take care of that responsiblility.. stop boo hooing about yourselves and think about the poor child that did not asked to be created.. for the child's sake sounds like he or.she is better off without you both to break his or her heart being disappointed by your unwillingness to love and support him.. you both should be ashamed of yourselves.. after all I am a single mother raising my daughter solely on my own as a cashier at a liquor store to pay my bills without the help of her father.. I make $9 an hour and I'm doing it by myself.. so suck it up stupid and tell your dead beat husband that he needs to take care of the child he created.. and to stop being a Piss poor excuse for a sperm donor.... It's not the child's fault... It's your husbands..

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by: Anonymous

You married an idiot. And made more children with him even though he can not take care of the ones he already had? I would let the father of my child sign away his rights in a heartbeat; but if your husband made a baby with a woman who did not feel this way... HIS FAULT!

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Serious
by: Anonymous

I think people need to get together and make child support and Divorce fair. I cant wait to see some guy enter a court room and go off.

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Stupid
by: Anonymous

All who agree or in a similar situation to this stupid woman, need to stop and think. You marry a dumb man who didn't care about who he was choosing to be the mother of his child. It his fault he is in this situation. He should have been thinking with his top brain instead of his bottom brain since the top brain works a lot better than he thought. For the wife, do better research and learn before you get marry about the bull***t your husband was putting you in. Last thing for the both of you, If he cannot afford the two he already have and you cannot afford the one you got, DONOT GO OUT AND MAKE MORE BABIES YOU ALL CAN NOT AFFORD.

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Idiot
by: Anonymous

This is really funny to me!! Stupid people crack me up!!! If u people didn't have the money to support more kids, then don't make anymore!!! (giggles)

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Really?
by: Anonymous

Um... to "wow", what kind of father just terminates his rights to his child because another man is in their lives via their mother?? Of course it's an option, but it's not a very respectable one. It's the coward's way out. And we won't get very far in making sure child support laws are reviewed and revised if fathers everywhere just roll over and say, "I'm done." Kids need their fathers, and abandonment issues later in the children's lives are worse than any child support struggle. Also, they don't take into account the new spouse's income because that person did not make the child. It is solely between the natural mother and father. At least in my state.

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in agreement
by: Anonymous

i absolutely agree with you! but what he should have done was sign over his rights to begin with and he would not have had to pay this.

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Wow
by: Anonymous

First of all I would like to say tht I dnt know about the state u live in but in MN you have the right to go to court and gt ur child support modified they take in acct. both the father n mother's income..I understand how you feel my bf n I have been together for 10yrs and have 3 boys together n its a struggle to get by he had a job paying 14/hr n brought home wages about 8/hr..it sucks but u should chk ur state laws they have been modifing them...Im assuming he musta had a dna test b4 the order for support was made since she is on assistance if not i would look into tht..It would definitly be worth the money to hire a lawyer if needed to gt the child support modified..my bf's bby momma (for lack of a better term) works for child service and is in the business of taking peoples kids away she is evil n spiteful make twice as much as us so we are going to see about modification this woman like others if crazy she recently filed a false report anounamously saying she heard a child screaming from our home other than my bf as a witness in court I wish i could turn her ass in but it was anounamous...im just saying watch out..And as far as these other bloggers bashing you they obviously are on the other side of the fence..I have been on each with my bf...I know what it was like to need the support and I know what it is like to be in a home where you are struggling cause he is paying it..These bloggers are focusing on a that he should have protected himself well you can say tht but reality is now tht he is paying the dues..I think the way you do in tht the man she is with now should be taken into acct as far as what he is providing for the child..Maybe ur husband should just look into terminating his rights since the mother of the child has someone in the home to support the bby..its and option..As far as the bloggers firing bk @ you they have no idea wht it is like to be the father n try to take care of the family you care about while paying for the mistake you made..They obviously havnt walked anywhere near ur shoes...Sounds like thy have children they wnt money for..As soon as the relationship ends not all but most women are on a war path a vendetta to get the money n hit him where it hurts the only ones being hurt are the children in the household where someone is paying out..you cant go get assistance urself when you need it because they dont take in acct the money you pay out for child support..I could type all night but my advise as stated previous get and attorney! It will b worth the money!! Hope things work out for you!!

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I feel you
by: Anonymous

I sooo understand what you are saying here. We are in a similiar situation. My husband's ex-wife has 4 college degrees (in excess of $100,000 that my husband is STILL paying off half of), but decided once she remarried to quit her job so she could try to get more child support. Since the state doesn't care that she is being well taken care of by her new well-off husband enough for her to VOLUNTARILY quit her job (and drive a Jag she got for herself, and wear expensive name-brand clothes while she sends the kids to us in dirty clothes that are too small), they are letting child support reviews go on to get more money from my husband. He pays so much of her school loan debt and child support that well over half of his income goes to her. Nevermind that the tuition is for not now that she has decided on her own not to use any of her degrees to make money. Nevermind that we are struggling to keep the bills paid and provide for the kids when we have them at our home. Nevermind that she purposely moved 2 hours away to keep my husband from getting equal joint custody (to get more child support), and that we now have to spend much more on gas money to pick up the kids for our visitations at a time when gas is ridiculously expensive. This means nothing to the court. I don't understand why the laws aren't made to make it so that the non-custodial parent can give an equally nice home to the children as the custodial parent. Especially in cases where the parents share as equal time as possible. They are BOTH "single" parents at that point. Not just a "struggling single mom" and "some guy who needs to fork over all his money". I mean... if we were the custodial and his ex-wife was the non-custodial, we would still hope she was able to give the kids clothes, toys, food, and entertainment when in her care. Now she's starting to pull the "you can't talk to your kids until I get what I want" card. My husband tried calling his kids yesterday and she refused to answer, but texted him to say she wasn't going to let him talk to them. He tries so hard to make every attempt to be in contact with his kids and be the best father he can be. She makes a lot of stupid mistakes in how she talks to him or what she does to try to manipulate things (including fraud, lies, badmouthing my husband), so I've started a file. In a couple years, if things haven't changed, I'll have been saving evidence of her tricks and money for a father's rights lawyer and will pray for an understanding judge.

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it sucks
by: Anonymous

i feel ur pain i have the same situation but with a twist

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I agree
by: olynicole

I agree with this woman as I am a wife of a husband going through the same thing. We have children of our own that need support and that is food, clothing and medical expenses being taking from them.But does anyone care about that? No they don't. And whats worse is that the BM in this case makes WAY more than my husband makes, but is still ordered to give up a very significant amount for a child she doesn't (financial wise) even have to take care of, as she receives medical,food and housing assistance. But our family on the other hand can't get any of this assistance as we have already tried. I'm not saying he shouldn't have to pay anything but they should defiantly take in to consideration how much assistance the custodial parent is getting, if there is another spouse in their household that is helping out with expenses and how much each parent is making. It is really sad how greedy women are these days and those women make the rest of us look really bad when a man is considering starting a family, hes so scared to end up in the same situation he doesn't even want to give it a chance. Why on Gods green earth do the governments feel like the non-custodial parent don't have to live, they don't even care if the non custodial parent is homeless as long as they are paying the child support...Its just not fair and we need to as a nation rise up and take a stance against theses crazy laws.

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I hear you
by: Anonymous

I think you hit it right on the money. I am proud to hear that from a woman who see's it from our point. I myself had paid chid support for my daughter and when she turned 18 I emancapated her. After four or five years I stopped getting my income tax return and found out that there was back support owed from when my daughter was little, well after I found out I contacted Calf. support office and they informed me that I owed 10,000. in arrears I totaly blew up the money that was owed initally was only like 1000. but they charged me intrest on that for all those years without letting me know that there was any arrears when it could have paid it off. Now I have another child where the mother just moved to a different state without letting me know anything until the day they moved, buit the support continues and she dont have to follow the court ordersl, because the states dont enforce stuff agenst the mother's but if it were the father that did this we would be in jail and probably loose custody.

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Right on.
by: rob

Your right and wrong in my opinion. Your wrong to think that the custodial parent are the one's behind this. It's really Congress. They passed the most rigid laws possible and the only way to change it is to write them (I did) and explain 1-2 issues that most bother you. I wrote to my Senator's about how income modifications need to be more fair. Write them so they can change the laws that are making all of us go crazy. All the courts want to know is if you are paying or not. If not, you get the jail treatment. You will never get support from the courts or the stupid people that think you should live on nothing. If Dad's have $1 dollar to their name the haters want to take it from you. I met people who make $300 per week and can't live on that, but the state want them to pay $100 per week in child support. This situation is not workable for most folks. And nicer jobs are not available to fix the problem.
I am a non-custodial Dad that is not working due to no fault of my own. Most people don't understand how rigid the system is. I thought my court ordered payments would go down (reduce) automatically since I have not worked in 12 months. I also thought the court would understand my situation. No, they did not. The current system says the order is in effect all the time even if your in jail or homeless,jobless... you must continue to pay the ordered amount. I eventually asked for a review of my court order. I found out the hard way that the court can only go back to the day you filed the review, not the day you lost the job. So now I'm 12 months behind (jail material). You don't know these things like you know driving laws. No one in the system explains how screwed you are.
THE REAL PROBLEM IS THE BAD FEDERAL LAWS REGARDING CHILD SUPPORT. Fight for fair laws. Write your State elected officials to change the law!!!!!!!!

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Defence
by: Rjamison331

Defence to these people, Condoms are not 100% proof. And true you anonamouse soud like the ones who would do something like what's going on. And to say something read the story not what you think you read, or you just never had your savings taking away for something that could have been handle from jump. Stop being complicated for a moment and use commonsense, this start with you ladies. You need to teach the young ladies about the mistake of traping off the young men, because of the want's. No one had learned yet from the (Ray Karruf) story. Please pay attention here, its a lot at stake.
Thank You

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I Have Read
by: Rjamison331

I have read all the comments, and I agree with this woman. I myself is going through the same thing, And it's not about being bitter. But this woman has taking advantage, like every dirty one has. And to top it off she like every dirty person, used the system. Unfair and its unfair for some one to voice their opinion unless you have lost your savings. I know its been done to me 2X and I'm stil paying and never the less my 2 children can only get what is left over Dirty. So please until you have your savings swiped from you dont talk. And as for the child if it was about the child then why would this man owe anything because it is obviouse this child was concieved by this woman's free will and then cause this family to suffer because of what the thought is, it take 2 Bullshit when a woman know what's best but will do something like this to trap off. Hell yes I'm with you Let us get some petitions and fight the system. Trust me there are good reason's.

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Interesting
by: Anonymous

This is a good thing that you and your significant other are not in this child's life. I wouldn't want anyone around my child that didn't want to be. Being a parent is a privilege and should be cherished. I feel extremely sad for this young child.

Do you realize how you sound? You sound selfish and bitter. Turn it around and look at yourselves. Deal with it and move on!

$9,000 a year is not much to pay for child support. Kids cost more than that and the time and care they need cost more too!

Finally, your husband should have worn a condom, duh! Babies can happen when you don't wear one and that was HIS choice too not do that. "hello"

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My opinon
by: Anonymous

I have to say that I am a Step mother to a wonderful little boy and I seem to be a bigger part of his life than his mother but my husbands pays his child support weekly and he never has a fit about it yes some times when work is slow we don't have any money and that sucks but it will be okay we can usually figure something out. I do wish tho that his mom would use the money on him to buy him some new clothes and shoes instead of buying her other son name brand clothes and new shoes she should use that son's child support money for that instead of putting our little boy in clothes that is 3 sizes to big and has shoes on him that are 2 sizes to big but I'm not going to have a fit about how the money is spent I wish he had a better life and i wish we could help out more. But we have him 15 days out of the month and in those days I try am hardest to be a great step mom to him... I do not treat him any different than I do my own children.

I do think that the mom should try and help support herself too. I'm not saying the dad doesn't need to pay if she stuck his thing where it didn't belong with out protection then he needs to help with what he made But It's like my step sons mom she has worked maybe 6 months since her oldest son which is 5 has been born she lives off the child support and I'm not saying that's not what it's for but when you put your children in daycare during the day there should be a good reason why they are there from 7 to 5. But as soon as the kids get out of daycare they go to there grandmothers house and stay I believe the grandmother should get the child support if she is the one caring for the child.
But this is my opinion and I'm sure someone will disagree with me I am not opposed to the father paying child support but I think the mother should pay attention the their child. I have 2 children of my own other than my step son and all 3 of them mean the world to me I can't think why a mother wouldn't want more to do with her kids

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Petition
by: Rjamison331

Yes I agree, we must all get togther and start a petition in order to get some type of justice against the unjustice.

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Continued by Tampa, Fl MoM....
by: Anonymous

To the step Mother! You are of no help to this poor innocent child! I am sure that you add fuel to his fire of not wanting to be a parent! Hell, you even cry and bitch for him in his defence! So I could only imagine how you do not even try to be a better influence & help in this situation, but rather play the victim along with him!
Also, if you're husband was a true man with any ounce of integrity in his entire body maybe then the mother wouldn't have to live on food stamps, and welfare Etc! Maybe just Maybe, you both should open you're eyes to how you are no better then the one person you are trying to eliminate from you're lives by you're nasty actions!

And, also it is "NOT" the responsibilities of others to take care of you're child's financial means just cause you think the other parents significant other should do so! Their relationship/marriage is not you're business and it should be like so! Step parents/boy/girl friends do not have the responsibilities of taking care of you're responsibilities just because you wanna run off like a child and scream how you're rights to chose where taken from you! You had a right to wear a condom and you didn't so now shut up, grow up and do you're part!

Truthfully, after reading you're post I couldn't tell who was worse then the other, and who was more irresponsible then the other! You both are pathetic and disgust real parents all around the world! You both are just truly sickening! In fact, why dont you just pay you're child support like you should, and then just stay as far as you can away from him or her, their so far better off without either of you in their lives by far!

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Dead Beat Dad & Step Mother!
by: Tampa, Fl MoM

You "BOTH" amaze me! How Pathetic you both are as humane beings! What does the father not wanting anything to do with this child have to do with the child itself? How is it the child's fault that you don't want to be a parent? So punish the child and deprive them of his/hers rights to have a father cause you were to lazy to put on a condom! Hmm...

You talk a good talk, however, it makes you appear as a selfish humane being to all of humane nature in itself, and all that reads you're sorry excuses! As for the fathers rights to not have to be a parent & pay his share fair of the responsibilities of this child was lost the day he laid down with this women, and he decided to not wear protection! This child should not be deprived of a parent, or the financial means to a good living just cause now the father wants to cry like that of a immature teen who would do so if they were in this situation! I have seen teens more compassionate or more responsible then you're husband and you! So you let you're child's father off the hook! Well, just because you did this does not mean all others should do the same! Just because you don't care to be a parent or do not want o be does not mean you are not by law! And, if you feel that just because you were tricked into being a parent that you should not have to pay for you're responsibilities, guess again! What this all boils down to is this! If you do "NOT" want a child with a particular person or time in you're life then you should best protect yourself from this happening by using these awesome little things that were invented a very long time ago that would best help you in these situations, their called "Birth control & condoms"! And, news flash either party can use whatever method they chose to, and it is "NOT" just one persons responsibility that this should fall on either so don't even try taking it there on how she should of whatever, cause if he was the one not wanting a child then he should of been more careful, not her! Remember, she was the one wanting one and was open & honest about it! And, he was the one who didn't want one, so let's guess who should of been protecting themselves the? Hmm...

In the end....! The father just needs to grow the hell up, and pull up you're big boy pants up and do what you're suppose to do which is the right thing! Doing right by you're child! Hell, maybe the child doesn't want him as a father! Ever ask him/her? Yea, well either way it is what it is, and now it's time to behave as humane beings and do what is right period!


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I agree with you
by: Anonymous

I completely agree we are having to go threw something very close to your situation.. Over half of my husbands paycheck goes to one child. what drives me crazy is the state doesn't consider that we have the child 15 to 17 days a month and that we have 2 kids of our own. And she is sitting over there with goverment assistance running out her ears. She even has a brand new car.. I would love to have a brand new car but no i can't have one cause when my husband got laid off last year and child support took almost all of his unemployment and left us with not even a 100 a week. So needless to say our credit went to down the drain. I think the goverment should think of the fathers and the family that he is trying to support under his own roof. Because it is starting to put a strain on our family. My kids have to do without so much because we just don't have the money to get for them. And since we have the child over half the month they should give us joint but the mom threw a huge fit and said she wouldn't stand for that and they said okay to her.... They take 30 percent of his check right now and then the insurance we have to pay takes another 30 percent the insurance is more than the child support i think the goverment needs to get there priorities straight. I'm not saying the dad doesn't need to help but it doesn't cost 1000 a month to raise a child.

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real ignorant
by: Anonymous

you sound real dumb & ignorant. O well you have no money to raise the kids you guys have together... You said you support him not being involved in one of his child's life so obviously you knew ahead of time that he was/IS a rolling stone. Take a number and get in the back of the line. Why do you think kids that came later should get more or equal?...Your bf or husband DID have a choice of whether ornot he wanted a baby with that women.... He made his choice when he decided not to strap up & even if he did we all know ABSTINENCE is 100% effective, soooo..... And who cares if she has a new live in boyfriend he's NOT the kids dad and shouldn't be held responsible.

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