I'm a former Private Investigator and the wife of a paternity fraud victim... First, get a mail-ordered DNA test (cheap around $65 for non-admissable to court type if you just want personal confirmation or heafty around $275 if you want the kind that you can use in court) then be honest with your kids about doubting your paternity for "legal reasons". They're adults and will have to volunteer to be tested but for them, the truth is needed for "medical reasons". Swab the cheek and wait for your written evidence.
Second, RECORD any comments about the children not being yours. Get mom mad over the phone, put the phone on speaker (if you don't have a built in digital) and use a recorder. It's not illegal to record your own conversatons within your own house and the tape is admissable in court.
Third, hire an investigator before hiring an attorney. Find out who else knew what she did and have their full name and current contact info available for summons when you're ready to take the mom to court for fraud. Try to find the most religous based person close to the mom as they have the tendency not to lie on the stand. You gather as much info as possible before hiring the attorney because attorneys will hire investigators to obtain background on cases and charge you double the fee.
We've been there - Good Luck - and please read my posting TWINS. I'm experimenting in volumn posts concerning paternity fraud as gathering massive victims could lead to a CLASS ACTION suit that could get the laws changed in this country. Leave some contact info if you're interested. Thnx
Mar 08, 2009 Rating
I'm with you by: Bob
Although my numbers and situation is a bit different, there is a lot that is the same here.
My ex also sends the kids with minimal when they are with me and I am constantly buying then clothes and things they need. Yet I am forced to live on $100 per week to do all of this because a judge can't seem to get the math right.
I am contemplating just going to the county jail soon and bypassing the steps to get there. It's going to be difficult to get money while I am incarcerated and I will know I won't get evicted from jail and I'll have 3 meals a day. Better than living on the streets. The downside is I won't see my kids but the ex denies that time currently anyway.
The bottom line is she hides the kids, I'm a criminal.
