I do believe in supporting my children. After finding my wife in bed with my ex best friend, I divorced. Of coarse she got custody of my two children. I remarried a few years later and moved to California for work. It was great. I paid to have my children out for summers and all vacations, we filled there suit cases full of clothes for the trip home( they always came with no clothes). My ex wife decided that she wanted more money since my son was pushing 16 and his child support checks came to an end. She hired an attorney to review our divorce papers. There was a statement in the divorce paper which said child support was $350 per child or 9 percent of my gross pay. Moving to California I was a heavy Equipment Operator and did make good money. I never missed a child support payment and always sent extra money along with clothes.
They are my children.(I think) The California court system did not see it that way. They requested a copy of all my tax returns (per my ex wife's lawyer) and charged me with a retroactive judgement of $65,000 for a 10 year period. Even though I had been paying monthly all along. I had a % taken out of my check every month and currently still owe $32,000. My children are 28 and 31, I am still paying child support. I am 55 have been doing odds & end jobs for 5yrs barely making 2500 per month. I just recieved my drivers licience back and was told even if I can only pay $100 per month to pay something and everything will be ok. NOT TRUE. I put my 2500 check in the bank today and the child support system of California siezed it. Now I can not pay my montly bills. When is it going to be enough for the State and my ex wife. It seems like I should of been a dead beat dad. What good did it do for me to follow the rules. I do not even now what to do or where to go from this point. Everyone, everywhere is stuggling to make a living.
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I'm a former Private Investigator and the wife of a paternity fraud victim... First, get a mail-ordered DNA test (cheap around $65 for non-admissable to court type if you just want personal confirmation or heafty around $275 if you want the kind that you can use in court) then be honest with your kids about doubting your paternity for "legal reasons". They're adults and will have to volunteer to be tested but for them, the truth is needed for "medical reasons". Swab the cheek and wait for your written evidence.
Second, RECORD any comments about the children not being yours. Get mom mad over the phone, put the phone on speaker (if you don't have a built in digital) and use a recorder. It's not illegal to record your own conversatons within your own house and the tape is admissable in court.
Third, hire an investigator before hiring an attorney. Find out who else knew what she did and have their full name and current contact info available for summons when you're ready to take the mom to court for fraud. Try to find the most religous based person close to the mom as they have the tendency not to lie on the stand. You gather as much info as possible before hiring the attorney because attorneys will hire investigators to obtain background on cases and charge you double the fee.
We've been there - Good Luck - and please read my posting TWINS. I'm experimenting in volumn posts concerning paternity fraud as gathering massive victims could lead to a CLASS ACTION suit that could get the laws changed in this country. Leave some contact info if you're interested. Thnx
Mar 08, 2009 Rating
I'm with you by: Bob
Although my numbers and situation is a bit different, there is a lot that is the same here.
My ex also sends the kids with minimal when they are with me and I am constantly buying then clothes and things they need. Yet I am forced to live on $100 per week to do all of this because a judge can't seem to get the math right.
I am contemplating just going to the county jail soon and bypassing the steps to get there. It's going to be difficult to get money while I am incarcerated and I will know I won't get evicted from jail and I'll have 3 meals a day. Better than living on the streets. The downside is I won't see my kids but the ex denies that time currently anyway.
The bottom line is she hides the kids, I'm a criminal.
