Child Support.....Ehhh

by Ashley

Child support is for women who don't want to work and leech off there exs because they were mad. Its not just the mans fault that the woman got pregnant it takes 2 to tango and therefore I think child support is a joke. I have 3 children of my own and I know damn good and well it doesn't take 300$ A month to raise one child so its a crock money hungry greedy women is all you child support getting women are. Get off your asses and quit leeching off men and having kids to get free money!!!!!!!!!!

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Not your average woman
by: Anonymous

I couldn't agree with you more except there's one problem there are woman that will do anything to protect there husband from the whores that prey. I am a rare breed i guess, i have four children 2 by another man and two with my husband. when we got together i had a car a house and supported my children on my own. To this day I'm still doing this. My husband doesn't have to work because i would rather work then have the girl that is pressing cs on him get money. He was a dork right out of high school that left to go to pa and meet new people. Well he met Brandy the whore of the town and the drug head. He new her only 5 months and she got pregnant. He bought her the patch, she was never wearing them. Needless to say when he moved back to Texas she called and let him know. And all she said was i want the money. This was in 03, we have been married for 3 years. I hate this girl she told me to my face that he would have to pay no matter what. After we asked to pay for a lawyer to sign his rights away by her request. She got 2000 out of our income tax in 07 and spent it on concert tickets. I know these things courtesy of my space. I have bent over backwards to support him and my kids and yes i do receive child support on the two but its been 6 years and have been receiving the same amount and soon i will be letting it go. So to this there are woman who do right with the money. I never let any of my kids wear hand me downs for example. Last Christmas i overdrew my account 700 dollars just for them. I agree with certain men not the women. I think they should have stricter laws on which type of woman can receive the money. Because it isn't fair to a guy that trusted his so called girlfriend and she deceived him to get a penny!!! They are called deadbeat moms!!!!

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You!
by: Anonymous

Most of you that made a comment to this person didn't comprehend what they were saying. I agree with you 100%! There are women out there that DON"T WORK, have 1 or more children and Collect from CS,FSS and any OTHER GOV programs. I say to these women GET A JOB AND TAKE CARE OF YOUR RESPONCIBLITY'S, YOU GOLD DIGGINER, THE WORLD DON'T OWE YOU! TO YOU WOMEN THAT WORK AND COLLECT CHILD SUPPORT WAY TO GO!

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Yes I can say IGNORANT
by: Anonymous

Wow I would understand where this person is coming from if he/she wasnt directing this towards all women. Sure there are those women who don't do for thier children what they should with thier child support. I think we have all seen it. But there are those who work thier ass off to make ends meet. Who are the mommy and the daddy. Or whatever the case may be. I get $200. A month in child support from my ex husband. He kicked me and his daughter out of the house and ruiend all of our belongings. We were left with the clothes on our backs and the things i could gather in a bag. You know what, i picked myself up and suted my shoulders. I got back on my feet very quickly. I got another job, Have a nice apartment and my child is active in sports. Me and my ex husband are civil now and my being paid child support is in NO WAY a way to cling on to him...lol. We are both adults who have made a beautiful life that we both wanted. And we both do our parts. And never once has he comlained about having to support his daughter. Nor will i. So in a nutshell....
I am not a dead beat mom
He is not a dead beat dad
I do not use child supprort to "hang on"
My child has everything she needs from her father and I.
We both know how much it is to raise a child, i dont need to justify my expences to you...lol
And our child is our pride and joy.

Im sorry you feel this way about ALL women but Quite Frankly
YOUR IGNORANCE ISN'T MY PROBLEM.

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Letting go
by: Anonymous

No, us who marry men even if they're crack whores arent the ones who should have thought of that before we married them. You exes need to let go...they dont love you and they dont even want those kids. They wish they never had them and half of them probably arent the fathers any way.

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can we say IGNORANT??
by: Anonymous

I am currently in a child support battle that has lasted for over a year now. I am guessing you must have a boyfriend, or a husband that has to pay child support. I don't know where you come from, but it cost way more than 300 a month to raise a child!! I pay almost 700 a month for daycare!!! The only time in my life that I haven't worked was the 6 weeks after I had my child. You are right it does take TWO TO TANGO!!! Both parents need to be finacially respondsible for their children!! To all the women out there who bitch about their man having to pay child support, YOU SHOULD HAVE THOUGHT ABOUT THAT BEFORE YOU GOT WITH HIM. EVEN IF HIS EX IS A CRACK WHORE, YOU SHOULD HAVE THOUGHT ABOUT THAT.

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Kids and Responsibility
by: Anonymous

For the one who dished out money for drivers ed for your son, your son should have gotten a part time job and paid his own drivers ed and if he wants a cellphone he should pay for it. Teach him some responsibility

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DEAD BEAT EX'S
by: Anonymous

What some of you are commenting about, you didn't listen to what this gentleman is saying.....This is for the dead beat mom's who all they do is leach off ex's and the attorney general allows it with no checking on the mom's background. I am a wife of a husband paying child support to an drug abuse ex who has raised both child and they are both drug abusers and dead beats. So if you aren't the type fine, but I think this is what this gentleman is talking about.

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Not Lazy and Not Getting Rich off of Child Support
by: Anonymous

Raising children is not just the womans role. Fathers are not to be around just to have fun with. It takes 2 responsible parents to raise a child and part of the reposibility is paying for their clothing, food, medical bills ect. Lets see last month I dished out 250,00 for drivers ed, 84.00 for a cell phone for my son, 94.00 for him to play baseball not to count the baseball gear. I get 154.00 for two boys. Now lets see did his supprot even pay 1/2 the costs. And thats not including medical bills, food, gas to take him to all his practices and games. I certainly am not getting rich off his child support, and I work two jobs to support my children. And guess what he doesnt even work one. But he wants all the rights but non of the responsibilities. He owes 16000 dollars in back child support

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Ignore them!
by: Jennifer

This site was developed so that parents who have questions on the care of their children can come to learn and most importantly not feel alone. It is difficult to be supermom-or dad-on your own with nowhere and noone to turn to, ask questions, or just be heard. So as much as I value freedom of speech, I am tired of reading the ignorants ramblings of unhappy people who just want to bring everyone they can down to their toxic, ridiculous, and very small-minded levels. Ladies and gentleman who really want to use this site for what it was ment to be, please don't respond to these people. They just don't get it, and they never will. The best thing to do is to IGNORE THEM, and let them go on the unhappy way. Lets ask the questions and advise each other so that we can have one more weight lifted from our backs, and lets not let anyone add any weight that we just don't need.

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Nobody Cares
by: Anonymous

Hey lady, nobody really gives a rats behind if your kids attend a private christian school. theyre no better than any other kid. A good portion of you so called religious people are nothing but hypocrites anyway. So quit saying we don't take care of our kids because we don't mooch off the father.

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WOW!!!!!!
by: Anonymous

You people are either insane or don't take proper care of your children! I have an executive level corporate job and work about 50 hours a week. I am also actively involved with all of my children's activies and volunteer with my church. I cover all miscellaneous and medical expenses for my children as well. Not only am I not bitter or angry, I am HAPPY and am GOOD FRIENDS with my ex husband and his new wife...we chose to forgive and move forward TOGETHER as parents. I bust my butt for my children to have the best life they can and I love them dearly! I do receive child support and it goes DIRECTLY to my children's education. They attend a private Christian school and the remainder goes towards their extra-curricular activities (such as music, dance and sports) and college savings. I feel sad for your children, unless you are inherently wealthy, that you would be so foolish not to require the father of your children to have an active role in their child's life, if not physically and emotionally, at least financially. You are missing out on giving your child every opportunity to experience the world and all it has to offer. Grow up and ditch the ghetto mentality!!!! It's only going to hurt and hinder your children!

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I AGREE
by: Anonymous

You said that exactly right. I am the mother of two grown sons and never asked for child support. I raised them on my own because I wasnt lazy and loved my boys and wanted to take care of them. I worked hard and these lazy mothers need to raise their own kids if they got custody of them. You wanted them you got 'em. Its just a way of trying to hang onto the man. I live with that situation now. My husbands ex just has to try and keep her ugly fat ass in the picture by using her 17 year old son, who should be working anyway, but is fat and lazy like her. She tries to make my husband feel guilty though we dont even think its his kid

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No faith in the system
by: Anonymous

I found this when looking into laws on child support. Anyway I would like to say most of you are angry and bitter. I have not received my child support for my daughter and she will be 18 soon. Calculation 201.00 a month for 18 years with some money that he has paid over the years. Over 58,000.00 in back child support and the state does nothing for us and will never cause the case will be closed. I work full time and have been since she was born. On the other hand my other child get a whole 26.81 a week for someone that is making at least 15.00 dollars an hour, so the ideas of looking at both incomes is a crock of s**t. More like who has the child and who is going to pay for that child. While some women can get 1000.00 a month and still want more, the states need to get a clue of how much it costs to raise a child these days, and make the fathers pay for the support that the courts have granted.

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all aren't bad
by: Anonymous

I agree that alot of women don't work and use the child support money on themself too. But all are not like that. Like I said my daughter works full time and takes care of her 1 year old. For some reason, men can walk away from a child easier than a women, and I don't know why. My daughter and her ex went together to Atty. General office to get things in order, the lady there said she doesn't see it that much when 2 people are getting along for the child. He (ex) had not paid anything for the 1st 4 months, and my daughter told them that she wanted to start from that day of the meeting, and not go back and have him pay for the last months.

I know of a person that gets over a 1,000 a month, and doesn't work and makes a new pick-up payment with the child support (600.00) I think she should be working. So I do understand, but just wanted you to know that some people aren't out to just get to you guys.

Maybe you shouldn't just lay down with anyone, and that goes for both men and women.

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Lazy???Mad??? We're glad to get rid of you!
by: Anonymous

Okay- Lets get one thing straight! There are more men out there that will NOT step up and take responsibility than there are women. My ex has NOT put any effort in raising my daughter. My Husband now is more of a father to her than my ex is. My ex ran off for 3 years and worked under the table to avoid paying child support. My question to you is.... What kind of worthless piece of crap is that? My Husband and I both work full time jobs. We take care of our children meanwhile my ex has another kid with someone else and they are receiving welfare from the state!! They get food, rent, daycare, and medical. All while he is behind 7,000 in child support owed to MY daughter! He is a worthless piece of crap that will NEVER know the true meaning of being a parent.

I resent the fact of saying child support is for women who are mad and dont want to work. Child support is for the dead beat dads who want their "freedom" back and leaving the woman to care for the child ALONE. I as a woman and a mother have a GREAT life. I am very happy. New house, 2 new cars, retirement, and college funds for 3 kids. If thats lazy.... then I just dont know what else to say.Its pathetic we have people in the world that could make a comment the way you did.

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Bitterness? Or just plain ignorance?
by: Jennifer

Anonymous, I can't decide if you are bitter or just plain ignorant. I believe that most people-besides yourself, of course-would believe both words describe you and what you have written on this web-site. I don't have children, but I see everyday what happens to children who do not have the other parent a willing participant in their lives. Why should the child suffer because his "father" or "mother" decides to run off and have a good time. I know that part of being an adult is not only taking responsibility for our actions, but to make good decisions because those decisions affect everyone around us. This include creating a child. If you are "adult" enough to conceive a child then you are "adult" enough to take care of a child. Child support laws are there to protect the children not the parent. That is why the Family Court Judge presiding over the case makes informed and very educated decisions based off of everyone's different situations. So before your bitterness and woefully misleading ignorance takes a hold of you anymore than it already has, I suggest that you go educate yourself on a topic before you let that mental and emotional diarrhea escape your mouth again. Leave the big decisions to the professionals--meaning the social workers and judges of the court.

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Get A Life
by: Anonymous

Seems like all you women are consumed with child support, why else would you be on this site arguing about it? You obviously don't think your getting enough or else you wouldn't be on here trying to figure out more ways to drain the non custodial parent. Please give me a break all you women this is so childish.

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wooooo
by: Anonymous

Yeah ok I hardly think that your kids mental and physical well being has anything to do with child support. You aren't going to justify to me that you are using this money souly on your children and not yourself. You would have to have a house regardless if you had kids or not so your house excuse is lame and if you don't need the child support money and you are supporting your children why are you even bothering the father of your children, huh? Makes no sense if you don't need it then why are you receiving it? And no I don't pay or receive child support, im sick of petty ass women that think a man owes them something just because they fathered your illegitimate children.

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he only thinks about himself
by: Anonymous

My Daughter has a 1 year old daughter, and gets child support from her father. He has 2 other kids, and pay for child support for them also. My daughter works at a job that doesn't pay alot, but we live in a small town and don't have alot of better paying jobs. What she gets in child support from her ex only covers the daycare fees. But that is what the laws says she gets from him. And also, he has never complained about one penny he pays to her for child support. Yes it takes two to make a baby, so if you are not going to be the one raising your child, then yes you should be a paying what you owe to your child. Maybe you should have protected yourself so you wouldn't pay any money to a child you never wanted anyway. So the way I see it, if you didn't want anymore children, and not want to pay for another child, then "DON'T HAVE ANYMORE CHILDREN".

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what?
by: Rose Talton

What are you talking about. Hand me downs and Walmart and getting my hair and nails done. And no he didn't choose our house because he is 5. I chose our house because I am an adult and I am his mother. And that 300.00 a month dosen't pay my mortgage, or half of the stuff my child needs. No, I am a working mother and not on food stamps or government housing. I work for everything that I have and give to my children. I am no gold digger, I just want what is right for my child. Why would I have had an abortion or adoption?????? I wanted my child and never once said that I didn't. I said that my ex-husband should take responsibility in supporting his son mentally and physically! What is wrong with asking for that. I'm not sure where your argument is?? Please clarify!

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Uhhh
by: Anonymous

omg what is wrong with you, why are you on this website. I'm not quite sure, Do you receive child support???? Oh wait you must have to pay.

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boohooo more sob stories from gold diggers
by: Anonymous

Well, your full of it going and buying your kids clothing at goodwill and walmart and giving them hand me downs when you should be buying them new things instead of getting your hair and nails done. And you buy or rent the house that you live in the child doesn't choose it and I bet your kids don't even know that your spending there child support on your selfish needs. It does take 2 to produce a child but you could have gotten an abortion or gave the child up for adoption so don't give me the pitty sad story about men. You probably get food stamps and drain the government as well for your children and get free money. By the way, school is free and the food and clothing like I said should be paid for by the state or the child support so you technically aren't spending anything on raising the child...medicaid, free foodstamps ,free child support given to you....tanf free and diapers are like 13 dollars for 104 of them. So yeah, get over it, your just money hungry and in Texas they don't take into account both parties income.

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Child support Ehhh
by: Disabled Mom

Ashley, I'm so sorry you feel so badly as to use such language on a public posting. When we marry our "men" at the time we usually don't expect things to go so ghastly wrong. But they do. The day of the nuclear family (father, mother, son, daughter) are pretty much over except for the rare exceptions. All children are entitled to the financial, spiritual and emotional support of both parents. We are not sitting on our butts, I don't know of any that are. We are hard-working females entitled to the support due our children and that's the law, whether you like it or not. Our children are entitled to the self-esteem.

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What are you talking about
by: rose talton

OF COURSE IT TAKES TWO TO "TANGO" IF THATS WHAT YOU WOULD CALL IT, BUT WITH YOU BEING A MOTHER OF THREE YOU SHOULD KNOW THAT CHILD SUPPORT MEANS THAT BOTH PEOPLE THAT 'TANGO" ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR THAT CHILD'S WELL BEING! THAT INVOLVES MONEY. YOU KNOW, TO BUY FOOD, CLOTHING, SHELTER, MEDICINE,INSURANCE,SCHOOLING AND ANYTHING ELSE THAT SUPPORTS THAT CHILD TO GROW AND LIVE A HEALTHY A SAFE LIFE. MOTHERS THAT RECEIVE CHILD SUPPORT DONT JUST SIT ON THERE ASS, THEY ARE RAISING CHILDREN AND THAT IS A JOB AND YOU MUST NOT BE DOING YOURS AS A PARENT IF YOU DONT THINK SO. CHILD SUPPORT IS BASED ON TWO PEOPLES INCOME AND WHAT THEY CONTRIBUTE IF YOU KNEW ANYTHING ABOUT IT. SO COME ON, GET SOME COOTH AND THINK ABOUT THINGS BEFORE YOU WRITE THEM. IM SURE BY THE WAY YOU ARE WRITING THIS SO AL CAN READ THAT YOU ARE TEACHING YOUR 3 GREAT LESSONS IN LIFE AND RESPONSIBILTY!

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