CONCERNED FATHER..WGASPARD@AOL.COM

by WILL
(FULLERTON,CA)

MY FELLOW GENTS,

IM AT A LOST ON HOW OR WHAT TO DO WITH THIS WOMAN WHO
JUST HAPPENS TO BE THE MOTHER OF MY CHILD WHOM I ADORE
I HAVE VOLUNTARILY PAYING 400 AMONTH FOR MY KID AS SUPPORT AND I HAVE NO PROBLEM WITH THAT...THESE ARE MY
ISSUES AND PLEASE FEEL FREE TO ADVISE OR ADMONISH
1.SHE WON'T TELL ME THE NAME OF MY KIDS SCHOOL
2.SHE DOESN'T KNOW TEACHERS NAME
3.SHE DOESN'T KNOW THE SCHOOLS ADDRESS
4. WON'T TELL ME WHAT CITY
5. IM NOT ON THE LIST TO P/U MY KID OR EMG CONTACT.

WHEN I PICK MY KID SHE NEVER HAS HER HAIS COMBED,
I HAVE TO BEG HER TO PUT SHOES ON THE KID NOT FLIP FLOPS, HER CLOTHES ARE ALWAYS DIRTY,SHE ALWAYS HAS
MYSTERIOUS MARKS AND BITES ON HER AND HER BODY IS
JUST FILTHY.....I HAVE TO ACTUALLY BEGG THIS WOMAN

WHEN ITS TIME TAKE THE KID HOME I HAVE TO FIND HER
FORCE TO COME HOME SO I CAN DROP MY KID OFF.
SHE IS NEVER ON TIME FOR P/U OR DROP OFF.....

I ASKED HER NICELY TO MEET HER BOYFRIEND FOR THE
SOLE REASON THAT THIS GUY IS AROUND MY KID FULL
TIME, I THIK ITS ONLY FAIR AND REASONABLE THAT
I AT LEAST KNOW HIS NAME AND WHAT HE LOOKS LIKE.

GENTLEMEN PLZ ....SINCE I CAN NOT GET THESE
THINGS....I HAVE CEASED ALL PAYMENTS....

AM I OUT OF LINE....AM I TAKING IT TO FAR?

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Sep 29, 2009
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Don' stress yourself
by: Ms. ok

I'm not a man! But from a womans' stand point i understand what your saying but don't stress your self so much. What she's doing is wrong and you know it but don't stop the payments because it will hurt you in the long run. As long as you are giving the money don't worry cause in due time the whole truth will come out. She is only hurting the child by keeping you out of his/her life. Just ask God to tell you what to do.

Sep 24, 2009
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help 4 u
by: Anonymous

Well, I am not a Gent, but I am sure I can offer some help. First, you are not alone. There are several women who look at there children as meal tickets (SAD). They really don't care about anything but a check every month. I don't mean all mothers b/c there are some that are dam good. However, you can usually spot the bad ones when partying is more important than being on time to pick up or drop of the children. Or how about when helping them do their homework or reading them a book seems like a big chore instead of a pleassure to teach. Those are the ones! Some just want to pick them up from school, feed them something quick (FAST FOOD), make them take a bath, then put thme to bed so they are not bothering them. They get worried if dad can do a better job, not only does that make them look bad, but it puts there new found income in jeapordy.

Advice to you, continue to pay, but document everything in a composition book, and communicate with her by text messages, and when and if she calls, let her leave you a message and save them. Take pictures of the children when you arrive at her house showing the poor care. Don't worry so much about meeting her new BF, that can come later. Never show her that you are mad or upset, keep that to yourself! If you have her address, then you know what school they go to. Children have to go to the school closest to there house. Google all the schools in the neigborhood. As long as there is no custody order preventing you from being a part of there education or health, then you can call the school, and say you want to set up a parent confrence with the teacher of your childs name. Tell them you don't know what the teacher's name is.

GET involed with you children eventhough she doesn't want you too!!!! Don't stop paying for them. She seems like a dead beat, so with out your money, they may not eat, or have hot water, or perhaps no lights in the home!!!

Good luck

Sep 22, 2009
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YOU CAN DO IT
by: jeff

first of all you can call the child support center in the area and ask for them to do a check-up on your ex at her house--you may have to explain to them the marks and bites on her body and the filthyness of your daugther when you pick her up..but by all means keep paying your child support..this benefits you in the long run--the system sucks for men--it is here to help the women whom r not always right for the child--if you have a set time to pick her up then do so--go by the book on all that you r supposed to do--but if you drop your child off and the mother is late then call the sheriffe and make a report that she is in contempt of your court orders(assuming you have been to court and have papers on visitation and such) the hint here is to keep records of all she does or does not do--by law you can make reports keep up with all things like her being dirty when you pick her up--take pictures of this and the marks and bites with times and dates buy a digital recorder to maybe catch her saying something she shouldn't KEEP RECORDS OF EVERYTHING YOU DO FROM PICKING HER UP TO DROPPING HER OFF--TAKE PICTURES BEFORE AND AFTER PICKING YOUR CHILD UP--) I can't say this enough---KEEP PAYING YOUR SUPPORT AND DO WHAT U R SUPPOSED TO DO AND KEEP RECORDS-- it will benefit you in the end ---read the laws on child support in your area and learn from these tools--they r here for you --you may just have to dig along way to find what you need---
a caring father--

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