Concerned for my daughters' well being

by Chris
(Ma)

I have a 12 yr old daughter who i would do anything in the world for. I had a great job making great money and was paying my daughter's mother support. I lost my job and was unemployed for nearly a year but during that year I had my daughter everyday after school. The mother was happy because she could go to work while I was caring for her after school. The mother got an apartment with her new boyfriend using both their incomes, well her and the boyfriend had split and now she can't afford to live there and she is attacking me for more money. I had just found a job about three months ago and it does not pay all that much and I moved in with my girlfriend's house. My girlfriend ownes a house and has a daughter of her own.

It's hard because I know my girlfriend now barely makes ends meet with all her bills. I try to give her as much as I can because she has done so much for me and got me back on my feet. She helped me get a job and a vehicle. Now, the problem is my x wants so much a week and expects me to pay everything for my daughter.

I have bought all her school clothes, her cheerleading uniforms, jackets, anything she needs I have bought her. I've only been giving my x about 50. a week but she wants more and keeps threatning me that she will take me to court. My net income is only a little over 500 a week. How am i supposed to pay for my living expenses as well as my x's expenses too. Then i find out the mother is using the money on herself. That's why I started buying everything for my daughter because I know her mother will use the money on other things except my daughter.

On top of all that the mother's boyfriend had put my daughter ife in jeopordy and he is crazy. The mother has been lying to me about not seeing him and I think she has been. I don't want my daughter around him but I know I can't tell the mother what to do and this frustrates me. The mother is too concerned about herself the my kid. She haunts me for money every week and i can't give her more than what I do. Last week I had to buy my daughter cheerleading pic and jacket. total about 80.00.

I will buy my daughter whatever she needs but giving more money to the mother concerns me that it's not going towards my daughter. What can or should I do. Please help. I currently live in NH and she lives in MA, so what state would the child support laws fall under if she does take me to court. And what can I do.