Concerned yet disappointed.
I have been trying to get regular child support from my ex for ten years now, and it does not work. The state of Indiana does not pursue the issue and he is thousands of dollars behind. I prefer not to pursue it because I would rather just not have to. Sure, he should pay, but without him in my life, I am so much happier. What I am disappointed about is that all of the people on here are talking about dead beats and their exes new lovers and putting all of the blame onto someone else. Maybe people should realize, and I do, that you also have to step up and take responsibility. I was ordered $140 a month for two children. I never see even close to that. But instead of crying about it or fighting with the other parent, I turn the other cheek, tell my kids I love them, and struggle through another week. The most important thing is that people need to remember that children grow up, they see the truth, and they make decisions about their parents. Do not let bitterness towards your ex make your children resent you. Why would you care if he got a 16 year old pregnant, or if he buys a home, or nice cars. Everyone gets what they deserve, and single parents get a little extra blessing in the end. Remember: Love your children. They will love you back for it. Time heals all. Don't let the past ruin what you have now. Your babies will be grown up before you know it and you dont want to lose a minute with them because you decide that it is better to fight over money than to spend that time with them.
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