Could be Father

Could be Father

by James

I met a girl July 15th, we stopped talking the middle of August. The beginning of September she calls me and tells me I need to give her money for an abortion. I asked her if she was sure it was mine, then she said she was going to keep the baby and try to ruin my life the best she could, only in much worse words including "I will kill you m-f"...anyway, I told this girl I support whatever she wants to do. I prefer putting the kid up for adoption, since neither of us are ready to be a parent and there is no way I am getting back with her. I later found out she is a stripper and she keeps saying she doesn't want the kid. She constantly abuses me verbally while I'm trying to work and if I can't answer her calls she threatens me with having the kid, which I don't think is a threat. She uses it as a threat by saying she is going to take all my money. Anyway, she is 32 has been in the U.S. probably 14 years and is a full time nanny, part-time stripper. If she has the kid would I need to pay child support? Would I be able to get custody? Would I be able to get the kid put up for adoption since I could not afford to take care of them?

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Nov 19, 2008
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Simple...not stupid....
by: F*&$ the BS

That's her game, man. There's always two sides of a story. I don't know how well you actually know this woman or what's entirely real with the situation but from what you typed about her explains her game. She's using life as a threat? She's either playing games and you or she's really an emotional, tropical fruit basket case. Look at the side occupation. Not a huge factor but it can show you a fraction of it. Some women may be actually stripping for extra cash for finances and financing other things. Some may do it for entirely other reasons or both. Whatever. Anyway, she might be pregnant or she might not be. It might be someone else's or it might be yours. What makes you think she hasn't done this before? Look at her age, man? What makes you think she doesn't have three other "Joes" that she's doing this to RIGHT NOW? You didn't find out she was a stripper until later, right? Lies. What else could she be lying about? Wait? You don't know.... Not to be funny or brash but I'd be more concerned with getting an STD/HIV test right away, man. If you don't think the kid's yours or if you don't think she's pregnant at all? "Wait", or wait and get a DNA test later or get a DNA test now (A 'lil costly for an early one from what I've heard.). You don't need to throw out anymore cash than that if the situation is that crazy. You see what the hell she's about. It's both of your choices combine with that abortion mess the way the law is right now. Mainly hers on that, though. If she doesn't want one, that doesn't mean put up with her bulls#it, man. Wait until she has the kid and then handle your buisness if you have high doubts if it's not yours if she refuses a DNA test. The result from that test will determine what happens next. Learn from it regardless of the outcome and don't forget it but move on. If you still decide to be "Boo Boo the Fool", then at least keep receipts of everything purchased...you'll figure out the rest. Hopefully. Your choice,though. I'm not not going to be blamed if your tires get popped, car paint scratched up, or "So & So" and their friends beat your ass for making their "'lil cousin" cry. (Those are some things I saw happening with other people....DRAMA.) One.

P.S.; Get TESTED, dude.

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Nov 19, 2008
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That's her game, man. There's always two sides of a story. I don't know how well you actually know this woman or what's entirely real with the situation but from what you typed about her explains her game. She's using life as a threat? She's either playing games and you or she's really an emotional, tropical fruit basket case. Look at the side occupation. Not a huge factor but it can show you a fraction of it. Some women may be actually stripping for extra cash for finances and financing other things. Some may do it for entirely other reasons or both. Whatever. Anyway, she might be pregnant or she might not be. It might be someone else's or it might be yours. What makes you think she hasn't done this before? Look at her age, man? What makes you think she doesn't have three other "Joes" that she's doing this to RIGHT NOW? You didn't find out she was a stripper until later, right? Lies. What else could she be lying about? Wait? You don't know.... Not to be funny or brash but I'd be more concerned with getting an STD/HIV test right away, man. If you don't think the kid's yours or if you don't think she's pregnant at all? "Wait", or wait and get a DNA test later or get a DNA test now (A 'lil costly for an early one from what I've heard.). You don't need to throw out anymore cash than that if the situation is that crazy. You see what the hell she's about. It's both of your choices combine with that abortion mess the way the law is right now. Mainly hers on that, though. If she doesn't want one, that doesn't mean put up with her bulls#it, man. Wait until she has the kid and then handle your buisness if you have high doubts if it's not yours if she refuses a DNA test. The result from that test will determine what happens next. Learn from it regardless of the outcome and don't forget it but move on. If you still decide to be "Boo Boo the Fool", then at least keep receipts of everything purchased...you'll figure out the rest. Hopefully. Your choice,though. I'm not not going to be blamed if your tires get popped, car paint scratched up, or "So & So" and their friends beat your ass for making their "'lil cousin" cry. (Those are some things I saw happening with other people....DRAMA.) One. P.S.; Get TESTED, dude.

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Sep 18, 2008
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Be smart!
by: Anonymous

Document everything! If she leaves messages that are abusive save them. Write down dates and times in a journal. If possible find out if she is really pregnant! Then offer to go with her so you know she really went thru with it. I know this is hard but, better to face the problem now than later. Be nice to her until things are in order, then tell her to hit the road! Catch more fly's with honey than shit! Good luck!

Sep 15, 2008
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Don't ask if you didn't want to know
by: Anonymous

I think that you in the first place should have been more responsible and wrapped your stuff!! but since neither one of you want the child I think that you should pay half and she should pay half(because it takes 2 to tango) and dont let this child become the child of a stripper momma or of a daddy that doesnt love or want him just get rid of it before she enters the 2nd trimester because if she is in her 2nd trimester its illegal and is now considered a life so there would be no other choice but adoption!!

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