Custodial Dad

by CNB
(Edna,TX)

I've had custody of my child since she was 2 years old. I'm a young father and the mother was ordered to pay $200 a month in an out of court agreement that was signed by the judge. Years later she was behind almost 4,5000. She had been using her other child to get income tax back on her,but that child didn't even live with her either full time. Not at one time since then has the state of texas with held from her taxes or forced her to pay. WHY? If the "state" does not file on her from the get go, they won't seek charges. Remember if you paid a lawyer to represent you in court, the state will not help you with your case, you will have to hire a lawyer to get the other parent to pay the child support. Since 2003 i've had my child, the state since then has issueed a warrent for my arrest for non-pay of child support on behalf of the non-custodials behalf for when she had custody of the child, 3 years after she handed over the child and court issued the change in custodialship, and all child support on under my name was paid up when she had custody. Contacting the state I was told " YOU owe it, so pay it, just like every other father has too!" but my lawyer, once again, had to be paid to tell the state of texas what was true and right. never was i arrested for this. The mother of my child still sees her as court ordered, but still as of November 2010, has not paid her child support on time, unless i drag her into court and make the court order her to do so. She was behind around 4,500, my arrest warrent for non-pay of child support was a little 1,500. Why the difference? She also has not worked or tired to support herself or her other 2 childern, her new husband of 2? years, does it.

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How Long don't matter
by: Anonymous

All that matters is the dollar amount they are behind, in the State of Texas anyway.

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Texas screws the good Dads!!!!!!!!!!!
by: Anonymous

Im right there with you. My ex has paid about 1/10 ofwhat she was supposed to over the last 3 years. Sad part is its $224 a month. What does that help pay for with daycare at $135 a week!!! Took her back to court for not paying child support and with medical and back child support it added up to a little over $8000. She added all of this up in less than 18 months and the court gives her 4 years to pay it back. Then the judge sets a rewiew hearing for 6 months after the enforcement orders were signed. So I go to the AG's office and get a statement to show the judge. She didnt even want to look at it. Said I had to talk to the court clerk in the hallway. Go into the hallway with my ex and the clerk. And was told the I would have to get a lawyer to file paperwork and get another court date so that the court would enforce the enforcement orders! On top of that I have filed 17 police reports with the Montgomery county sheriffs dept over the last 3 years. I had to threaten to go to the media to get them to prosicute her on 2 violations of the protective order and 1 assault family violence. Now they say the assault case in not a "good" case for them, even though in her copy of the police report she admits that she hit and bit me and I didnt strike her back? Why do I have a feeling that if it was reversed and I have all the reports filed against me and didnt pay child support like her, that I would be burried under Huntsville???????

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just browsing
by: Anonymous

Omg.... I feel for yall I was just wondering if it would be worth my husband filing child support on his ex . We just won custody that took 2 years in court to get . I notice that they don't go after the women much but she collected food. stamps and welfare on them for 2 years I was worried about him having to pay that back she never even had the children but I reported her so we could get Medicaid and take them to get shots and put in school . They did nothing they said we had to get permission from her when the children don't live with her. My self have two children also and don't receive child support . It would be nice if they would make a woman pay if a man has to.

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THATS CRAZY
by: Anonymous

So how many years behind was she?
And still they did nothing?
I really hope all ends well with you....
What do you have to do to get the oag or court to go after her? My brother is having the same problem ... If any info to help him please let me know thanks....

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Funny
by: Rjamison331

Funny my friend, the system is rigged. I read you had to pay a lawyer to tell them what they already saw in the file, so you wouldn't get arrested. This is why I'm trying to get Petitions going so that we can fight the system on these issues, becuase it is one sided. And that is from no one contesting the system, and they are using laws from when women was not the head of the house hole. Unless you know, they are not going to change it and these crooks are getting away with it. I'm fighting a case from Texas now and never been there in my life, Funny Huh! Yeah this woman that I have never woke up to let alone had Breakfast with. Had a child 4 years ago ran off to the state of Texas and told the Attourney General a bunch of lies, and gave the child my last name. Here's where it get crazy, they sent papers for me to appear in court in a Jurisdiction that I didn't live in and this woman has never stepped foot in court. Now I'm paying for a child that don't know me and I don't know her and this child is receiving more rights than my son andf daughter that live with me. Now that's Funny and the Attourney General told me they can not disclose any information about the woman or the child I just have to keep on paying Support, See what they don't say is After a child is born 4 years and up and the child does not acknowledge you as the parent or the costodial parent has some one else acting in the place of the missing parent. that missing parent is non reliable for that child, but they won't follow that rule. But as for you keep taking care of your daughter, They are wonderful and raise her the way you know how you would wanted to be treated. So when she start dating she won't take advantage of a good man, for some sleese ball or try and get over on some one by playing the victum.

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