Custodial Parent gave verbal custody but won't sign papers!

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Custodial Parent gave verbal custody but won't sign papers!

by Confused Father
(Houston)

I wrote about my ex wife giving me VERBAL custody and dragging her feet about giving the paper work to enroll my son in school, I finally enrolled him in school and he starts Monday. So I called my ex to start the legal process so I can get all of it done and she said and I quote SO I HAVE TO SUFFER BECAUSE HE IS WITH YOU NOW! TO HER IT IS ALL ABOUT THE MONEY! Am I wrong or wasn't child support set up to support the CHILD! I pay my ex $841.00 a month in child support and that amount includes the $150 at month in arrears. I told her I would continue to pay arrears as long as the current order was droped so I can take care of my son, but increase the arrears amount to what I could afford $300. But she wasn't having any of it all she was worried about is herself.She said that she wasn't going to sign anything because she didn't want to have to turn around in a few months and try to change it back if son changed his mind and wants to come back home.(that is her excuse). We'll I'm going to give it until my son has been with me for 6 months and take her to court if she still uses that excuse and won't sign papers by then everyone her family included will know all she is worried about is the money. Because she doesn't work So for the next 6 months I'm the one that has to suffer without being able to financially support my son properly. My son and I have talked and he understands for the next few months it is going to be a little hard and that sacrafices are going to be made so his daddy can get legal custody of him, so he doesn't have to go back home to his alcoholic, and drug addicted mother.

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Sep 06, 2010
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Same thing here
by: Anonymous

I have no idea where my ex even is, and she hasnt spoken to her son in two weeks. I have sent several messages to her sister, requesting custody, but she will not even return calls. I have him enrolled in school, and she hasnt even called my son to see how school is going. She moved out of our house and left 2 dogs and 2 cats there with no food or water.

Before she disapeared, my exs new bf was calling and harassing my son for 3 straight hours. In spite of my son being scared of him, and showing proof of the phone calls, a judge denied a protection order against her new bf on behalf of my son. As it stands now, she can force my son to be with this new guy, and nothing I can do about it.

I have called dhs, courts, lawyers and everyone else I can think of, and no one will help me. In the meantime, she is getting child support, and food stamp benefits!

Aug 22, 2009
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Custodial Parent gave verbal custody but won't sign papers---another example!
by: Anonymous

My husband and I are going through the same thing right now. His ex-wife is getting 1000.00 a month and using to live in a motel with her crack addicted boyfriend. She has not had the kids since May 09 and still gets the money electronically in her bank account. This could go on for a long time because the courts are backed up and can't get us in. She has never worked and crack is exspensive. We have told the kids to always love their mom and to not hate her. It is sad that the kids go without and we try to provide for them best we can. They are great kids and are very understanding. It breaks my husbands heart knowing that his hard earned money is paying for such things and not his kids. The children are happy now that they are in a normal family...I guess that is the benefit to all of this---their happiness. In the past, they have been on drug runs...locked in cars at various (bad) homes, left alone at home over night w/o a phone to call daddy, and threatened if they called daddy. They have been through at least 10 evictions and every time we go to court the mother promises to do better and she is given more chances. Now the children's mother has hit rock bottom and verbally gave us the kids. We don't have any recourse other than pay the money and wait out the court system. Our attorney has advised that the court has to rule to stop child support--we can't change it.

Aug 20, 2009
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To Whoa!
by: Stepmother of 3

First off this is how my HUSBAND AND STEPSON feel about his ex and mother. My Husband is a wonderfull father and teachers his children to never talk bad about their mothers. My stepson has had a hard life and has had to grow up alot faster than children his age because his mother had another child from another man that was disabled and the resonsiblity of his brothers care was put on him.He has also told us every thing his mother has done as far as drugs, sex and booze.My stepson was also there when his mother made the comments about money and suffering. All my stepson said was why can't my mother just do this the easy way, I'm tired of her drinking and druging while there is never any food in the frig. So before you assume anything about what my husband has said or not said get the whole story. I can't stand it when someone on this website posts a story, an a person leaves a comment like that, people use this website to get ADVICE on what to do, not have one say I HOPE YOU DIDN'T SAY THAT IN FRONT OF YOU KID! I HAVE WROTE ALOT OF STORYS ON THIS WEB SITE SO WHY DON'T YOU READ THEM BEFORE YOU COMMENT ABOUT WHAT MY HUSBAND SHOULD OR SHOULDN'T SAY IN FRONT OF HIS SON TO UNDERSTAND THE WHOLE SITUATION!!!!!

Aug 20, 2009
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Whoa!
by: Anonymous

Regardless of what your child's mother is or is not, I sincerely hope that you don't say that to your kid. That's one thing that really, really bites me in the ass!

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