Dads are second class parents in Texas
I met my daughters' mother at the restaruant I worked at and we had a lot of fun together with no commitments. We were never a couple and were never married. After we found she was pregnant she told me she didnt want to get married or take money from me, just to be in the childs life, which I would have never considered otherwise. After about 4 years of good relations I started dating an old ex of mine and eventually got engaged, thats when HELL started.
Because there were no official orders involved she began keeping my daughter from me and threatning to file for back-paid childsupport. I told her I would pay support if thats what she wanted and even gave her all the information to set it up from the attorney generals office but she told me if i wanted to spend time with my kid I had to set it up myself, so I hired a lawyer and got the ball rolling. Long story short I was given standard joint custody (less time than mom) and forced to pay $1000 per month for only 1 child, I was stunned. We live close to eachother and both have successful carriers so I couldnt understand why I was being punished just for being a Dad.
I seems the state of Texas doesnt care about the men its state only the mothers. Her income wasnt even taken into consideration, nor was 50/50 custody an option unless SHE agreed to it. I find this funny seeing how we live in a country where equality is supposed to be the highest value, emancipation proclimation, womens lib, affirmative action, etc etc...Seems equality is only important to women as long as it doesnt interfear with the pocket book. Why is mom automatically given custody at the start of a custody case regardless of financial or housing situations?