"dead beat father can't even call him a father"

by monalisa
(ariziona city az)

well let me start off by saying to all you men out there that have kids and have nothing to do with your kids life, u need to pick your balls up and step the hell up i know some women can really make it hard for u 2 be in your kids life but u can do something about it and not all mothers out there keep your kids from being in your life so whats goin on step up these kids would not be here if it weren't for u men and yes i know it takes 2 but some men out there rather pick a girlfriend or jealousy, money, get in the way of you being in there life what the hell is wrong with u, kids aren't cheap u men have it easy who stays up with the kids when they are sick who takes them to the doctor takes them to school,sports,taking them a bath feeding them,ect..the one main thing showing them that they are loved because thier father can't show them, How do you think we feel when we have to explain why there dad can't see them and be there 4 them it hurts us because who in their right mind would just act like they have no kids its okay because when they grow up, u will regret it and try 2 step in and its going to be 2 late and remember god sees everything it will kick u in your ass in the long run just think about it all kids need a father figure in there life even if its a step father, 2 all the step fathers out there i give u guys alot of respect because it takes alot 2 take care of a kid thats not even yours so again DEAD BEAT DADS OUT THERE STEP UP ITS NOW OR NEVER....

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tricky mothers
by: Anonymous

what about the mothers that trick a man into getting her pregnant by saying she is on the pill but really isnt and then she has the balls to go for child support when he didnt want to have a baby in the first place? why should he have to pay for something she wanted and not him? to top it all off she doesnt let him see his child and everytime she calls, she asks where is the child support and says nothing about the child.

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father to stepchild but not their own
by: Antonia in Arizona

Children need to be raised to be responsible and the examples come from their parents. My ex-husband left when my son and I at 4 months old. He made several excuses on why he was leaving: he never lived alone, he loved me but was not in love with me, and the best one was I used him as a sperm donor (His mother told that line to his biological father). Truth was he had gone out of town and found a GF (I got the phone bill a month later). He disappeared during the time the court was finalizing our divorce. After the divorce, his mother would come to visitation with him but she would not see or talk to the baby. She would hang out on the side kind-a like a bodyguard or jail guard but it stopped after three visits. After she stopped showing, he would show up later or leave early. When he got there he would hang out in the bathroom for 30 minute even when he was late. Eventually, he stopped showing up and let long months go by. He has not participated in visitation for the last 4 years and he is 5 years old. The funny part his mother was a single mother and use to talk a lot of smack and emphasize how hard it was to raise them(even printed emails for her kids to read both of them fighting but she was able to marry 5 times). Her contact with her grandson has been twice after the divorce by herself (I had to schedule certain days, too…never on a holiday weekend). The last time I talked to her she told me she was proud of her son. Despite being told he was not financially helping me or seeing his son (This information came from someone else). She got him a job at the place she works after the divorce. The best thing he has a new wife and she was a single mother. He has two children and doesn’t have any contact with any of them. I know he does with her daughter.

The funny thing is when a guy comes around if I find out he has kids. I wait to see if he has any contact or financial helps them. When I discover and you can tell fast if he doesn’t..... I RUN FAST.

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how can you call him dad
by: Anonymous

I'm a girl in her teens and i have a dead-beat dad. It hurts alot.... Sometimes I want to yell at him make him what he has done. It seem like if I want him to go somewhere with me he blows it off. Whenever i get to see him the only time we are together is the car ride(which is about 5-10 mins) Then he drops me off at my grandmas and goes party. When your little you dont really see the bad of people... even in your father. You think that he is one of greatest guy ever, but then you find out what he really is. When you get older it like loving a stranger. You dont want to love him but you cant stop loving him. For all the kids who have a dead-beat parent, try to stay away from them...

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COME ON WOMEN STEP UP AND LET THE DADS BE DADS!!
by: Anonymous

There are definately two sides to this fence!! It is not easy for men to be the father they would like to be when the mother has physical custody! Many times she uses the children as weapons to control the father and when he does not do things her way she keeps the children from him. I know for a fact there are women cheating and living with men who should not be brought near the children let alone move them into the home. Then they are deadbeats who live off of the child support from the father of the children. I agree there are some men who are not there but there are way more men trying to be a good father and the mother makes there life miserable!! Men have to pay 1/3 of the income they bring in before taxes and many, many men either have to live with parents or someone else because they havent enough money to keep a home or drive a decent vehicle.
I am a mother I have been a single mother never received child support but I wanted my children I worked and took care of them! I never called the father a dead beat or worthless. I always told my children there father loved them.
Come on Women!!! You want the chidren take care of them!!!

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amen!
by: Anonymous

I agree with you! My daughters dad is a dead beat dad. We have not seen or heard from him in over a year. He does not acknowledge my daughter and he even tells other people she's not his. We're still married (he abandon us)...I don't have a clue where he's at but my guess would be he's still living at his moms house. I don't get any help from him. I do everything on my own...I don't want anything from him because I know I can do this and I am doing it all on my own. It makes me sad though when my daughter asks me where her daddy is :( I tell her daddy's away. She's too young to understand, she's only 2 years old going on 3 and last time she seen her father was when she was 1. I know god will punish him for what he has done to us.

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SINGLE MOMMY OF TWINS
by: Anonymous

i find it rather funny how people who have never experienced something can comment and judge so easily. im a single mother of 8 month old twins whos father wants nothing to do with them.period. ive never ever kept him from seeing my boys, actually ive given him more than one oppertunity to be in their lives. not only am i a single mother but im also a student and i do hold a job.i pay my fair share of taxes just as well as those who are single and childless.i do receive help from the state with insurance and food stamps.but not because im lazy and just feel like breeding repeatedly to receive "free" money.it is a big help to receive these benefits but please dont think that we get large amounts of money to be able to stay home and sit on our asses. and i think its unfair for some of you to say that mothers feel that theyre entitled to the mans money.you know what, you bet your ass some of us are entitled to that money because as far as i can recall i didnt knock myself up.and especially if the other parent isnt involved thats even more reason we're entitled to the money.sad when we have to rely on the court to make a man support his children. 100% of any an all money that i receive goes towards my childrens benefit while his check goes up his nose and to whatever liquor store he decides to stop at.i didnt make the best of choices when i was younger,but i sucked it up and handled the things that needed to be done.my boys are my complete world and i could never imagine not seeing their little faces every day. i have and never will love the way i love my boys. i could never understand how a parent could CHOOSE not to be apart of something they helped create.

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Breeders are the problem.
by: Anonymous

Or, maybe you never considered this, but unwanted progeny is a scourge to our society. If you people would stop breeding and wrap it up maybe we wouldn't have this problem. Single parents seem to forget that WE THE TAXPAYERS pick up the tab for feeding your kids with food stamps, we send them to the doctor for their shots, we pay for their school, and the worst part is that you hangers-on feel entitled to that money. I hope one of these days those making the laws will protect the smart and childless people from having to pay so much and cut irresponsible breeders off.

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Not So Fast...
by: Anonymous

True, there are men out there who do not do the right thing, and do not try to get involved with their children. But there are men who, as another reply stated, are not "running". More often than not, you have the mothers who do everything possible to keep the child(ren) away from the fathers. Why? Maybe there is mental illness involved? Maybe there is a hidden agenda? Maybe the father got duped and the mother does not want the father to get the opportunity to get a quick swab of the cheek for DNA testing? Maybe the mother is simply poor in character and feels she could hurt the father by ensuring there are sufficient barriers between him and his child(ren). So while in your case (or in the case of someone you know) the dad might be a deadbeat, I think you need to look at the bigger picture.

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dead beat father author
by: Anonymous

AMEN!!! Thank you so very much for expressing what I have felt in the last 5 yrs my daughter has been in my life!! Her father wants NOTHING to do with her & it's not fair to her!

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GROW SOME BALLS?
by: Anonymous

First of all from what I have seen and experience is the mothers play a big role in these children lives. I know fathers who take care of their children and do all the things mothers do and they do a better job than the mothers,as far as stepfathers I really don't think they take full responsibility of the child that is why the real dads are paying child support. Their are fathers who choose not to pay or be in the childs life and I don't think the child has anything to do with it. Mothers are the ones who make it impossible for the dads along with the government and his child support laws. Here Is an example how these mothers can be along with the so call stepfathers or boyfriends. My grandchildren are with their father from Friday to Sunday,it is Easter Sunday my son is sick so he has to go to the hospital,he leaves me his cell phone so I can contact her in case he is not back in time to take them home,he called and told me to call her to come pick up my grandchildren because he was at the hospital and would not be back in time to drop them off,so when I called boyfriend kept answering her cell phone and saying don't be calling, finally when I called again she didn't answer left her a message and told her she needed to pick the children up, she never called or picked up the children. She shows up on Monday morning with the police to pick up my grandchildren. It is Christmas Eve and she calls my son to pick up the grandchildren, he tells her he can't because he is at work, so he tells her he will pick them up when he gets out of work. well she decides not to let him pick the children up when he gets out of work, well my grandchildren spend the holidays with friends of hers. wondering why they stayed with her friends? Restraining order on boyfriend so instead of letting the father picked them up she chose not to let the grandchildren be with the father for the holidays. What kind of life is this for these fathers that have to go through this just to be in their childrens life. " All you Fathers out there right as you say GROW SOME BALLS" File for full Custody of your children and file court papers for the mothers to get a MENTAL HEALTH EVALUATION A.S.A.P..........

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Babi Daddi Clothes Line
by: Anonymous

The reason why I call my cloths line Babi Daddi is because when you get to that point you cannot go backwards. The things you go through with your boyfriend, husband, the guy on the side or the night you got drunk, or lonely or upset with the one your with, he can change your life in seconds or minutes if your lucky. These shirts are not just about Babi Daddi. These shirts express the way you feel when you are in a relationship. Don?t get mad at me, I am only telling the truth.

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to monalisa
by: Anonymous

Yes you are correct about Dead Beat Dads. However what you are missing is that the majorty of fathers are not dead beat dads. If only you knew how many times fathers are being abused by the system. The dead beat ones are still running. The ones that are trying to pay ,and the exwifepo is lying about every thing on earth and keeps trying to up the child support. Maybe does not take care of the child but just wants to collect or worst yet want let a father see his child. Then their are some that the ex jus blantly lied about never receiving any child support when he did pay 30 years ago. The system is still in the 1950' era and nothing is changed. So monalisa if you want to blog thats great but before you do look at all the men being abused .NO need to look at the women being abused that is always going to be their . The point i am making is just look at the men and then blog.

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