Dead Beat Millionaires Parent and Grandparents

by Maria Bowell
(Beaumont)

My ex son in law walked out on my daughter and her three little girls four years ago. He was a very successful custom home builder in Houston, his family, include developers and very wealthy entrepenuers, the children's grandparents own several companies both in Houston and Brazil. My ex son in law gambled, and considered a "high roller" he and his new girl friend went through all his money. My daughter and granddaughters moved into a smaller home in Sugar Land, and she worked full time to help support the girls. He was to pay for her their home, he did not and they foreclosed on the home, he was always behind, owing thousands of dollars in child support.


He would pay part of it, and never get caught up. His parents, multi-millionaires refused to help my daughter and the girls, but would give him money which never made to them. When they had her completely down, they would agree to give part of the money he owed her if she agreed to reduced support. She did, over and over again. My daughter and granddaughters lost their home. She asked them for help to get an apartment and they turned her down.

My husband and I are in our 60's moved her and the girls to Beaumont so we could help. My daughter commutes to Houston, works 10 hours a day and struggles financially. He has a new baby with his girl friend, his grandparents pay his home in Bellaire a high end area of Houston, has a nanny, travels,uses his mother's Amex for bills and no reported income. He owes my daughter over 6,000 in back child support, has reduced his support to the minimum, still does not pay it or it is so late she is late on her bills, her credit is ruined. He continues to see his kids, his parents enjoy all the joys of grandparent, but none of the responisibilities.

My husband called the wealthy grandfather and said we are doing all we can and he needed to get his son do his share, nothing came of that. My daughter called him and his parents, because the A/C broke down in her home, she was told "times are hard" we have no money. The grandfather recently closed a Houston deal for 5.5 million and can be seen on the internet in his multi-million condo development in Brazil.

The OAG says they can do nothing, because he shows no income. Yet my daughter and granddaughter's lives are constantly disrupted with visits to Houston, my daughter even has to meet him half way or she is in violation of visitation. The system is fauled and the ones who pay are the kids.

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Dead Beat Millionaires Parents and Grand Parents
by: Anonymous

Rich:

parents allow him to live his and support it. They should have common decency. These are their Grand Children not some random children off the street. I was married to their son. My children have every right to be heirs as the other Grand are now. They did not ask for this disability. my parents were wealthy too. My father would never discriminated against one Grandchild over the other as they have done to mine. I did not believe the state will take care of them as they do and obviously you do. There comes a point where should take care your blood family especially when you have the means.

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Dead Beat Parent and Grandparents
by: Anonymous

I have a similar situation where I have Autistic twins that I have sole physical and Legal custody. I related to your story. I was a single Mother solely supporting the children for many years. The most his Mother ever offered me was a 2 year old frozen turkey. I suppose she was in the spirit of giving after all. They own 50 to 60 properties in Orange and San Bernardino County in California. They have never done anything for their Grand Children. Their son lives a playboys lifestyle meeting few obligations. He intentionally withholds information about his income and states he makes no money as a CA Attorney and Real Estate Broker. His parents provide him with a nice home, car and trust. Meanwhile his children with special needs go without unless, I scrimp and save to pay for it. He has never paid a medical bill in their life despite being court ordered to pay one-half. They are 12 soon. Amazing how the court will do nothing and you must prove his income. He has never provided proof of his income despite subpoena after subpoena for child support. I wish, I could find an agency to make an example of him he is soon to be an heir of a vast fortune. I am so worried about what will happen to them upon my death for they will never be able to live 100% on their own. They will always need care. They have minds of 6 to 8 years old.

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The daughter
by: Anonymous

Hello,

Thank you all for your responses. Yes, plenty of proof. I get to look at pictures of him hanging out in Costa Rica enjoying himself at restraunts and had seen him on his Harley! (previously) By the way, he is now behind $40,000 in child support. I also am not sure why anyone who think she is liable. No names where mentioned except hers, if you know her than you already are fully aware of the situation.

HOWEVER, THAT IS NOT THE POINT. I don't think it is the Grandpartents responsibility to take care of their son's child support. However, I spent 12 years being a part of that family, and I don't think helping me fix an air conditioner in the middle of summer was too much to ask. I would of been more than happy to pay any money back. I am a very hard worker and don't want charity. However, it really isn't up to any of us to judge. Everyone will be judged in their own time. Meanwhile, if anyone is in a position to help parents please do. Kids are our future and it is all of our responsibilies to make sure they get everything we can give. So even if it is a warm meal, help driving them somewhere, loaning money, donated clothes or just letting them know you are there. It is hard for parents (and more so single parents) to work, stress about life, have enough energy to give kids the attention they deserve, take to activities so they can be involved in the community and help them with homework so they can get scholarships to go to college. Sometimes, there is not enough hours in the day. Thanks Mom for your support and caring enough to post such a story. It is very frustrating but as you know GOD has a plan!

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Good for you and ignore the other 2 :)
by: Anonymous

Well it is evident the first TWO responses are not supporters of your topic which I found to be remarkably brave. When there is a close DNA connection, of course there is an moral obligation to want to ensure the safety and wellbeing of all children, at least anyone NORMAL would relate to this. Grandparents who genuinely love their grandchildren would have booted the deadbeat son on his butt and taken care of the situation, at least that is what I would have done.

As for the threats of libel above, I find that a bit far fetched given there were no real names used in your message which was heartfelt and sincere. Goodluck to your daughter and grandbabies, I hope that the luck overturns!

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Re: Deadbeat Parents and Grandparents
by: Rich

Why do you seem to expect the father's parents to support their grandchildren? Parents are responsible for supporting their children, not grandparents.

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Proof??
by: Anonymous

A lot of allegations here, and possibly libel. Do you have proof that he uses his mother's AMEX, travels, and is living the high life? I know this is a forum for all of us to share our stories, but there seems to be a presence of angry people who will say anything to vilify another person. If you have proof, great. If not, then consider the fact that libel and other civil penalties against you could come into play here. This is a public and very visible website.

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