Im 100% woman! These woman just need to stop trapping men the way they do....and learn to get off their butts and do something! My hubby and I have been married for 10 yrs and have been trying to have kids with no success. Supposably he has a 16 yr old son from a previous relationship. And the story goes like this: He was with this bipolar woman for 5 months when he told her that he had enough and he was leaving! All of a sudden, shes telling him she's pregnant! He didnt believe her and still he left to go work out of state. He never saw/contacted her within that time. When he went back to the area he ran into her at the store and she stated to him that she was pregnant. He says that hs really couldnt tell because it was snowing and she had alot of clothes on! Yeah right, she would have been at least 5-6 months pregnant (or more) by then...he would've noticed, because she was a small woman. Anyway he shunned her off again and left.
He then returned to the area about a yr later to find that she really did have a baby, but the baby was only months old. She invited him to see the kid and he excepted. Next thing you know he's getting a summons to appear in court for child support. Now get this, he was an illegal alien back then who didnt speak but 10 english words! She told him that if he didnt sign the papers when he went to court, they would lock him up and deport him back to his country...fo course he was scared.When he appeared in court, there was no one there to translate, he stated that he barely knew anything what was being said....and when they brought the papers to him, his just signed them.
Well, he told me this story within the first month of meeting him and I advised him to get paternity tests done. She has been avoiding him since. I wanted to meet the kid, because I love kids and I wanted to him to share in our lives. Well the mom refused.My hubby and I have seen this kid 3 times in 10 yrs, by accident. The kid barely calls my hubby dad. My hubby cant take the kid without written letter from his mom, also even with that he cant take the kid outside of the county where she initially got the child support order...court orders from day one.....like my hubby was a criminal or something! Anyway now shes asking for $1500 month, they're trying to give her this and the courts are also asking about my income! Well I tell you what, thats not freaking happening because we're trying to get paternity tests now and even if by some miracle it is his child....They are not getting my money for something they did in the past! I have the means to get a good lawyer and Im a no nonsense kinda woman...0 tolerance for BS!
I have too many friends in high places for me not to exploit this uncivilized justice among us american citizens! Why should others have to pay for ignorant people? I even went as far as telling my hubby that we can still be a part of this kids life even if the tests show that he's not my hubbys! I love kids....but all this baby momma drama has got to stop! These DEADBEAT MOMS ARE THE ONE WHO MAKE IT HARDER FOR THE ONES WHO ARE REALLY TRYING TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN A KIDS LIFE!