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Dealing with crazy baby mama

by Frustated
(Atlanta, ga)

Ten years ago I was in a relationship with a woman I considered myself to be in love with. I asked her to marry me and while we were engaged she got pregnant. Now let me preference this by saying that she had one child when we met as did I. I had explicitly explained to her that we could not afford another child at that time and that we needed to pool our money together to get our own place as she was living with her parents at the time. Well I learned that she was not the one for me and broke off the engagement. Shortly thereafter when my son was born I decided that maybe we could make it work as I didn't want to have another child out of wedlock. So we got engaged a second time but still we couldn't make it work so I moved on. Years later after I had found someone new she decided that she wanted to get back together but at that point it was too late. When she found out I was getting married - my child is now five - she went to the courts to file child support. Even though I was giving her money and trying to see my son when she wasn't being difficult. Now we are going back and forth in child support court because they are trying to make me pay more than I can afford. I make my payments on time and they still garnished my wages and suspended my license without my knowledge. I drive for a living, if I had gotten arrested for a suspended license I would have lost my job and no one would have gotten child support. But still I have to pay for the incompetence of our child support system but yet I get no visitation with my son. She is contesting legitimation because she doesn't want me to have any rights. I feel that the law should state unless a woman is willing to not contest to legitimation and visitation that she deserves no child support. So now I am paying a woman that purposely quit her job so that I can support her and her three children which only one is mine. But I don't get to help raise my son and he wonders why his daddy won't come and see him. The laws are crazy. They are not in the best interest of the child. I think us non-custodial parents should ban together and change the laws. Whose with me?

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Jan 14, 2010
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I agree that the child support laws are crazy
by: Kyle C

I agree that there needs to be more attention to the child support laws. I am a 18 year old still in highschool.about a year and a half ago i met the girl ithought i was going to marry we were normal teens and she became pregnant about five months into the relationship.i did not know that her mom was a gold digger who quit her job and got child support from my girlfriends dad. and she receives disability money from the government.but on the other hand when my girlfriends mom forced us to have the baby and i am still working the whole time. And both of them are so lazy and selfish and ask to much of me by abusing my ability to drive.And my girlfreinds mom just gets drunk and sleeps.If i end the relationship her mom will push for child support for sure and probably custody. What do i do,i need help im losing my mind. keep in mind that both of them do not work.

Nov 24, 2009
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todays fathers are not like the past. We are not running from our responsibilities!!!!
by: Something has got to give.

I agree with what everyone is saying and I am going through it as well. it?s good to know that I am not alone. These laws do have to change. Today?s parents are not the same as years past. Fathers are trying to be in their kids? lives and are not running as "they say" many did years ago. I don?t feel that a woman should be able to deny a father his rights to see his kids if you decide to ask for child support. If you don?t want the father to see his kids then you waive all rights to child support. that how I feel. because if she say no he can?t see his kids then we as fathers are already out $2500 bucks trying to pay for a lawyer to fight to see our kids. and if we can?t afford the amount they make us pay for child support how can we pay for a lawyer. Something needs to give. I am all for a man taking care of his responsibilities which most men today want to and are but it has to be fair because if you are telling me that it takes anywhere between 600 to 1,000 dollars a month to raise a kid how much does it take for me to live and I?m a grown ass man!!! if there is any way we can pretention and take this to our state officials, the President of the USA, Oprah show, Steve Harvey show Ellen show or as many radio shows as possible please let me know because I am down with this movement. Life is not fair and the laws protect women and allow them to do whatever they wish without any responsibilities. If a woman says she want to or do not want to have a kid she has that choice and right and the man has no say so at all even if he wanted to or not. if you want to cut down on unwanted pregnancy and high teenage pregnancy then I guarantee if you made women more responsible for their actions and the laws more fair you would see a drop in a heartbeat. but as they stand today if the she gets pregnant and she don?t want to be with the father or he is not ready for a child then the law makes the man pay for both parties involved mistake. the only rights and say so a father has is the 15 seconds it took for him to put a condom on or not after that it?s all downhill from there as far as fathers are concerned. I will end this by saying not all mothers fall in this category but there are more who do then those who do not.

P.S. if you dont think that child suoort is a billion dollar business then you are fooling yourself. i remember when you use to be able to talk to a case worker about your case now they have a call center that you have to talk to a rep. on the phone and half of them are bitter as well because they may be going through some things with their chilfrens father and choose to take it out on you. the system is flawed. And they are truly sticking it to us fathers.

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Nov 24, 2009
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Submitted by: Something has got to give.

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I agree with what everyone is saying and I am going through it as well. it?s good to know that I am not alone. These laws do have to change. Today?s parents are not the same as years past. Fathers are trying to be in their kids? lives and are not running as "they say" many did years ago. I don?t feel that a woman should be able to deny a father his rights to see his kids if you decide to ask for child support. If you don?t want the father to see his kids then you waive all rights to child support. that how I feel. because if she say no he can?t see his kids then we as fathers are already out $2500 bucks trying to pay for a lawyer to fight to see our kids. and if we can?t afford the amount they make us pay for child support how can we pay for a lawyer. Something needs to give. I am all for a man taking care of his responsibilities which most men today want to and are but it has to be fair because if you are telling me that it takes anywhere between 600 to 1,000 dollars a month to raise a kid how much does it take for me to live and I?m a grown ass man!!! if there is any way we can pretention and take this to our state officials, the President of the USA, Oprah show, Steve Harvey show Ellen show or as many radio shows as possible please let me know because I am down with this movement. Life is not fair and the laws protect women and allow them to do whatever they wish without any responsibilities. If a woman says she want to or do not want to have a kid she has that choice and right and the man has no say so at all even if he wanted to or not. if you want to cut down on unwanted pregnancy and high teenage pregnancy then I guarantee if you made women more responsible for their actions and the laws more fair you would see a drop in a heartbeat. but as they stand today if the she gets pregnant and she don?t want to be with the father or he is not ready for a child then the law makes the man pay for both parties involved mistake. the only rights and say so a father has is the 15 seconds it took for him to put a condom on or not after that it?s all downhill from there as far as fathers are concerned. I will end this by saying not all mothers fall in this category but there are more who do then those who do not. P.S. if you dont think that child suoort is a billion dollar business then you are fooling yourself. i remember when you use to be able to talk to a case worker about your case now they have a call center that you have to talk to a rep. on the phone and half of them are bitter as well because they may be going through some things with their chilfrens father and choose to take it out on you. the system is flawed. And they are truly sticking it to us fathers.

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Nov 20, 2009
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You are not alone
by: Jannette

I just got engaged to a wonderful man, we set our wedding date for 2/10, he has a 7 yr old daughter with his ex-girlfriend, she cheated on him when the baby was just 3 yrs old and left the state with his daughter and made a new life for herself with the man she cheated with. My fiancé gives her $600 a month for his daughter as part of agreement between them, she didn't allowed him to see his daughter because he was in a different state, he then left his job, sold his house and moved to the same state just to be near his daughter with the hope to see her often, since then he has only seen her 3 times this year, he makes less money than what he was making before, and still manages to send her $300 every two weeks.
The baby's mother moved one state further making it difficult for him to see her. with that he still sends her the money without hesitation not to mention the fact that if his daughter needs something he buys it for her and doesn't deduct any money from the arranged said amount. He is a good father, has not failed her in years, his baby's mother knows about the wedding and decided to take him to court for child support and visitations, i feel she is doing it to keep him there, I live in a different state and have not seen my fiancé in 6 months, we talk to each other every day, I love him and still want to marry him, I believe that your baby's mother is trying to stop you from making a life of your own and make you misserable dont allow her to do so, I strongly believe in everything you said and I am with you, although am not a father, I know what you are going through, hang in there, you are not alone.

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Nov 20, 2009
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I just got engaged to a wonderful man, we set our wedding date for 2/10, he has a 7 yr old daughter with his ex-girlfriend, she cheated on him when the baby was just 3 yrs old and left the state with his daughter and made a new life for herself with the man she cheated with. My fiancé gives her $600 a month for his daughter as part of agreement between them, she didn't allowed him to see his daughter because he was in a different state, he then left his job, sold his house and moved to the same state just to be near his daughter with the hope to see her often, since then he has only seen her 3 times this year, he makes less money than what he was making before, and still manages to send her $300 every two weeks. The baby's mother moved one state further making it difficult for him to see her. with that he still sends her the money without hesitation not to mention the fact that if his daughter needs something he buys it for her and doesn't deduct any money from the arranged said amount. He is a good father, has not failed her in years, his baby's mother knows about the wedding and decided to take him to court for child support and visitations, i feel she is doing it to keep him there, I live in a different state and have not seen my fiancé in 6 months, we talk to each other every day, I love him and still want to marry him, I believe that your baby's mother is trying to stop you from making a life of your own and make you misserable dont allow her to do so, I strongly believe in everything you said and I am with you, although am not a father, I know what you are going through, hang in there, you are not alone.

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Nov 18, 2009
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I feel you all I need help too
by: Alexis Armstrong

I am involved with a man who I am scheduled to marry next year. I have been stalked, harassed, assaulted twice, falsely put in jail, and had to watch my child die in my arms, all because of the female who will not leave me alone. I want to sue her because my orders of protections are not working and nothing is getting through to this girl to leave me alone. I have missed countless days of work; quit a job because of security, been in the hospital and it is not just two girls fighting over a male. I need her to understand that she ONLY has issues with the father of her child, my fiancé, and not me. I work, with no assistance from our state, and she does not. It is become increasing frustrating that nothing is really getting done to prevent her from attacking me every time I am in public with or without my fiancé; we both have restraining orders against her.

Severia Heard is the mother of my fiancé?s two year old child. I do not know her but she has seeked me out on the internet in 2005, pretending to be a student from my school. She knew I was Eric's ex girlfriend from high school and I was a RA, so I never thought anything of it back then until the beginning of this year when my High School Sweetheart (Eric) came back into my life after being away at college. I feel like there needs to be some what of a shock to this girl, I do not want to fight anymore. I know she is a crazy baby mama who is also a whore (sorry) she has genital herpes that she contracted after they had not been together, (HE DOESN?T) and neither do I but she is always calling me about the times they slept together. I need help fast or I?m going to jail.

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Nov 18, 2009
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Submitted by: Alexis Armstrong

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I am involved with a man who I am scheduled to marry next year. I have been stalked, harassed, assaulted twice, falsely put in jail, and had to watch my child die in my arms, all because of the female who will not leave me alone. I want to sue her because my orders of protections are not working and nothing is getting through to this girl to leave me alone. I have missed countless days of work; quit a job because of security, been in the hospital and it is not just two girls fighting over a male. I need her to understand that she ONLY has issues with the father of her child, my fiancé, and not me. I work, with no assistance from our state, and she does not. It is become increasing frustrating that nothing is really getting done to prevent her from attacking me every time I am in public with or without my fiancé; we both have restraining orders against her. Severia Heard is the mother of my fiancé?s two year old child. I do not know her but she has seeked me out on the internet in 2005, pretending to be a student from my school. She knew I was Eric's ex girlfriend from high school and I was a RA, so I never thought anything of it back then until the beginning of this year when my High School Sweetheart (Eric) came back into my life after being away at college. I feel like there needs to be some what of a shock to this girl, I do not want to fight anymore. I know she is a crazy baby mama who is also a whore (sorry) she has genital herpes that she contracted after they had not been together, (HE DOESN?T) and neither do I but she is always calling me about the times they slept together. I need help fast or I?m going to jail.

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Nov 10, 2009
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To Anonymous posted on Oct 7, 2009
by: Anonymous

I'm going through the exact same situation as u right now brother. Same age dealing w/ a crazy ex...have court next wk in which I will probably have my a** handed to me (biased courts)...just know ur not alone. Career wise, I looked good bf all of this but the crazy ex is DRAINING me and my relationships...gives me hope that others my age are going through the same thing.

Oct 17, 2009
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Some are just plain crazy!
by: Anonymous

I have a 1 year old by a girl i was gonna marry.I quit my job of 16 years to move to her city to help raise my son.(like a Dummy)when i get there I was unable to find work,but i took care of our son while she went to work and school.after 4 months of this she said she wasn't happy and wanted me to leave.so i leave then after i'm back for 3 months she comes and says lets work things out it too hard to take care of our son by herself.so i go back and after 3 months she says she ain't happy again and is staying out all nite while i watch our son.so i leave and this time i tell her i'm not coming back,and she makes it so hard for me to see my son.i don't have a car to drive to her city.she won't bring him to me.she makes excuses when i make a way to get down there to see him or to bring him with me back to my moms.she won't let me do that.she says she don't feel safe letting him come with me to my moms.but it ok for her to bring these guys around my son.she uses him as a pawn because she know i really love my son.its sad that women like to play these games but it don't do nothing but hurt the kids.its out of my hands so i just left it to god and she will have to answer to him.

Oct 07, 2009
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im not alone
by: Anonymous

i would like to commment on ur story ,im a 25 year old with a two year old whos great and loves his daddy ,ive spent thousands on lawyers break ups and make ups .she uses my son as a pon in this game of hers she lets me and him see eachother then trys to kill my spirit by not anwsering or accepting child support and when we get in court the judge will beleve her that i havent ben there 4 my son and the truth is she wont let me.another thing i dont have alot of money to hire another lawyer,so i went to the childsupport office and said i want to be put on childsuport they told me i gotta go to court.so i went to the courts and talked to them they said i have to pay a fee to open the case ,then to open a case u gotta pay a lawyer then a filing fee.what do yall think?advise wanted

Jul 25, 2009
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same ole
by: Anonymous

the child support laws in GA have als hurt our family . A woman can file child abandonment anytime she wants to in GA, even if child support is paid on time . Which has happened to my husband , and it just makes no sense that baby mama looses her job and nothing happens to her except she gets more money, if my husband lost his job , he would loose his lisense/ or go to jail fr failure to pay child support.. I am so sad for all the people who are involved in GA child support system . = (

Jun 28, 2009
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THE TRAPPED FATHER
by: Anonymous

WHAT LAWS ARE THERE FOR A MAN WHO WAS TRAPPED BY A WOMAN WHO DECIDED LIE ABOUT CONCEPTION IN ORDER TO KEEP A RELATIONSHIP?

Jun 12, 2009
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I agree
by: Anonymous

The laws do need to be changed! I agree if a woman has a child out of wedlock (woman typing) then she doesn't deserve to get court order child support. Women it is our responsibilities to protect ourselves. We have more than enough tools to accomplish that yet we choose not too. I have more friends with multiple children by multiple men than I would like to admit. I don't understand why after having one child out of wedlock and realizing the struggle why women would go and do that to themselves again and again and again. The ways the laws are now set-up they don't make the women responsible for their own behavior. Grant it, men should strap it up to, but women should strp themselves up since it's always mama's baby and daddy's maybe. Since the laws favor the women then women have more responsibility to protect themselves and any children they decide to have. The system doesn't care about the women, men, or children. All these politicians care about is the federal monies they receive by claiming to have a child support program in place and that they are collecting so much amount of money. Then they take that federal money and spend it anyway there choose. There is no one governing how this money is spent. Please help me change this by href=http://petitionchildsupportreform.com/clicking here NOW.

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Jun 12, 2009
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The laws do need to be changed! I agree if a woman has a child out of wedlock (woman typing) then she doesn't deserve to get court order child support. Women it is our responsibilities to protect ourselves. We have more than enough tools to accomplish that yet we choose not too. I have more friends with multiple children by multiple men than I would like to admit. I don't understand why after having one child out of wedlock and realizing the struggle why women would go and do that to themselves again and again and again. The ways the laws are now set-up they don't make the women responsible for their own behavior. Grant it, men should strap it up to, but women should strp themselves up since it's always mama's baby and daddy's maybe. Since the laws favor the women then women have more responsibility to protect themselves and any children they decide to have. The system doesn't care about the women, men, or children. All these politicians care about is the federal monies they receive by claiming to have a child support program in place and that they are collecting so much amount of money. Then they take that federal money and spend it anyway there choose. There is no one governing how this money is spent. Please help me change this by <a>href=http://petitionchildsupportreform.com/clicking here NOW</a>.

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Jun 11, 2009
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THE LAWS NEED TO BE CHANGED
by: Anonymous

I DO NOT believe that any woman should be able to collect child support from a man if she decided to have a child out of wedlock. If you cannot tell a woman what to do with her body and you can't force her to have an abortion then she should NOT be able to force a man to pay child support for a child he never wanted. These men are being forced to support children for 18-21 years. THE LAWS NEED TO BE CHANGED. Everyone keeps saying that the laws are in the best interest of a child. Well if momma doesn't care enough to have her child in wedlock then why should anyone else care about the child. MEN GET SCREWED WITH CHILD SUPPORT!!!!! AND JUDGES ARE HORRIFIC WHEN IT COMES TO THESE TYPES OF CASES! This comment is coming from a woman. No woman should have a child she can't support. If a woman has a child out of wedlock it is always to trap a man or use her womb as an ATM machine. I do believe that a man should pay support if he was married to the woman but not if the child was born out of wedlock.

Jun 01, 2009
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2 sides to a story
by: Anonymous

I'm sorry there is always 2 sides to a story when it comes to child support. Can't always blame it on the mother.

May 25, 2009
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Not all baby mama's are bad
by: Anonymous

I am currently going through a horrible situation with the baby daddy. We took zero precautions when it came to pregnancy so when I became pregnant with our daughter it was no surprise for any of us. However he decided to tell me that he was going to terminate my pregnancy one way or another. I had surgery during my pregnancy all of which he wished something would happen to our daughter.

After she was born I immediately took him to court to get the custody legalized. At first we did not deal with child support, rather just making sure custody was legal. I was granted sole custody and he was granted supervised visitations, mainly because I had proof of the threats and a few years prior he had picked up his 2 kids from his 1st marriage and left the state wtihout the moms knowledge - that is how she found out he was leaving her. He was ordered by the courts to return those children after all was said and done.

Now I have a very sick child - she has many health issues - ranging from a blood disorder to severe heart problems. I have only asked for the basic amounts of child support for the first year, now I am asking he contribute a bit to her childcare (she needs specialized childcare due to her health while I work) and a bit towards her medical since there are major medical expenses associated with her.

He is fighting with everything he has, not once has he ever tried to arrange for a visitation and the only times he has seen her the past year is when I took her around - he does not care what happens and has wished she not wake up from her upcoming surgery she is having.

I work my ass off, I have 2 kids - one of which is his. I bring home my own income, I pay for childcare for both kids, I pay my rent, buy my food for me and my kids, clothes, toys, and I cover medical for both kids.

I've had to get a loan to help assist in her medical costs when she was very sick and he doesn't care.

The judge already figured it out and said based on his income and my income he would be responsible for over 60% of this however the 40% i ask is too much.

Why should my daughter suffer because he doesn't want to see her. I have never denied him visitation ever. This was all his doing, and sure I have been a hot head at moments and been really mean, but never ever have I denied him access.

So where is this fair to a baby mama??

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May 25, 2009
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I am currently going through a horrible situation with the baby daddy. We took zero precautions when it came to pregnancy so when I became pregnant with our daughter it was no surprise for any of us. However he decided to tell me that he was going to terminate my pregnancy one way or another. I had surgery during my pregnancy all of which he wished something would happen to our daughter. After she was born I immediately took him to court to get the custody legalized. At first we did not deal with child support, rather just making sure custody was legal. I was granted sole custody and he was granted supervised visitations, mainly because I had proof of the threats and a few years prior he had picked up his 2 kids from his 1st marriage and left the state wtihout the moms knowledge - that is how she found out he was leaving her. He was ordered by the courts to return those children after all was said and done. Now I have a very sick child - she has many health issues - ranging from a blood disorder to severe heart problems. I have only asked for the basic amounts of child support for the first year, now I am asking he contribute a bit to her childcare (she needs specialized childcare due to her health while I work) and a bit towards her medical since there are major medical expenses associated with her. He is fighting with everything he has, not once has he ever tried to arrange for a visitation and the only times he has seen her the past year is when I took her around - he does not care what happens and has wished she not wake up from her upcoming surgery she is having. I work my ass off, I have 2 kids - one of which is his. I bring home my own income, I pay for childcare for both kids, I pay my rent, buy my food for me and my kids, clothes, toys, and I cover medical for both kids. I've had to get a loan to help assist in her medical costs when she was very sick and he doesn't care. The judge already figured it out and said based on his income and my income he would be responsible for over 60% of this however the 40% i ask is too much. Why should my daughter suffer because he doesn't want to see her. I have never denied him visitation ever. This was all his doing, and sure I have been a hot head at moments and been really mean, but never ever have I denied him access. So where is this fair to a baby mama??

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Apr 29, 2009
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his ex(girlfriend)
by: Thecoolstepmom!

I am going through the same thing with my husband. His ex girlfriend lied to him about being on birth control and talked him into taking off his condom( which was a bad decision HE made). He wasnt even in a relationship with her at the time. They had split up for awhile and she called him up because a mutual friend was hanging at her place. Then one thing turned to another...needless to say his friends and her roommate all know that she started taking pregnancy test the next day. So we all know she lied. What makes it worse is that his own mom sides with her and instegates feuds between them. She quit her job and took him to court so she could get alot of support from him. Now she has moved to another state and he gets to see his child maybe once a month. I think child support laws for previously married and never married cases should differ. Greatly considering most women who were not married want full custody, they should be primarily responsible for the childs needs and have to keep the child on her insurance and not the noncustodial parent. It should be a 60/40 rule or even a 70/30. If the woman does not agree to share custody.

Apr 02, 2009
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I need help!
by: Wife of husband - dealing with crazy baby mama

Hello - I am the wife of the man who started this post. Let me just tell you as a brand new wife, dealing with these baby mama issues is really driving me crazy. We live in GA and my husband just got laid off from his job. The state told him that they don't care that he doesn't have a job, he is still responsible for the court ordered child support. On top of all of that he has now been served by his other baby mama for child support who lives in GA. I have another friend who license is suspended because while he was unemployed he could not pay his child support and now owes back pay. But the original child support payment was based on a job where he made $50K a year and now with the worsening econmony he only makes $14K a year. The stress alone has caused him to go to the hospital where he now has another bill because he has no health insurance. He is extremely depressed by his lowered rate of living. My husband too is extremely depressed by his situation. We haven't been married for a year and his baby mama's jumped on the chance to throw a monkey wrench into our happy home. I think the child support system is extremely flawed. I am looking for people who live in the state of GA that can help me write letters to our representatives and to our Attorney General. I am looking for all people to join me in writing daily letters or emails to the president, to talk show hosts such as Oprah, Dr. Phil, Maury Povich, famous pastors like T.D. Jakes, Joel Olsten, anybody who has every written a book about child support and custody. Someone who won't mind doing a youtube video on a regular basis about the topic. If we can create enough buzz I really believe in my heart that we can make a change. All those interested please email me at eshantell@hotmail.com

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Apr 02, 2009
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Hello - I am the wife of the man who started this post. Let me just tell you as a brand new wife, dealing with these baby mama issues is really driving me crazy. We live in GA and my husband just got laid off from his job. The state told him that they don't care that he doesn't have a job, he is still responsible for the court ordered child support. On top of all of that he has now been served by his other baby mama for child support who lives in GA. I have another friend who license is suspended because while he was unemployed he could not pay his child support and now owes back pay. But the original child support payment was based on a job where he made $50K a year and now with the worsening econmony he only makes $14K a year. The stress alone has caused him to go to the hospital where he now has another bill because he has no health insurance. He is extremely depressed by his lowered rate of living. My husband too is extremely depressed by his situation. We haven't been married for a year and his baby mama's jumped on the chance to throw a monkey wrench into our happy home. I think the child support system is extremely flawed. I am looking for people who live in the state of GA that can help me write letters to our representatives and to our Attorney General. I am looking for all people to join me in writing daily letters or emails to the president, to talk show hosts such as Oprah, Dr. Phil, Maury Povich, famous pastors like T.D. Jakes, Joel Olsten, anybody who has every written a book about child support and custody. Someone who won't mind doing a youtube video on a regular basis about the topic. If we can create enough buzz I really believe in my heart that we can make a change. All those interested please email me at eshantell@hotmail.com

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Mar 11, 2009
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I feel for you
by: Anonymous

I come from a broken family and my mom basically took everything from my dad and never worked. Because of this I always feel for you poor men. I've been in relationship with a dad for a year. We both love each other, but its annoying because he is still a money train for his baby's mom and he does'nt have a backbone to make his ex pull her own weight, he wants to avoid court.Their relationship was on thin ice when she "acidentally got pregnant because she didn't know the nurse gave her atibiodics". The sad thing is that he believes it was an accident. This girl had no job, license, high school diploma, and lived with dad when she got pregnant. He let her live with him for free while she didn't work, and he paid for her to go to school and become a medical aid. Now she still drives his truck, which he pays insurance for, he pays for all their daughters medical bills, plus $800 a month on top of that and he just signed a paper for her saying that he only gave her $200 so she could continue raping the taxpayers too. At least she works though. I met with her a few times and all was she could talk about was her collection of over 50 parummes and her expensive makeup. I don't know. I love him a lot and his daughter is great ( im just getting to know her)I just don't want his ex to come in between our love. I just hope she gets another man or figures out how to pull her own weight. We talk about having a child together, but I'm just scared that i'll just end up supporting his ex with him.

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Mar 11, 2009
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I come from a broken family and my mom basically took everything from my dad and never worked. Because of this I always feel for you poor men. I've been in relationship with a dad for a year. We both love each other, but its annoying because he is still a money train for his baby's mom and he does'nt have a backbone to make his ex pull her own weight, he wants to avoid court.Their relationship was on thin ice when she "acidentally got pregnant because she didn't know the nurse gave her atibiodics". The sad thing is that he believes it was an accident. This girl had no job, license, high school diploma, and lived with dad when she got pregnant. He let her live with him for free while she didn't work, and he paid for her to go to school and become a medical aid. Now she still drives his truck, which he pays insurance for, he pays for all their daughters medical bills, plus $800 a month on top of that and he just signed a paper for her saying that he only gave her $200 so she could continue raping the taxpayers too. At least she works though. I met with her a few times and all was she could talk about was her collection of over 50 parummes and her expensive makeup. I don't know. I love him a lot and his daughter is great ( im just getting to know her)I just don't want his ex to come in between our love. I just hope she gets another man or figures out how to pull her own weight. We talk about having a child together, but I'm just scared that i'll just end up supporting his ex with him.

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Jan 20, 2009
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what
by: Anonymous

take away everything and leave me nothing.nothing so that i can live take away my transportation and take away my roof over my head,but what gives you the right?to make away i need a way to get there, a place to sleep, to get up and keep on how does this make sense at all.we need to know who gave them the right and why does it make sense to every one else,but the man who has no rights and is jailed as if you get some sort of discount for being in jail or if the payment stopped while you are in jail and made a criminal for trying to do your best with what you have.some men get a bad rapp and some women do too that pay support.i truly see child support as a way of giving damaged and very unhappy at some point in their life lawyers and case workers a job and the state some reason to hide behind the biggest wallet rape since personal property tax.let both parents deal with the choice they have made and keep the f@#King state out of us raising our children.every begging parent isn't always wrong but before you put a non-cuctodial parents life in hell,have some nuts about it and try to get it in your head that you can't get blood out of a beet,so why doyouthink anyone else can no matter what they may be faced with everyone should be responsible for their own and stop acting like someone owes you for being a parent .and i was raised by my mom and aunts and my grandmother.... they asked for nothing cause,if i can't raise my son then i know who can help me ,and she said god and not the government we really need to stop this ugly monster called child support and answer for our own

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Jan 20, 2009
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take away everything and leave me nothing.nothing so that i can live take away my transportation and take away my roof over my head,but what gives you the right?to make away i need a way to get there, a place to sleep, to get up and keep on how does this make sense at all.we need to know who gave them the right and why does it make sense to every one else,but the man who has no rights and is jailed as if you get some sort of discount for being in jail or if the payment stopped while you are in jail and made a criminal for trying to do your best with what you have.some men get a bad rapp and some women do too that pay support.i truly see child support as a way of giving damaged and very unhappy at some point in their life lawyers and case workers a job and the state some reason to hide behind the biggest wallet rape since personal property tax.let both parents deal with the choice they have made and keep the f@#King state out of us raising our children.every begging parent isn't always wrong but before you put a non-cuctodial parents life in hell,have some nuts about it and try to get it in your head that you can't get blood out of a beet,so why doyouthink anyone else can no matter what they may be faced with everyone should be responsible for their own and stop acting like someone owes you for being a parent .and i was raised by my mom and aunts and my grandmother.... they asked for nothing cause,if i can't raise my son then i know who can help me ,and she said god and not the government we really need to stop this ugly monster called child support and answer for our own

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Jan 05, 2009
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I agree
by: stephanie

I just got married and am expecting a baby with my husband but his baby mamma is the same way, he doesnt get to see his son and she has another child by someone else and she wants to sit on her ass and take my husbands money. The government acts like these women are so helpless. There is nothing fair about a woman getting pregnant and lying about it for 4 months just so that she can trap a man and then the government forces him to pay for a child he never even wanted, its total bull@#$%!

Jan 04, 2009
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we are with you
by: Anonymous

I agree 100%! The laws are not for the children or the non custodial parents.I think some big fat worthless cow made up the laws to hold a grudge against all men because they wont give her a free ride for trapping men with her uterus!All they see is $$$$$$$.You need to get a lawyer and sock it to her ass and show her she needs to get a job because you are NOT her gravy train!
The money you spend for a lawyer now will be recouped within one year of hand outs to her sorry ass!You may even be able to see the child too.
Good luck to you,it took me 18 years to figure this out and I am still paying but only half as much as before she turned 18.God Bless You and BEST of luck just don't stop fighting you can do this.

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