DECEIVED FOR 13 YEARS

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DECEIVED FOR 13 YEARS

by SHAD MCFARLAND
(AMANDA, OH)

I WAS MARRIED FOR NINE YEARS AND HAD 2 CHILDREN. MY WIFE CHEATED ON ME AND FILED FOR DIVORCE. THE DIVORCE LASTED 6 YEARS. AFTER 6 YEARS THE COURT FINALLY GRANTED A PATERNITY TEST AND I FOUND OUT THAT MY DAGHTER IS NOT MY BIOLOGICAL DAUGHTER. I TRIED TO GET THE COURT TO HAVE MY EX PAY FOR ALL OF THE CHILD SUPPORT THAT I HAVE PAID OVER THE LAST 6 YEARS, BUT WAS QUICKLY SHOT DOWN. HOW IS IT THAT A WOMAN CAN NOT ONLY DECEIVE HER HUSBAND FOR 13 YEARS, BUT ALSO DECEIVE THE COURT AND THE COURT SYSTEM TURNS A BLIND EYE? TO ME, THAT’S NO DIFFERENT THAN LYING ON THE STAND! ITS CALLED FRAUD!
THE REASON, THE COUNTY CSEA GETS FEDERAL MONEY THAT MATCHES EVERY DOLLOR THEY COLLECT THROUGH CHILD SUPPORT PAYMENTS. IT’S A BROKEN SYSTEM AND SOMEONE NEEDS TO REVISE THE SYSTEM. EVERY GOOD DAD NEEDS TO WRITE YOUR CONGRESSMAN SO THAT NEW LAWS CAN BE ENACTED TO STOP MONEY-GRUBBING MOTHERS FROM FEEDING OFF THE SYSTEM. WHAT IS THE FUTURE FOR OUR KIDS?
BY THE WAY, I LIVE IN FAIRFIELD COUNTY, OH. GUYS, IF YOU’RE THINKING OF GETTING MARRIED, DONT GET MARIED IN FAIRFIELD COUNTY, OH. TRUST ME, YOU WILL GET SCREWED IF YOU GET A DIVORCE. HOW IS IT THAT A WOMAN CAN CHEAT ON HER HUSBAND AND STILL COME OUT SMELLING LIKE A ROSE? I BELIEVE THE COURT SYSTEM IS A FRIEND TO THE MOTHER. I THOUGHT OUR COURT SYSTEM WAS SUPPOSED TO BE PARTIAL. THERE SHOULD BE EQUAL RIGHTS TO BOTH PARTIES.

IV’E ALREADY BEGUN WRITING MY CONGRESSMAN THAT SOMETHING NEEDS TO BE DONE, THEY’RE NEEDS TO BE ONE VOICE FROM ALL OF THE FATHERS THAT HAVE BEEN WRONGED BY A BROKEN SYSTEM. I KNOW I AM MORE THAN WILLING TO STAND UP AND FIGHT FOR FATHERS RIGHTS. IT ALL STARTS AS A GRASS ROOTS CAMPAIGN AND IT STARTS WITH ME. HOW ABOUT YOU? FATHERS, ITS TIME TO STAND AND FIGHT!!!!!!!

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Aug 16, 2009
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I am for the Class Action
by: Anonymous

Another paternity fraud victim here. Ready for the class action suit. Have DNA test proving I am not the father. Found out when child was ten years old. Ex wife needs to be held accountable. Iam still paying.

Post here and I will help in any way with the class action.

Jun 11, 2009
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P.I. Advice
by: G. Young

I'm a former Private Investigator and the wife of a paternity fraud victim...

For all of you dealing with fraud, know this if nothing else... The support agencies will NOT help you. They get money for collecting money and it's big business. For anyone just getting started on their defense, do the following:

First, get a mail-ordered DNA test (cheap around $65 for non-admissable to court type if you just want personal confirmation or heafty around $275 if you want the kind that you can use in court) then make nice with mom long enough to get a visit with the child. Swab the cheek and wait for your written evidence.

Second, RECORD any comments about the child not being yours. Get her mad over the phone, put the phone on speaker (if you don't have a built in digital) and use a recorder. It's not illegal to record your own conversatons within your own house and the tape is admissable in court.

Third, hire an investigator before hiring an attorney. Find out who else knew what she did and have their full name and current contact info available for summons when you're ready to take the mom to court for fraud. Try to find the most religous based person close to the mom as they have the tendency not to lie on the stand. You gather as much info as possible before hiring the attorney because attorneys will hire investigators to obtain background on cases and charge you double the fee.

We've been there - Good Luck - and please read my posting TWINS. I'm experimenting in volumn posts concerning paternity fraud as gathering massive victims could lead to a CLASS ACTION suit that could get the laws changed in this country. Leave some contact info if you're interested.

And for this poor soul who tried on his own once before to be heard, perhaps a national CLASS ACTION would be your next best bet. If you can copy this post to other blogs where you know this type fraud has happened, maybe we can all get together and do something about it. There's strenght in numbers and by my research, there are tens of thousands of fraud victims out there. Thnx

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Jun 11, 2009
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Submitted by: G. Young

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I'm a former Private Investigator and the wife of a paternity fraud victim... For all of you dealing with fraud, know this if nothing else... The support agencies will NOT help you. They get money for collecting money and it's big business. For anyone just getting started on their defense, do the following: First, get a mail-ordered DNA test (cheap around $65 for non-admissable to court type if you just want personal confirmation or heafty around $275 if you want the kind that you can use in court) then make nice with mom long enough to get a visit with the child. Swab the cheek and wait for your written evidence. Second, RECORD any comments about the child not being yours. Get her mad over the phone, put the phone on speaker (if you don't have a built in digital) and use a recorder. It's not illegal to record your own conversatons within your own house and the tape is admissable in court. Third, hire an investigator before hiring an attorney. Find out who else knew what she did and have their full name and current contact info available for summons when you're ready to take the mom to court for fraud. Try to find the most religous based person close to the mom as they have the tendency not to lie on the stand. You gather as much info as possible before hiring the attorney because attorneys will hire investigators to obtain background on cases and charge you double the fee. We've been there - Good Luck - and please read my posting TWINS. I'm experimenting in volumn posts concerning paternity fraud as gathering massive victims could lead to a CLASS ACTION suit that could get the laws changed in this country. Leave some contact info if you're interested. And for this poor soul who tried on his own once before to be heard, perhaps a national CLASS ACTION would be your next best bet. If you can copy this post to other blogs where you know this type fraud has happened, maybe we can all get together and do something about it. There's strenght in numbers and by my research, there are tens of thousands of fraud victims out there. Thnx

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Apr 15, 2009
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I Knew your Wife
by: Shada

I knew your Wife, her name was Tammy right?

She worked with me at Bank one in 2002. I am really sorry that this happended to you, I saw all kinds of pics of u two and your son and daughter. I also knew the guy she cheated on you with. I thought it was only once but who knows, after she quit there, I never really heard from her again. Agian sorry this happend to you. I ran across this looking her up and remembered your name since it was so close to mine. Hopefully this all turns out for you.

Mar 27, 2009
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I feel all of you
by: Anonymous

I have been with my boyfriend for 13 yrs. We have been engaged for 10 yrs. We refuse to get married because then my income will be garnished. We have 8 yes eight children together and she hates that.I go to every one of his court hearings with him,and every time he is locked up.He has lost jobs because of this situation. This child looks nothing like him and she even told him he is not the father. He requested a DNA test and the judge denied him.That was more ammo for her. She was hot that he even tried to stand up for himself. She requested more money.My thing is how can they deny a man that is paying child support a DNA test. I wrote numerous letters with no response. I will stand for the rights of these men.No one should have to be put through this because a so called women is upset that a man has gone on about his business.

Feb 06, 2009
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Not the father, but still paying in california
by: Anonymous

I have two children with an ex girlfriend. A 4 year old son and a 2 year old daughter or so I thought. I noticed that my daughter didnt look like me at all. So I decided to have a DNA test taken at my own expense. The result was that I was NOT the father by 0% the probability of being the father. I'm currently going to court to try and stop the child support payments. I am asking the judge to order the DNA test to establish parentage. It seems like the courts are on her side because my statue of limitations ran out after her 2nd birthday. Law states you have 2 years to do something about it. So it looks like I'm going to lose my case. The mother is still claiming that I AM the father. The judge has the power of equity to override the statue of limitations and order a DNA test if he doesnt want to accept mine. I have yet to go to court for that decision but it seems like I wont be successful. Does anyone know any cases similar to mine that have actually had child support payments stopped? Help!

Jan 21, 2009
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I am a woman who will fight with you!!!
by: Anonymous

The same type of situation is happening to my husband. Except he was never married and the girl that is pinning the child support on him was a 4 month fling who said she only wanted the money. We think somehow the DNA test were switched because her test said 97.222 and his came out 99.999. That means she isn't the mother!!! Well it's been four years and even if he finds out he is the father he can't stop the child support in Texas. It is bull crap and i too will help fight the system because i work hard to support my four kids and my hubby. I work and protect him just so that hoe doesn't get a dime. Maybe this pres will change things....

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