Denied time and forced into poverty
I just don't understand the system or the math. My ex has gotten away with denying my time with my girls on a number of occasions. I have brought in proof and filed contempt a number of these times only to be denied. Through this her attorney has been trying to get even more money out of me for Child Support.
The kicker to all of this is that my ex makes twice as much money as I do and now gets more than half of my paycheck. When I call DCCS to get help all I get is "we are only the collection agency for support there is nothing we can do." Nothing they can do except take away my license which means I can't go to work which means I fall more behind in the child support I can not afford to pay, which means I go to jail and the cycle spirals down.
Whatever happened to a just system? I am not trying to deny any support to my kids. I wish I had more to give to them but it is not the case. Now I am looking at eviction because I really can't live on $100 per week. The numbers are there in black and white, the DCCS worker even ran the numbers through the calculator to tell me I am getting screwed yet some judge doesn't seem to think it's an issue that I can not afford to pay the amount he ordered and he thinks it's ok for the mother to make unilateral decisions in a shared decision making ruling and my time with the kids is not important either.
Maybe it's time to join these issues together in the law. It's always stated that they are separate issues but that's only when it work for mothers to be so. It's time to change this system. I'm sure there would not be deadbeat dads on the most wanted list if this system actually used real numbers and real money.
I'll continue to write more in this blog if I am not living on the street soon.