Denied time and forced into poverty

by Bob
(Dover, NH)

I just don't understand the system or the math. My ex has gotten away with denying my time with my girls on a number of occasions. I have brought in proof and filed contempt a number of these times only to be denied. Through this her attorney has been trying to get even more money out of me for Child Support.

The kicker to all of this is that my ex makes twice as much money as I do and now gets more than half of my paycheck. When I call DCCS to get help all I get is "we are only the collection agency for support there is nothing we can do." Nothing they can do except take away my license which means I can't go to work which means I fall more behind in the child support I can not afford to pay, which means I go to jail and the cycle spirals down.

Whatever happened to a just system? I am not trying to deny any support to my kids. I wish I had more to give to them but it is not the case. Now I am looking at eviction because I really can't live on $100 per week. The numbers are there in black and white, the DCCS worker even ran the numbers through the calculator to tell me I am getting screwed yet some judge doesn't seem to think it's an issue that I can not afford to pay the amount he ordered and he thinks it's ok for the mother to make unilateral decisions in a shared decision making ruling and my time with the kids is not important either.

Maybe it's time to join these issues together in the law. It's always stated that they are separate issues but that's only when it work for mothers to be so. It's time to change this system. I'm sure there would not be deadbeat dads on the most wanted list if this system actually used real numbers and real money.

I'll continue to write more in this blog if I am not living on the street soon.

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Forced to pay
by: Anonymous

It's a shame child support has put allot of men into poverty. Allot of woman have children knowing that if they split up with the father, they can run right to the child enforcement. I think taking someones driving license is the most retarded thing ever. Now they can't find a job!
The state is making plenty of money and it's a shame that they don't care anything about the non-custodial parent. A man should help support his children, but the state should not force it. Doing this has caused too much anger and resentment, which in turn does affect the children. Men today should think long and hard before having children. Child enforcement has caused allot of men to want to give up.

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I know The Feeling
by: Anonymous


I know the feeling. I have been paying child support for years. Haven't seen my kids in years and is beginning to believe that that I'm not their father. The child support office is taking to much out of my check and I have lost my house , my car and other values because of the unfairness. These people are worst than the IRS. Why do they have such power?

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The system is unfair but don't give up the fight
by: Anonymous

You have to keep fighting! Don't stop. Write to your legislature. Write to your local papers. Get on you tube. Do something to bring attention to your situation. It could be that the judge is getting kickbacks. You have to believe that in the end it is worth the fight. Your child will get older and wiser and the truth will come out. I know it is hard. If you want to discuss how we can bring attention to this unfair system, please email me at eshantell@hotmail.com.
Sincerely,

Looking for soliders for social change

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I understand!
by: Stepmother of 3

You are not alone, the system is very bias to non custodial parents. WE all need to work together I have wrote a lot of blogs on the state of Texas blog page. We need to write our legislature as well as newspapers to get this system changed. 50/50 not 95/5 like it is now. If you ever need to talk my email is gill88fan@aol.com.

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