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Dial 911! Father in distress!

by Corey M. Robinson Sr.
(Philadelphia, Pa)

I have been paying child support since my children have been 3 and 4. Never disputing that I should pay or help take of the children; rather how much should that support be. My ex-wife has always wanted more money than I make. I have had to change jobs 2-4 time in one year. Always struggling to pay the support and live on my own at the same time. Now that I have gotten a reduction that is not only due-able but also allows me to take of myself. Of course the ex is not happy with what she gets. She appeals it and I get stuck with a judge that believes that all men in the system are trying to get over or not trying to pay at all. Since the first day of birth of my first child, I have been know to do whatever I needed to take of my kids. She knows this and everyone that knows us knows it. But of course in the middle of this hearing she never once speaks up about how I try to help with clothing, and other necessities. So the judge has ordered me to find another job that has wage attachment and will give me 40 hours a week. In this trouble economy finding a new job is hard or next to impossible to find. I have until June 11, which is our next hearing, to do so. I have applied all over the place. So now I am faced with the possibility of going to jail if I am unable to comply with his order.

Is there any advise that anyone can provide that have gone through or in my situation?

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May 09, 2011
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A real answer
by: Anonymous

I am always sorry to hear that another Daddy is going through this. Unfortunately the answer is to get another job, or a second job, or a third job. Please know that jail time will not serve your children, you, or your case. From experience, you can't fight from within the walls of the state pen. I have endured this embarrassment. I have seen the horrors of prison. For your children's sake and yours, Pull up your bootstraps and fight. Be loud, be consistent, be proactive. Empower yourself with the thought of your children. Love them and protect your relationship with them.
File everything you can and become a thorn in the courts side. Let them endure you. Make them recognize you. Make them hear you. Record every call between you and your exwife and request video of every hearing. Facial expressions of the judge, lawyers, exwife...all of these things matter. This is a prize fight and you need to work them until they tire. Just be more commited.
Be relentless until you cause them to make a mistake. They always do. That's how you will win!

A Friend who truly understands!

Jun 14, 2010
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Unfair child support system
by: Anonymous

Hi. You have more likely the same situation with my husband. It's a sad thing is you are trying to work for yourself & for your new family, but somehow, the system is not right. Not everymen or everywomen who is paying child support has to suffer with a high payment. The other party should also get work to be able to raise their kids, not abusing that she is getting the child support & not trying to get a job. Sad thing is, she's using it for drugs and where are the kids??? left with the grandparents & not a cent did the grandparents got anything from her as what they told us. Also, said thing, the interest is very high each month & that made it hard to pay now. Eventhough my husband is paying it every month through his paycheck, but it does not lower the balance, it even gets higher. Sad thing also, he cannot take a vacation out of the country with us since they are holding his passport unless we pay most of it. Even when my husband ask if he can just go home to go to his mother's funeral, they don't even let him. He won't run away & not come back. He loves his kids & our kids now. We make our living to live. I just hope they can somehow change the system. They should look at the other party if she's looking for a job too...not getting child support to support herself with drugs...Now, she got another kid with another guy...something tells me, that she's having kids to get more child support. Not once did she get a job...Isn't it unfair??? I'm just hoping that they will not hold the passport especially that he is paying it every month though...if you have comment on what I am saying here, would love to hear your opinion. I am thinking of writing a letter to the Governor, Arnold S. in California since his child support is from there.

Jun 13, 2010
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fight it!
by: Anthony

I would ask for a change of venue. it sounds like the judge is not very transparent.

Jun 05, 2010
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TAKE THIS TO THE NEW MEDIA AND CONGRESS
by: Anonymous

Take this to the news media , youtube ask for help . call your congressman or email him . Stand on street corner with a sign intell that you have been orderd to quit your job to get another paying more and more hours. See then the reaction you will get . Do it daily And weekends. You will probably get a response. Men in this country are being abused by the system. Good luck

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