I just got out of jail on bond for nonpayment of support. I was involved with a girl for 3 years and we had a child. I was 19 years old and nieve when it came to all this. I found out that she had cheated on me around the time she concieved. For young dumb reasons I tried to stay with her and I signed the birth certificate without getting a praternity test. Even though I wanted one she would have exploded and made a scene about me trying to make her out to be a whore in front of everyone. So in trying to keep the peace I signed.
Stupid I know but I was young. Had no idea that it would ruin my life.
We split up and long story short she used the child against me changed her last name and had my visitation rights suspended. Upon doing that me as well as my mother and sister for atleast 3 years if not more tried to contact the child and the mother and could never get an answer or a returned phone call. How long do you keep going and keep trying. I couldn't afford a lawyer and hers ran me in the ground anytime we went to court.
Her it is 8 years later I have moved on and have a family of my own that I know is mine and I work my ass off every day and come home to my family. I barely make enough money to provide for my family and now I am facing a C felony which carries a 4 to 8 year sentence for nonpayment of a child that could very well not even be mine.
I am at risk now of losing everything I have worked for as well as my life because of it.
I don't know what to do. I am so scared that the state of Indiana is going to lock me up and throw away the key. For what? Money? I still can't afford a lawyer and now my family may lose me. I am the only income and my fiance is not able to work due to medical reasons.
I have had a rough life growing up and made a lot of bad decisions as an adolecent and young adult. I am 29 years old now and I am not a bad person. I do everything I can for my family and that is all. I don't break the law and have over the years turned my life completely around. I still stand a chance of losing everything I have worked for. I don't know what to do.
I truely am not a bad person. I love my family with all my heart and soul. If I lose them I lose my life and everything worth living for. All because this state wants to lock me up over money for a child that may not even be mine.
What can I do? Can anyone Help me? PLEASE!?
Aug 17, 2009 Rating
When did money become important by: Anonymous
Unfortunately, money became much more important when the State figured that they could make money off of Child Support. Why do you think states like NY make it easy to start the process?
