Don't Breed 'Em If You Can't Feed 'EM

by Jane Doe
(Texas)

I have read many of these bitter, angry rants from both custodial, non-custodial parents and resentful second families.

Every single one of YOU, put yourselves in the situation YOU are in. The AG's Office can't manage YOUR life for YOU. It's not their fault YOU made the choice to have a baby/babies with a loser or deadbeat. It's not their fault YOU didn't get an education, or that YOU have a crappy job or some lame excuse why YOU can't take care of the child or children YOU brought into the world. It's not their fault YOU chose to marry some loser man/woman with a string of failed marriages and other kids.

What YOU need to be teaching YOUR children, is that the reality is 50% of first marriages fail,70% of second marriages fail, and even more third marriages fail. There is a damn good chance one day YOU will be divorced and on YOUR own with a child. If YOU can't afford to raise a child completely on YOUR own don't have one, because it's a pretty safe bet the person that helped YOU make the baby isn't going to be around in the long run. YOU also need to teach YOUR children to get an education so they can support themselves.

Kids are expensive. They need housing, clothing, food, daycare, medical care, Christmas presents, birthday parties, school supplies, etc. I have paid out over $53,000.00 in daycare in the last six years and $15,000.00 for medical insurance/expenses. I have ONE child because I can't afford any more!!!

Children don't ask to be brought into the world. We bring them here and have a responsibility to provide them with a loving, financially stable home. If YOU are not willing and/or capable of doing that then YOU need to use birth control or get a vasectomy.

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Don't worry, poor and uneducated people will keep making more kids
by: Anonymous

Everywhere in the world, in every kind of culture, the poorest people have the most children.

Does having many children make people poor? Or does being poor make people have many children?

Educational and income levels of a teen's parents might make a difference in whether that teen gets fat or depressed, according to a study by two medical professors from the University of Cincinnati College of Medicine and Brandeis University.

IF YOU CAN'T FEED THEM DON'T BREED THEM!

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Life is a struggle...
by: Anonymous

Some people are sadly unable to do all of what they want in life, but consider the source, at least. Not everyone is going to become a valedictorian from their college and get the highest paycheck and benefits. Not everyone is going to be recognized for something worthy of a Nobel Peace Prize. Not everyone is intelligent and outgoing. And not everyone, sure as Hell, isn't entitled to feel hopeless and pathetic because they make the choice not to be excellent by someone else's standards. Millions, or rather, billion of people are struggling just to make ends meet in the world, and they chose to have children. They did so out of the need to and out of the most important reason; love! Without compassion, we aren't alive at all. You do not have to breed to be worth something, since many worthy people never had children in their lifetimes. The OP is clearly embittered by some terrible life events, but that doesn't mean other people have to suffer for it.

I am in my 20's, male, a virgin, and independent. Do you think I have to listen to this shit, let alone care? No, I don't. If I really want to, I will stand up and fight to have something I want and need, and not let the evils of the system bring me down.

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Ridiculous
by: Anonymous

My ex is taking me to court for every other weekend visitation even though hes seen our child a handful of times. Im sure he will get it. Im a college graduate and I work in Pittsburgh fulltime at a doctors office. He works two days a week so he doesnt have to pay child support. I pay 500 a month in daycare, 200 a month in health insurance, all of her day to day expenses, rent so I can have a roof over her head. I do it all ON MY OWN without assistance. THAT DOES NOT MEAN I should have to be the only one providing for her when we had this child together (on purpose). When we were together he worked two jobs. He wont work bc he wants to screw me over and he is. If he ever goes for and gets joint custody my lawyer has informed me that I will be paying HIM child support. The system is pathetic. But get your head out of your ass and dont think for one second that I, and a lot of single mothers, are trying to get the nation to take care of MY CHILD. No one supports her but me. YOU ARE PATHETIC for even writing that and you need to keep your opinions to yourself if they are all as ignorant as that one was.

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Sick and tired of people like you.
by: Annoymous

I understand where you're coming from, BUT just because you have a child with a deadbeat or a loser, doesn't mean that deadbeat or loser doesn't have to pay. YOU BOTH had sex! So you both should have to support that child. If there is someone out there who doesn't want to pay, then there should be some program that steps in and MAKES you pay. Unfortunately, this system is so messed up, people are literally getting screwed! Don't assume that everyone who is complaining can't feed their kids. They're complaining about the system. I have no received child support from a dead beat in YEARS, yet I can feed my kids. My husband and I are both well educated and have very high paying jobs. It's the principle. If 2 people have sex and create a child, it's BOTH of their jobs to pay. I'm not asking for a free ride or free money, I just want my ex husband to pay what he is legally responsible for. I didn't do it alone, so I shouldn't be the only one paying for them! Unless he gives up his rights and gives me full custody...if he sees em, he should pay for em!

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LIFE
by: Anonymous

Birth Control does not always work. Things happen and so if I chose to have sex with protection and still got pregnant and I wanted to have my child that is my business. Yes parents get upset when the other party is not doing their part in caring for their child. I don't care if you were married to them that does not mean the other parent is going to act responsible. No one is perfect so if they decided to have their child or children is their business that they wanted to choose life!

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