Ex Boyfriend accusing me of not "letting" him see his daughter.
My daughter is now 16 months old. He has not seen her since she was 3/4 months old. When he did see her it was illegally because we have a no contact order because he was abusive and i decided to call the police on him for it.
When she was 7 months old i decided to move in with my boyfriend and because she had no man in her life he took responsibility of being her father figure. Now, she is extremely attached to him. He plays with her, spends time with her and does all the things a FATHER should do.
A couple of months ago i decided to get prepared to file for soul custody just incase something did come up i was legally protected from him taking her from me since there was nothing set in stone yet. I made up my parenting plan (which involved her biological father being able to have visitation). But i hit a road block when the person designated to serve the papers to him could not find a last known address or anything so that had been on hold ever since
A couple of weeks ago he posted a link to this website (fathers rights questions) on my sisters (who is 17) facebook, and it had very clearly and repeatedly stated he didn't want to try and see her and tear her away from her daily routine ect.. and asked why is he paying for a child he does not get to see.
My confusion and fustration is, i did what was best for my daughter. first i got out of a relationship with him because he was abusive and controlling. i allowed her to have a normal life with 2 parents whether its her real dad or not and i cut all ties with him.
Why is he saying i am "keeping" her from him when if he is really so concerned he could take me to court for visitation &/or joint custody? I cannot legally contact him and he cannot legally contact me.
Am i doing the right thing?
Might i add.
He drinks alcohal, smokes pot, is unemployed and homeless (as far as i know).
Opinions would be greatly appreciated.