Ex-Wife is Cold-Hearted

I'm married to a wonderful man, and we just recently had a beautiful baby boy in August, I'm pissed off, because all of a sudden out of nowhere he's ex wife decided that she needed child support for their two children, now I'm not trying to sound mean about his children, but they are the most ungrateful kids I've known in my life, he has tried everyday the whole time we were together to try and talk to them and find out what they need and all that, he sent his son a birthday card and the kid has yet to say thank you, I'm more upset at the fact that his ex-wife waiting until he had a new baby to decide she wants him to pay child support, I love him very much and he is a great father, I watch him with our baby boy and you can tell he misses his children, they moved to a different country when they were babies, becauase their mom left him with nothing. I dont like to see him like this he makes money but with the bills getting high and having a newborn in the house, sometimes we have to stretch what we do have left, which sometimes is not much. I cant believe how cold-hearted his ex wife is, it's like she dont care that he just had a new baby and the older kids dont care about him, expect when it comes to money and I dont think that's fair to pay for children that would rather watch you die than claim you as their father, when you've done everything in you power to talk to them and keep in contact, I dont know what to do or even what to tell him, other than I'm right here and I'm not going anywhere.

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May 08, 2012
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SHUT UP LEACH
by: REAL MAN

Wow car payment? Portion of rent? If this lady isn't a.. leach! I guess she doesn't get it and never will .just reading her post gives me anxiety wow she sounds miserable. First of all the wife left him and fleed to another country. How was he supposed to be there for them? If she.flees to another country it sounds like she didn't leave by herself other than the kids. I don't blwme the lady for being upset that his miserable ex wife out of the.blue wants money when she didn't want it before.misrable people tht leave comments like u dnt know sh@t

Jul 09, 2011
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ungrateful?
by: Anonymous

Isn't it funny how her step children should be GRATEFUL for whatever they get from their own father but his new baby is entitled to the fathers support and time so,out of the BLUE his children from his FIRST family needs to be supported? What nerve! lol,lol I don't blame the mom for wanting to keep THEIR children far away from this kind of mind set directed at THEIR children.History repeats itself honey,and you may be the NEXT ex wife with the ungrateful kid that is taking away from his new wife and new little baby! lol

Jun 29, 2011
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by: Randy S.

I completely agree with the statement of Fairness and financial responsibility. You should have exercised your rights. Beg, Borrow, or steal to get retainer money for an attorney and get custody of those kids! Yes this is the usa so lawyer up when someone attacks your rights and especially when they are coming after what little you work hard to enjoy.

To William D. You make valid points concerning the interest of children. But why completely dismiss someone's statements just because a name was not associated with it. Fairness requires no author.

Jun 29, 2011
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WOW
by: Anonymous

So your husband did not support his children before the birth of your child and you have the balls to ask why his kids treat him a certain way?

No sweetheart, his ex-wife isn't cold hearted by any means. Do not bring your baby into this, because trust me, that baby has nothing to do with his ex going after your husband for not paying child support. Frankly, he put himself in the boat hes in.

Try to imagine how those kids feel. He left his wife, married you, and had another kid. Those kids must feel a ton of emotions, and if you want your husband to have a relationship with his children, DROP YOUR ATTITUDE.

Stop judging the ex-wife, because you just might be lucky to end up in her shoes. I pray that you don't, but come on sweetheart, your not that special. If he did it to her, he'll do it to you.


Aug 02, 2010
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Fairness
by: Anonymous

Time should be split in the absolute same proportion to the money that is split! If parent #1 financially supports 100% of the children's life this parent gets 100% physical custody. That's fair!

Both are parents equally and should do 50/50 if the parents split. If one has to move, the kids move where the money is. Don't make one pay without having the kids. Money belongs to the person that earns it! Its use is the sole discretion of the person that earns it. Deadbeat parents that can't earn an income, GET A JOB AND CONTRIBUTE TO YOUR CHILDRENs upbringing and don't leech or mooch on the other parent!

Jun 17, 2010
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Assumptions by the others
by: William D.

Frankly, people who do not leave a name and comment with such black and white opinions, should have their comments deleted!

We do not know the whole story here, but it sounds like the ex-wife left; made him out to be a bad guy in the children's eyes (after all they were babies) and their opinions and actions are purely the reflection of the ex-wife's attitude.

I say this as my ex-wife is cold hearted, but at least she did not play the b*tch card when it came to our son.

Christ, based on the posters letter, whet kind of woman, leaves a guy after having kids and moves to a different country. That is just selfish and low-brow. Any smart adult knows that even after a split, you should do everything you can to keep the kids in CLOSE contact with BOTH parents.

Anything less and it is a disservice ton the children!

Oct 05, 2009
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Evil Step Mother!!
by: Anonymous

Your husband made those ungrateful kid's as you put it and No Thanks for a birthday card and years of no regular child support? Evil Stepmom all the way! He should have been paying for his childrens care long before he married you and long before he made ANOTHER child when he isn't supporting or parenting his first set of blood children on any regular basic!! Lets hope he doesn't continue his past pattern and your new baby boy get dumped and look foward to a birthday card while you work to feed,clothes,house him alone and here comes a NEW baby with his NEW wife bitching about your ungrateful son taking from her new baby girl's mouth!!! You make a life you have to split the cost of providing for that new life!! not go out and start over and make more babies..I don't blame her if he is so able to support a brand new child then he could support the ones first in line lady...grow up!

Oct 04, 2009
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those children feel that way for a reason!
by: Anonymous

The father is responsible for those children regardless how the ex wife feels about him. I dont care if there is a new baby involved he is financially responsible for all his kids. And JUST A FYI: Child support is not buying the kids a gift or buying school clothes or school supplies. CHILD SUPPORT IS FOOD, CLOTHING, MEDICINE, A PORTION OF THE HOUSE PAYMENT, PORTION OF CAR PAYMENT, ELECTRIC, WATER, SEWAGE, HAIR CUTS, SPORT ACTIVITIES, GAS, LUNCH MONEY,......................
The ex-wife motivation may have been wrong but if the father was financially responsible from the time he left he would be used to giving her child support so wouldn't be any different.

As far as his children dont want anything to do with the father. There is a reason for that (unknown to the people that are reading this) they dislike him for a reason yes it maybe because there parents split but if the father kept good communication with the kids they would have been upset but not to the point they don't want anything to do with him.

sorry to sound harsh but truth hurts sometimes. and i am on both sides of child support so yes i do understand!

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