This is a long torrid story of deceit and lies that will likely make your jaw drop. I was married to a woman and we had two children at the time we divorced they were 2 and 3 years old. She quickly moved in with another man and he wanted to adopt the children. I was young and dumb and agreed to it just to get away from the mother and at the time thought it was the best thing for the children. The court had ordered that I pay $70 a month child support at the time of my divorce because I was still in college and unemployed at the time. When she decided she did not want me in the children's life any longer and wanted her boyfriend to adopt them, we signed a contract, notarized and created by an attorney that I relinquished rights forever for adoption of the children and that I was no longer responsible for child support. Now 21 years later I received paperwork that she had filed for payment of the child support. I have had no contact with her or the children, they are grown and serving in the military. She has hired a sleazy attorney that is on a 33% contingency if they win the case to get a third of what she gets. I have paid thousands fighting this, the attorney tells me that there is precedent to this case and that she cannot benefit after all of these years, when I actually gave up rights to the children 21 years ago. I assumed they were adopted and had long put this terrible incident behind me, but now it rears its ugly head. Can you believe that someone would be such a gold digger ? I am writing everyone I know, state and federal legislators, and will fight this all the way through the appeals court if it is not dismissed ahead of time.
My husband made the mistake of having 2 children with a mother who uses bearing children as a means of financial support. The court system removed his children from her home 15 years ago ruled she was unfit; cleaned up her act went to parenting classes and the courts forced my husband to give them back. After years of court battles and constant attempts to prove her neglect, paying child support weekly and on time the children never getting any of it, his oldest daughter ended up pregnant at 18 now lives with her boyfriend in his mothers house, other daughter turning 18 next week has been in and out of trouble for the last 2 years; runaway; living all over the place but with her mother while we still pay child support. My husband and I have watched this woman manipulate the court system for years whereby she has never had a job longer than 3 months and has always done the bear minimum with regard to supporting these 2 children. This woman had another child with another man who was granted full custody of his child when he proved once again she was an unfit mother. That was this year; my husband testified on his behalf pleading to the court to not allow this woman to destroy another child as she has destroyed his two girls. What I want to know is when does it end? My husband no longer pays for the older one who now has a baby; but his younger one is turning 18 next week and her mother is scrambling to get her into college which she will never be able to do living in her mothers environment with no support because his daughter will never see any of that money as her mother sits home without a job and uses it to pay her rent, her booze and her entertainment; has pretty much brainwashed this child against my husband; and now thinks if she gets her into college she is going to get another 4 more years of child support out of us. Where is it written that once a child turns 18 it is the non-custodial parents obligation to pay child support to the custodial parent if that child is going to college; it is totally ridiculous; my husband and I both put ourselves thru college; what happened to being considered a legal adult at the age of 18. I live in New Jersey and if you ask me the parent who is receiving this child support needs to be held accountable as to how this child is benefiting from this money. If my husband and I had a child, and were married at the time that child turned 18, the courts wouldn’t care whether or not we were supporting our child when he or she went to college; why should it be any different if the 2 parents are divorced; there has to be something unconstitutional about that. In my opinion your done paying the custodial parent at 18; how a parent chooses to financially assist their now 18 year old offspring should not be up to the discretion of any court; like I said its ridiculous.