Father denied by mother to see child; contempt of court
by Shane C.
I have paid child support for both of my daughters, whom have different mothers, ever since the courts had me to do so. I have no problem of paying but, my youngest daughter, her mother has not allowed me to see her in 7 years. I received a phone call from my daughter recently asking me why I don't see her or tried not to. I explained to her that I have tried to and the Child Support Office will not give me her mother's contact information. They told me that they will have to contact her mother to get her permission for me to have her info. I never heard from them. My daughter talked to me for the first time but her mother was on the other end listening. My daughter kept telling me over and over that I am a lier and don't love her. That is not true and I told her that. I have tried to find her. I pay child support every month on time. Yes, I owe back child support, but I do pay even though my pay has gone down since we went to court 13 years ago. My daughter's mother is in contempt of court and when I try to get them (Child Support Office/Government) to help me, I have to get an attorney and go to court. I can not pay my bills and have a hard time paying child support. I know I can take the mother to court and have her in contempt of court, but how to do this without an attorney? The Child Support Office will not help. They have too many cases to worry about my case, is basically what they told me. I have contacted the DA's office and they would not tell me anything but to contact my attorney.Fahter's who are not dead beat dads and do pay their child support should not be judge automatically like a dead beat dad. I want to see my baby girl. I can not afford an attorney, so I have to do this on my own, But supposedly you can call the Child Support Office or any government department for help, and you don't get help. So, what do they expect me to do, soak it up and move on? How about if it was your child? How would you handle it? HELP is all I ask.
If it were my child I would continue to try to have a relationship over the phone. Let her know that you want to be apart of her life and maybe she will not think of you as a liar. She will see that you want her and when she is old enough, she can leave home to find you. Best of Luck.