Father with no rights

by Joe
(Las Vegas, Nv.)

My ex wife was a cop with the LAPD. She took off in 87 with my 6 year old son. During the internal investagation with the police department, after I filed a child abduction complaint. I informed the LAPD that she was a meth user. She hadn't been to work in weeks and was using me as the reason. She said that I was abusive. At first the police covered for one of thier own. When she returned to work they told her what I had said, and also drug tested her. She called me and said that if I didn't change my story I would never see my son again. She tested positive for Meth, was fired, and she kept her word. I never saw my son till he contacted me 10 years later.


Lets fast forward to the present. Now after all these years, the state is coming after me for child support. With interest it's up to over 95 thousand dollars. The state has cleaned out my bank accounts, and once again I feel like I've got zero rights. I spent thousands when this started 23 years ago, and I still never got to see my son. She collected welfare, although remarried, and had changed my son's name to her new husbands. Although not legally, so California says that doesn't count. My son came to me when he was 16 years old and lived here in Vegas with me till he moved out on his own. California was still sending her a check for support while he lived in Vegas.

The state of California, makes big money off the system, its a business and makes a fat profit for the state. This stuff will never change, the only rights fathers have is the right to pay. Nobody can give me the 10 years I lost with my son. And I have to pay for the pleasure of that experience.
The system is set up where the state is a third party to the abduction, and concealment of children, because the state refuses to enforce visitation. And the state makes money off the misery and suffering of fathers and thier children. When mothers don't let the father see thier child, it's a form of child abuse. Women think that the child is thier personal property, and can be used as a weapon.

All the lawyers will say that we all have remedies, that you can bring the mother into court. It's all BS. How do you get them into court if you don't know where they are? The lawyers say anything to get that retainer, then bleed you out, till you don't have any money left.

After 3 years I gave up.

There will never be a change to family court law till the women that hide thier children loose custody on a regular basis for abduction and concealment. Anyone that has ever been through this knows ,that my words are true.


Follow the money. It's been 23 years and the only thing thats is the date on the calendar.

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Sep 30, 2012
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judgement day...
by: Anonymous

"Doing this right now, the pain unbearable. I am a firm beleiver, what comes around will go around, as we all are accountable for our actions. To maintain sanitity, I work 2 jobs, pay my support and hope to see my son someday. I realize I will not like his upbringing, as he has not been taught things like respect and responsability..All we can do is suck it up...I wish you, your son, me, and mine the best..."

Sep 20, 2010
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Right there with you
by: Anonymous

Sounds to me like you got the same treatment I did. My ex disappeared with my daughter for over 13 years until I found her when she was 16 and she moved in with me and my wife. Same things happened to me. Theres got to be a way to change this. First and foremost this is against your constitutional rights to be jailed for a debt??? WTF??? and a debt that the courts and governemnt place on you, again, WTF????? The courts have created a bad siuation for the NonCustadial parent and the child. Leave the mother to use the system to exact revenge on her ex. WOW our system is realy screwed. We need a million man child support walk. Enough is enough.

Sep 20, 2010
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pro- se your rights
by: Anonymous

Similar to what I experienced and I'll a male. The courts don't determine who's ncp they make or create a person to be ncp. THAT's Called abuse of process. IT is a law that prevents one person from being targeted by another, including family courts and cp's or anyone else that wants to extort money from you through a any organized process. Attorneys know this but family and defence attornies don't do it because it's a litigation process form of court procedure. I'm attempting to build a file a case on my own (pro se : without counsel or attorney) And I believe you may be able to do the same. It's not legal advice but it is your rights available through a series of websites and links. I can tell you what and where to look and you can see for yourself how the process works. State courts are liable to validate debts just like any other bill collection agency under the FDCPA. You can file a federal hearing with anyone on your credit report. It's your federal right AND THEY HAVE TO validate the FULL amount, Time, Dates and Reason for amount and or such penalties.
I'm carl contact me at pro-se@Live.com for more information.

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