Fatherhood with Optional Responsibility????

by Good_Mom
(Dayton)

I have been divorced almost two years. When are divorce was in the process, my ex presented a letter from his employer (he was employed by his cousin) which lowered what the county said he should pay for child support. The letter claimed he owed the company money. He had owed the company money for almost the ten years we were married so why do that now??

After getting child support lowered by around $300 a month...he lost his job last year and sat on his duff on unemployment. We have two boys, by the way. I went without any money from him while unemployment took its time to kick in. He got a job a year later, making $10 an hour. He has a college degree in Marketing. Call me silly, but I just think that is lame. I also think if you are a father....you should be working three jobs to make your child support payments. After all, that is money the courts said you owe for the financial responsibility of your children. It is NOT for your ex to go out and buy designer purses with. I know...alot of you heartless men feel that way.

So, its obvious I make more than $10 an hour..because Im not a dumb ass. Now, I get a letter than my ex is having child support looked at. Here we go again..lets take $$ away from the kids again!!

Since when does "yes, I want to have a baby with you" mean..."Yes, I'll father this child but if we divorce I will not do a damn thing for it." My ex also never wanted custody or joint custody. Just four days every month....every other weekend is just fine and dandy. So..this sort of keeps me, the poor mom, from getting a second job.

The story goes on..but you get the jist of it. The court system sucks..and someone needs to WAKE UP in Ohio and make these men who are capable...to get real jobs..or many silly jobs...to meet the court ordered obligation. I guess I could be just as "responsible" and quit my job.


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Dec 06, 2011
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Quit Crying
by: Anonymous

Oh my God!! this is just ridiculous. In this economy and this job market, your complaining that he is WORKING?!?!?! at least he is making an attempt to help support his kids. Father's get screwed in court, while the Mother's sit back and collect that child support payments, everything that happens in court with regards for child support is always in the favor of the mother. I am a court reporter and i see this all the time, the father is stuck with paying for support that is way too much. You tell me how a child needs 700 dollars a month????? You know damn well that, that money doesnt only go to the child. I would like to see that bill and then you tell me what you spend it on...This is exactly why the laws need to be re-written so the fathers have more rights. YOU GIVE MOTHERS A BAD NAME YOU WHORE!!!! oh and by the way, i am a mother, and this sickens me to the core. Women like you should get their kids taken from them and sent to the fathers and see how you like paying the support. you are a disgusting woman and should be ashamed of yourself.

Mar 18, 2011
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by: Anonymous

so sorry all you poor women want more money when all i want is more time with my deaughters and the ex-wife tries her best ( with false restraining orders and lies) to do nothing but get all of their time and all of my money. So boo hoo about it or fight for it. Stop whining and prove he sits on his ass or shutup and take it.

Dec 30, 2008
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I agree
by: Wife to a Non-Custodial Parent

I agree with you on most of what you are saying. They should support THEIR children. It takes 2 to tango. It's not like you got yourself pregnant. But he does need a life too. They can't take away ALL his money like they do some men. But your right he sounds more than capable to get a good job. Someone sounds like he's just damn lazy and he's doing it to spite you. The last thing I want to say is SOME ex wives get a bad name because SOME ex wives DO spend all the money on themselves while the kids are left with out nothing. Anyhow good look with you situation and I'm glad you don't have to rely on him for anything. You take care or yourself (and of course your kiddos)

Oct 23, 2008
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so sorry
by: Anonymous

sweetheart go get some food stamps and then the shit will hit the fan on his part judges don't like dead beat dads

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