Fatherhood with Optional Responsibility????

by Good_Mom
(Dayton)

I have been divorced almost two years. When are divorce was in the process, my ex presented a letter from his employer (he was employed by his cousin) which lowered what the county said he should pay for child support. The letter claimed he owed the company money. He had owed the company money for almost the ten years we were married so why do that now??

After getting child support lowered by around $300 a month...he lost his job last year and sat on his duff on unemployment. We have two boys, by the way. I went without any money from him while unemployment took its time to kick in. He got a job a year later, making $10 an hour. He has a college degree in Marketing. Call me silly, but I just think that is lame. I also think if you are a father....you should be working three jobs to make your child support payments. After all, that is money the courts said you owe for the financial responsibility of your children. It is NOT for your ex to go out and buy designer purses with. I know...alot of you heartless men feel that way.

So, its obvious I make more than $10 an hour..because Im not a dumb ass. Now, I get a letter than my ex is having child support looked at. Here we go again..lets take $$ away from the kids again!!

Since when does "yes, I want to have a baby with you" mean..."Yes, I'll father this child but if we divorce I will not do a damn thing for it." My ex also never wanted custody or joint custody. Just four days every month....every other weekend is just fine and dandy. So..this sort of keeps me, the poor mom, from getting a second job.

The story goes on..but you get the jist of it. The court system sucks..and someone needs to WAKE UP in Ohio and make these men who are capable...to get real jobs..or many silly jobs...to meet the court ordered obligation. I guess I could be just as "responsible" and quit my job.

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