Depending on the circumstances, the courts generally (not all the time) favor the mother and grant her custody, leaving the father to pay child support if ordered by the courts. There should be such a thing as fathers rights that will ensure and encourage visitations for those fathers who pay child support. Also, there should be an easier way to allow for modifications in child support payments, based on the most current income and not what was made 5 years ago.
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A Father





When the state or any government agency is involved in family matters, all families loose there rights. We have given up our God given rights to raise ...
Jail time after payments





My fiancee is currently facing jail time for child support arrears in Ohio. He has been working part time and has been paying whatever he can. When his ...
Simply Pissed





I was taken to court by my girlfriend. She lives in my home, goes to school in the car that I drive, does't have a job, has two children by her ex-husand ...
I HAVENT SEEN THE CHILD IN 5 YEARS





hELLO MY NAME IS ISAIAH ADAMS 3RD, I CURRENTLY LIVE IN DALLAS TEXAS,THIS IS MY STORY WELL I RAISED A CHILD FROM ONE YEARS OLD , THE MOTHER CAME IN 2001 ...
Father without a chance to see his daughter





I am a 19 old father, in which my daughter now almost 2 years old, in which i was 17 years old when i watched my daughter born! I had so many problems ...
EX TO A DEAD BEAT DAD.





Me and my ex. were together for 3 years, when we had our daughter he started to change (for the worse) he became distant, staying out late, drinking, ect....
When will there be change





I have experienced and still live many of the horror stories on this site. I call them horror stories because child support has become a grossly abused ...
WHY





FROM THE WAY IT SEEMS, WHEN A CHILD IS BORN, THE FATHER HAS NO RIGHTS TO IT AT ALL, WHY IS THAT, I MEAN IT HIS BLOOD AN HIS CREATION. I HONESTLY DONT THINK ...
adamsmith





HELP ME PLEASE PLEASE I BEG YOU PLEASE ANYONE
ABDUCTED DAUGHTER SINCE 1993!!!!!!!!
My daughter was born in NJ in 1991,of course got US citizenship ...
Good Men marry sorry Women and Good Women marry sorry Men





During my last deployment my now X wife decided she couldn't wait for me to get home so she went to her x boyfriend and they slept together. With in a ...
Not about rights...it's about the child





I am a father that deeply loves his child and pays for his child support. I do not have a problem with paying for the child support, it's the fact or issue ...
I just want to pay my child support in peace





I have been divorced now for 3 years. I lived in Florida and me and my ex had joint custody. I had the boys (3) half the week then she had them half the ...
Mother is not forced to pay anything





My ex-wife decided not to be a mother for the last 5 years. She was granted custody and child support during our divorce 7 years ago but decided to let ...
Beatdead Dad





Step #1 in the lawyer handbook obviously says to claim abuse and ask for the moon. I was falsely accused of assault and battery, thereafter, being removed ...
14 yrs of contempt by the Mother.





My child is 14 yrs old. I have never been late on my child support and if I was it was more like a 100 dollars. I would always try and be ahead instead ...
Child Support CARD ???





Is there any way we as child support payers can some how speak with law officials about this idea? The idea would involve a card something like a credit ...
Joseph J.





My story began almost seventeen years ago in the Monterey Bay area of California. I had an affair with a woman, we were both married at the time and each ...
Both Father and Child, victim of a Loop hole of an unjust and a louzy system





I was planning to get married for the first time in my life, the bride was a russian girl who we had met in Sacramento area. I knew she would have needed ...
jerked around by the system





Well, I had been married to a Native American for two years and ended the marriage in tribal court because of her infidelity. During this time a child ...
No court, no pat.test





I move to washington state from ohio back in 1995.At that time I had one child and and I was doing my best to pay child support when I started work.I was ...
How i wish my ex was one of the "good fathers"





As a mother, I have complete sympathy for you father who faithfully pay your child support and yearn to see your children yet are denied the right to see ...
Ck





I am th so called " middle female" in this situation. My soon to be husband went through a nasty divorice. He deployed only to come home and find out thst ...
A loupole child support can be claimed on taxes





I paid child support for 14 years then became disabled due to vehicle accidents. I never or very rarely got to see my child. I told this situation to ...
A Father's plight to visit his daughter.





I served two tours in Iraq and when I came home things had changed which ultimately led to a divorce. It was agreed on that I pay child support to my Ex-...
Curious Sister





OK, my brother is a good father and trying to see my nephew. He has two boys from two different women but still is very much involved with his children ...
Pay or else





I was married to my wife for 22 years. We were jr high sweethearts and were together from age 13 till 40. We went to bed on a tuesday nite married and ...
Why do people always feel sympathy for women?





Why do people always feel sympathy for women? and don't even think about the man?
To everyone who reads this. I'm Q and I am 15. As I have grown ...
Father In WA. State Fighting to get rights back





First off I will say Im father currently paying off a debt to child support system My child is a adult now, I have been treated like a deadbeat dad with ...
Tired of it all!





I have been paying child support since 1997. I do not mind paying my child support, they are my kids and I love them. What I'm tired of is the constant ...
Wife of Father done Wrong





My husband is in jail right now for a child he has not seen in eight and a half years and payed over five thousand dollers on. Now don't get me wronge ...
Father of 5, 3 boys, 2 girls





I am a 35 year old father and former offender who has not had a prblem with thelaw for more than ten years. In that time have had held numerous and varied ...
Where is Justice





I just wanted to write our story and see what we can do for these FATHER'S that are someone and do something for there children.My husband is a great Father ...
Where is Justice.





My name is Eddie Cruz Jr. and I have a two year old daughter that has been taken from my home by her mother. My daughter’s mother and I lived together ...
Fustrated Step Mom seeks help





Well the short verson is my now husband had a child with his ex girlfriend. They fought constistanly. About 3 months after they found out he decided his ...
When the doing the right thing is always wrong





I have read many of stories on this site and many of us are going through similar things. I am hoping someone can give me advise on my situation. I have ...
In the whole off the get go





I have two children one 17 one now 14 from two different mothers. My daughter (my first child) her mother and I have worked together since the get go on ...
Mothers not doing the right thing with our son





I been served papers today. I'm mad because I do love my son and I do give his mother mother when she calls me and tell me what he needs. I don't make ...
Petition, "In the Name of Non Custodial Parents Everywhere".





I have begun a petition to Stop lumping Overtime, Excess Partime, or Second Fulltime Earnings over a 40 hour week into Gross income for the purpose of ...
Mother not recieving payments





I know I am not a Dad but here is my story and I would like feedback... I was a young mother and the "father" never wanted anything to do with my child....
WE CAN CHANGE THE SYSTEM IF WE STICK TOGATHER





FIRST OF ALL THE DHR SYSTEM ALL THEY WANT IS MONEY MONEY. MY HUSBAND DOES WHAT IS RIGHT, HE PAYS AND HAS BEEN EVERY SINCE HE DIVORCE BUT THAT HAS BEEN ...
William Dillinger and Child Support





I am a father and owe back child support and have paid it many times before withiut arrearages. I regret being behind and am at a loss of what to do: although ...
28/yr/newlywedHusband





When I was 24 I had turned a semi partime job into a career, aggresively moving from bank teller to loan specialist within 2.5 years. Before and during ...
Unwed Father Fighting w/ All I have for the 1 that matters most!





I am a father of a 2yr old boy. I was never married to his mother. I pay $100 a week for my son and only make $300 from unemployment because; I was recently ...
Incarcerated Father





I am the friend of an incarcerated father. He went to prison for things he did in his past . He was on probation and had a good job then the economy failed ...
Unfairly Labeled by My Drug Addicted Ex.





I have been unfairly labeled a dead beat dad by my drug addicted ex. I am the father of a now 20 year old girl, C. who has not lived at her mothers house ...
Is this legal?





My ex-wife wants more money, so I'm back in court yet again. She was finally successful in running off my new girlfriend. I have two children with my ex-...
INDIANA DAD FINDS OUT HAS CHILD 17 YEARS-NOW PAYING CHILD SUPPORT





My husband had a one night, drunken sexual encounter 25 years ago. Seventeen years later, he receives an order to have a paternity test, because apparently ...
Screwed in Texas!





I have always paid my child support. After my divorce my ex-wife moved in and lived with a child support attorney by the name of Steve Sinkin in San Antonio ...
The system is flawed





I have not been allowed to see my son in over a year. I missed his 2nd birthday, and all major holidays including Christmas. His mother has used the ...
KEEP RECORDS FOREVER ON CHILD SUPPORT AND ALIMONY





I almost hate to tell this story that it might give some ex wife an idea of how to put the screws to someone else like happened to us......
Back in ...
50/50 no child support, is this possible?





Me and my ex wife where divorced in January 09. We were married 7 almost 8 years and have three boys out of the marrige. At this point she has a child ...
Men need a hand - LETS DO SOMETHING!!





My husband is going though a similar situation with his exes. Last year he was unemployed due to a knee injury and surgery. He has not been able to find ...
FAITHFUL LOVING FATHER





I had a son with a girl in highschool who thought trapping me would work so here I'am.My son turns 13 next month and have paid my childsupport on time ...
Surgical Scrub





Let's see, because I know that you won't publish this, I am going to be brutally honest. Mother's are constantly presented with additional expenses not ...
Non-Custodial father





I consider my self a good father;i do not Drink Alcohol,Smoke or take Drugs before my son was born my ex-wife's step father told me in secret that I should ...
Where Do You Turn When they All Say "No," or, Dealing With a Psycho Ex





Okay, I am sick of seeing my husband and step-son suffer at the hands of a bitter, resentful ex. (Oh my, this may get a little confusing BUT- here we go....
Stop the Father Abuse!





My ex-wife and I have been divorced for nearly 10 years. I paid my child support and visited with my daughters every chance I got. I was ordered to pay ...
Reality Check





Take it from someone that's in law enforcement and deals with social services... a teenager definitely would NOT know nor would the uneducated or the underprivileged....
child support and rights





My baby mom is a drugie she is on tweek and who knows what else she is only 19yrs old and doesn't work and still lives with her grandparents.they barely ...
Judge ignores new child support law.





I have been to court every 3 years under the recommendation of child support recovery to reduce my child support. Every time I get the same judge who ...
His ex is making it hard for him to live





Im with a new boyfriend who has a son and his ex girlfriend is just taking all of his money. She works maybe 2 or 3 times a week while he works 6 days ...
Florida Dad Pays Support, Ex refusing visitation.. HELP!





I am a 31 father of two little girls ages 11 and 10. I love my children and pay 715.00 a month in Court Ordered Child Support. I have tried to call my ...
Father With ZERO Rights





A few years back I was told I had three support cases imposed on me in Florida, out of the state of Iowa. I was never told by these women that they were ...
I'd rather be dead





I'd rather be dead
than have to put up with this
18 longs years of child support
$120,000 dollars later
and my children hate me
Now I have to pay ...
Sick of the lies!!!





My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 3 years now and his ex-wife has been nothing but a huge pain in our butt. He was giving her (not court ...
How much is too much !





I was in court today for a contempt hearing. I was without a job for about 5 months and I recently went back to work making far less than the amount I ...
Greedy baby mommy, her rasist family...my hell





Ill start off my story in the middle of the situation... anyway my baby momma say BM for short) and her family, keep coming to me talking saying, I need ...
Unconstitutional and Un-American





Me and my ex-wife were together for 12 years and had two kids. After years of her partying and not paying bills to support our family and bingo nights ...
Help my Boyfriend with any suggestions





My Boyfriend of almost two years just went through a really bad divorce. We met at the beginning when he was separated and he was going through hell at ...
Father getting away with murder!!





My son is now 30 but for most of his life his father that knew from age 14 gave hardly anything for his son. We married at age 21 and we divorced after ...
Stepmother





My husband has custody of his 17 yr old son. He has had him for 11 years and during that time his ex wife has rarely paid any child support. When ...
Confused step mother





Well my story is kinda like these others. I married my husband a year ago, he has two children with his ex. I would just like some advice and to see if ...
Outrageous Payments





I was working a 50-60 hour a week, $19/hour job when i was with my ex-wife. With the hardships of economy my hours were cut right after i left her. I quit ...
Ripped off





12 years ago I was ordered to pay child support in South Bend, Indiana but a total douche bag Judge named Andrew Nemeth. I had voluntary payment stubs ...
Fair System?





I don't have the issue of my ex not letting me see my kids. My issue is I am Working 6 days a week 12-14 hrs a day so I can afford my child support along ...
STEP MOTHER FRUSTRATED!!!





I have a little bit of a different situation but with the same outcome. I married a man that had two young kids with his previous short term girlfriend....
Child support in Indiana, good luck!!!





I have four children, I now have support orders on three of them,the first order on my oldest son went into effect in 1996,it was for $70 per week unless ...
Not A Fair System!!!





I was first put up for child support in 2005. While was still in college. I did the beast I could. I sent there mom money when ever I could. She told me ...
Crazy BabyMama





After seven years of marriage, My husband and I have reached our lmit with his crazy baby mama. My husband pays his child support, buys Christmas presents,...
Son adopted without my consent and still paying??





3-4 Years ago. I had received a letter in the mail regarding adoption proceedings for my son. I emphatically objected and heard nothing more about it. 4-...
IF SHE IS MINE, THAN WHY NOT TAKE A COURT APPOINTED DNA TEST??





I had a one night stand with this female, I was 23 at the time and in military and she was older and way more experienced than me.she got pregnant and ...
Left in the dark





I was with this young lady for 5 years. We had a daughter together, (so I thought) they were living with me, I paid all the bills, she didn't work, she ...
What's a father to do





I am a father of a beautiful two year old daughter and I've been voluntarily paying 200 a month for the past year. I started by opening a bank account ...
Child Support Lifer





I do believe in supporting my children. After finding my wife in bed with my ex best friend, I divorced. Of coarse she got custody of my two children. I ...
Denied time and forced into poverty





I just don't understand the system or the math. My ex has gotten away with denying my time with my girls on a number of occasions. I have brought in proof ...
Soon to be student





I recently had a job in the aviation industry. While working there I was recently promoted to the position of manufacturing engineer. I was being paid ...
SEVERLY FRUSTRATED





I WAS DIVORCED IN 2000, MY EX AND I WERE MARRIED FOR MAYBE 6 MONTHS THEN I WAS INCARCERATED, WHILE I WAS INCARCERATED WE WERE STILL MARRIED. DURING OUR ...
Mr. Williams





I was in the military (still am) when my wife decided to take our daughter and move in with another man.. She then moved to Alabama while I was stationed ...
The Interstate Support Law YOU MUST KNOW ABOUT





If the custodial parent has taken your child and left the state you must know about this law. My son is now 18, but when he was still very young my ex ...
Lazy Greedy Wife





My wife has had custody of our 17-year-old daughter for 11 years now. I was ordered to pay child support upon divorce and my wife was given custody. I ...
My Millionaire ex demanding money from me!





I am worried about the same thing. I am expected to pay $500 every month to my ex when I only make about $2000 at the most then my ex who makes more than ...
Not The Father





I am in a funny situation. My situation is a little different, well it seems that way to me because I dont know where to begin to look for help. I am currently ...
Wow!!!!





After our divorce my ex wife (who got custody of our three children) could not care for them or really didnt want to.. so three months after our divorce ...
Constant visitation denial





I have been divorced for 12 years. My ex-wife is worse now than ever before. My weekday visitation is interrupted due to the children's activities (7th ...
WHAT IS CHILD SUPPORT?





I WAS RAISED BY A SINGLE MOTHER WITH 6 SIBLINGS WITHOUT CHILD SUPPORT. HER ONLY SUPPORT WAS HARD WORK, IN WHICH SOME OF THESE CHILD SUPPORT DEPENDANT MOTHERS ...
VISITATION TAKEN AWAY





At the start of my divorce, my ex took off with the kids, for the first year I had no visitation and no idea of were they where. I still had to pay child ...
Wow





I yes being a custodial mother whom has a 6 year old daughter by my ex husband would like to say thank you to those fathers out there that do care and ...
Shared custody, but paying for both houses





Here is a story that is unfair. My husband got divorced from his ex-wife about four years ago; during the divorce everything was fine. But that was because ...
I really got soaked





My ex girlfriend and I had a Bautiful Child together. After that our relationship fell apart due to her being a party animal. I havent seen my child in ...
Father's Right's Stories





I’m not the father
I went through a bad period in my life with drugs alcohol I lived with a girl and during that time she got pregnant. Because we were ...
Frustrated in Texas





My husband (non custodial parent) has been paying $600 per month child support for his son since he and the child’s mother divorced ten years ago....
B-4 IT STARTS TO GET UGLY





We were friends but never even a couple. It was just one of those things (unplanned blessing). Before my son was born we agreed to not involve anyone else ...
DECEIVED FOR 13 YEARS





I WAS MARRIED FOR NINE YEARS AND HAD 2 CHILDREN. MY WIFE CHEATED ON ME AND FILED FOR DIVORCE. THE DIVORCE LASTED 6 YEARS. AFTER 6 YEARS THE COURT FINALLY ...
MILITARY FATHER VS. GOLD DIGGER





I was happily married until I deployed for a year. When I left for my deployment all I had was a truck payment. I came back form my deployment and I was ...
Great state of Colorado





For the past 3 years after I split with my ex I was ordered to pay child support. I had joint parenting time which was divided equally leaving one extra ...
Donald Valentine





Well! Where do I start? Since the separation and divorce that followed, it's been the hardest years of my life, being treated like a second-class citizen....
Wrongful Imprisonment





Well I pay child support for my daughter that I don't get to see. I live in Pennsylvania, and my child lives in California with her mother. I pay child ...
Dealing with crazy baby mama





Ten years ago I was in a relationship with a woman I considered myself to be in love with. I asked her to marry me and while we were engaged she got pregnant....
Good father, bad mother





I have one daughter from my first marriage. We were divorced in 1986. I was ordered by the courts to pay $302 a month. I faithfully paid my child support ...
Father denied child support





My husband is the custodial parent. In June, he was awarded primary residential custody, while the mother received visitation. The judge chose to waive ...
no deadbeat dad





When my X wife & I separated in 1994 She dumped our daughter on her sister and collected support of 100.00 a week from me.She would give her sister 20....
Where is the money?





I have a 15yr old boy that I have always taken care of. I got a bit behind a few years ago but have always made it a point to be there for my son. Here ...
TX Attorney General's office mistakes





My decree was modified in 2007 because my ex-wife overcharged me 8k in medical expenses and after a year long lawsuit agreed to settle for just over 7k ...
paying support that is more than half my income w/ no visitation





Hi I am a father of 2 who has been divorced and sinced remarried.. I was self employed when i first started paying child support and felt it was my obligation ...
Never married father-drug through dirt





We met in high school and had been together ever since. We never married and now here it is 10 years later and after a year of horrors she has left me....
Who can I turn to?





My husband had two kids with a woman but was never married to her. She lives in Indiana, We live in another state. When the mother found out we were planning ...
Barry Mills





I pay 100% of the financial obligation for child support for my son Jordan Stuart Mills. While my ex-wife pays 0%. She has since re-married husband # 2 ...
Father rights vs. mothers rights.





I now have custody of my 7 year old daughter. Finally the state listened to me and took her out of her mothers home and the court placed her with me. She ...
Texas Child Support Review Process (CSRP)





The Attorney General's Office sent me a document requesting I attend a Child Support Review Process after my ex requested a modification. The purpose of ...
A Father after 21 years





This is a long torrid story of deceit and lies that will likely make your jaw drop. I was married to a woman and we had two children at the time we divorced ...
I pay child support but too much red tape and coverup from government..





HI,
Im a father who pays childsupport about seven hundred dollars. I had try to go to child support of to find out where my child is an the told me that ...
Military father visitation rights violated!!!





Hello to all! My name is Angelo Minoglio and I am currently serving in the U.S Navy. I have been having problems with my Son's Mother with visitation ...
Fatherhood with Optional Responsibility????





I have been divorced almost two years. When are divorce was in the process, my ex presented a letter from his employer (he was employed by his cousin) which ...
Unfair





My husbands daughter is dear to us we love her so much. At home she slept in one room with her little brother, mother and stepfather SICK! Her mom had ...
His Ex Got All





my boyfriend and i have been going through this crap for years. first of all the ex is an illegal immagrant, but of course that did not matter one bit,...
Tricked





I met a female through the internet. We went on three dates and then she calls it off. She then comes back into my life and tells me she's pregnant. I ...
Its all about the custodial parent





Let me begin by saying; your options are limited.
For the most part, the state will always side with the custodial parent when money is involved. What ...
I need any advice anyone can give me!





My husband recently started a job were he makes very good pay. He gets checks for daily pay and salary. The daily pay is not a guaranteed amount each ...
Unable to speak n see children





I was separated and divorce in 2006, 2 young children. I give my Ex $1403 per month. I had my wages garnished that way she can never say I missed a payment....
Deadbeat Army Mother





I have had my daughter for six months now while my wife...wrong...EX Wife has been off playing Army. She has cheated on me numerous times since joining ...
Sick of paying and not even talking to them!!!





I pay $600.00 per month and I don't even have the privilege to speak to them on the phone. im sick and tired of it. I'm sick of crying EVERY day because ...
Fed up girlfriend...





My Boyfriend has two kids with his ex wife... She cheated on him they got divorced blah, blah, blah... In there divorce agreement he paid $500 a month ...
A fed up dad





I have a daughter whom is 12 years old. She lives with her mother whom I separated from when my daughter was 4 years old. Her mother cheated on me and ...
Army Father denied rights





I am a Staff Sergeant in the U.S. Army and I have been paying child support for the past 15 years. I am not behind in my payments and I have insurance ...
Baby Momma Drama...





Well My fiance' babys momma... is holding the fact that he has moved on and found someone he really wants to be with...ME! And she wont let him see his ...
Attorney General & payments





Ive been divorced for 3 years now I have paid all my payments on time see my kids when she lets me my complaint is that I made good money in the past and ...
Texas Firefighter





I am a father with 3 healthy and beautiful children. I am now a paramedic and firefighter.
In the beginning, I worked for a local EMS system responding ...
I Can't Afford My Child Support





I make $12.50 an hour. My employee does not allow me to work overtime or anything like that.
When the child was 9 years old we, my fiancé and I, found ...
Father





I have a 2-year-old and her mother and I have joint custody. I have a job and she works under the table at a bar (shes 19) she has my daughter in medicaid ...
Tim





My son and daughter live with their mother(my ex wife) and I havent seen them much since 2003. In January I had spoken with my daughter who was 16 at ...
JIM V - IOWA





I ONLY SEE MY SON WHEN HE'S WITH MY FATHER(HIS GRANDPA). MY EX STOPPED "LETTING" ME PICK HIM UP 3 YEARS AGO. THEN SHE CLAIMED I STALKED AND HARRASSED HER ...
Military Dads





I am a Soldier in the US Army. I was married when I got deployed on a 15-month rotation to Iraq. During this Rotation my wife had our first child. Upon ...
Joint Custody Father-after the fact





My ex-spouse and I had joint custody. I had physical custody of son -she the daughter. We had verbal agreement that I would not pay her 250 a month (my ...
I want to take care of both of my children





I have a son I am divorced from his mother. I pay 450.oo dollars a month for child support. I also carry Health, dental, and vision insurance on him. At ...
Mr.Thomas





I'm married with 3 children; I made a mistake cheating on my wife; I had another child; I asked the girl to get an abortion, she said no; she had the baby ...
Was a father now a dead beat dad





When I was in high school I got my girlfriend pregnant. We had our oldest son and we lived together off and on for a year then we had a second child. We ...
Hung out to Dry





It amazes me how screwed up the system is. I have two states fighting over the same child support payment. Neither state is willing to give in and I have ...
All Dads are Deadbeats





It's true guys, we're ALL deadbeat dads because the system, no matter what state or child support agreement you honor, will make you so. My example is ...
Father's Get Nothing!But Jail!!





I am a perfect example of this failing system,I have never recieved any rights,what so ever from our great child support system.All I have recieved is ...
At witts end with the most un caring system in the usa





I am a father to a 4 year old boy who i love dearly. I have just benn divorced 10 mounths now and from the court i was orderd to pay 1/3 of my mounthly ...
CONCERNED FATHER..WGASPARD@AOL.COM





MY FELLOW GENTS,
IM AT A LOST ON HOW OR WHAT TO DO WITH THIS WOMAN WHO
JUST HAPPENS TO BE THE MOTHER OF MY CHILD WHOM I ADORE
I HAVE VOLUNTARILY ...
Just not right





Ok here's my story. My wife ran away before my son was one. for three to four years I couldn't see my son. I moved away to Atlanta. Within a month she ...
Frustrated in Ohio





I have been paying Child Support since I was 16yrs of age. I know what I am about to say will make me sound like a dead beat father but that is not the ...
So Confused!!!





I just went to court today for the beging stages of the child support journey. And I have always questioned if I was the father of my son. So i asked the ...
Could be Father





I met a girl July 15th, we stopped talking the middle of August. The beginning of September she calls me and tells me I need to give her money for an ...
When does child support end?





My son has just turned 22 and has graduated from college. What are the laws, when child support ends. Does it end at 18? or does Texas law require payments ...
There is a way...





Every time your ex-wife does not allow you to see your children, or gives you a hard time, file a police report. The police will say that they do not get ...
What is the real truth and why are you crying





I am an angry woman. Some will say that I am scorned but what is the real story? I married a seemingly good and kind man who wanted children. He left ...
How many ways can your ex bleed you dry?




I am writing on behalf of my brother. He is currently in the process of a divorce and is still legally married. He is currently incarcerated on domestic ...
I am the child (now 21 year of age) of my father whose rights were violated




I am now 21 years of age.My parents were divorced in California when I was around 8 years old. My mother was granted custody of both me and my older sister....
Gary Ussery Operations managern fedex freight




My name is Gary Ussery; I’d like to take the time to tell you about my experience with the Butte County Family Court System. I am reaching out to anyone ...
Supermadmom




My husband and I have been married for 13 years now. We have 3 children and have worked very hard for these 13 years just to make ends meet. He had a relationship ...
Ex-Wife is Cold-Hearted



I'm married to a wonderful man, and we just recently had a beautiful baby boy in August, I'm pissed off, because all of a sudden out of nowhere he's ex ...
50/50 is a joke



Me and my son's mother have not been together since shortly after his birth. I was sent to Iraq hours before he was born. I came home and was awarded monitored ...
Greg, Anyone have advice??



I fathered a child at the age of 19 with his mom 18 at the time. She had child support taken immediately with the help of her mom and attorney. She was ...
My son is a Marine and I still pay her????



When I found out about my son there were many issues...but we put that behind us for the good of our son. Visitation didn't work due to outside influences ...
Club Hoppin and Conniving Babies Mamas

I meet my husband in 6/2006 and in 12/2007, we got married. His oldest daughter is 13 and her mother is a conniving "female". When she found out she was ...
Guess You Dont live in Taylor County

I have found that in Taylor County as a father you can get away with any thing, refusing to return the children because you think washing dishes is abuse ...
Mr. Maurice T. Pierce
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My son's mother and I divorced in 1999. Everything was going fine until 06 when I met my wife now. After meeting my wife now my x stopped me from seeing ...
The Two children who are suppose to get child support.
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I am 20 years old and my parents divorced in 1992 (I was 3 and my sister was 2). My mother wanted the divorce because sadly my father wasn’t Americanize....
NOT THE FATHER...I am the custodial mother with full custody of two children.
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I just want to say that I read a piece of this article that mentioned child support should be based on current salary of the non custodial parent, not ...
Mom Ran Away With Daughter!!
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I was married in Ohio in 1990 had a beautiful daughter that I loved more than anything ,she was my world! My ex and I did not get along we were together ...
Can I still have visitation?
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I have not seen my oldest son since he was about 2 months old. He is now 11 yrs old. I do pay child support for the past 1 yr and, child support has taken ...
Flathead or Phillips, I got screwed
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I have faithfully paid my child support obligation for my daughter for the past 10 years. My income was always higher than my ex-wife's and Support was ...
Paycheck to Paycheck family
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My wife and I live paycheck to paycheck and our vehicles are having problems, are home is in need of repair and my wife is having health problems. I also ...
NO WINNING
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I am a single father of two beautiful girls. Right now my daughters are three, but at the beginning I was put threw hell just to see one of my daughter ...
What About Dead Beat Moms?
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My story is that of reverse discrimination. While in the Army I was awarded sole custody of my 2-year-old daughter and 6-year-old son after a divorce proceeding ...
What did I do to deserve this?
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I was a single father after my wife left me while I was deployed in Iraq. Upon return she had filed divorce while i was deployed and left me with 3 small ...
TAKE 3MIN. TO READ THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Let me start by saying that I want to fullfill my obligations as a Father of paying my child support because I love my little girls, but how much money ...
Violation since the beginning
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Texas ordered me to pay 300 a month, even though they have not determined that I am the father. The time of the DNA test I was unable to be there, they ...
good father
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I have been a good father to my children since they have born . their mother walked out on them when they was babies . She cheated on me several time caught ...
MDK
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I have been paying child support for over 13 years. 6 years ago my X complained that the support wasn't enough, even though I also buy clothes, school ...
I'm a Dad.
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I'm a Dad of too Girls. Each child has a different Mother. My oldest is now 23. After being a foolish youger man I am now paying back child support and ...
Sob story from a good father.
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I pay child support for three of my sons. I have three other children who I am trying to support and raise. I have had two previese marragies. Sounds bad ...
What Can I do
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When I was 16 I got my gf pregant so I thought so after the child was born we were married and I came home from work early and found her in bed with my ...
No Rights to Visitation or Communication strips the Rights of Children
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Six years ago my Son was informed by his estranged wife at that time (He left her during her thrid affair) that she was pregnant. This would be her first ...
CANADIAN GETTING SCREWED OVER BY NORTH DAKOTA
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MY EX-WIFE AND I SPLIT IN 1993. I MOVED BACK TO MY HOME COUNTRY, MY DIVORCE PAPERS STATED HOW MUCH CHILD SUPPORT WAS TO BE PAID AS WELL AS VISITING RIGHTS....
She has my child and is getting a substantial amount
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My legal rights to my child.
This is just a nightmare that no parent should ever have to deal with. I have been divorced since 2002 both my X and I ...
Haven't seen my daughter in 2 years
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My daughter lives 40 miles from me. Prior to 2 years ago, I saw her on my standard, allowed visitation. My son asked to come live with me. When he did ...
Wrongfully accused
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I met this lady one day and in acouple of months she got pregnant with my first daughter the mother is Hispanic and I have never had kids before the day ...
What will it take to get the laws on all side!!!
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If a person is not a dead beat dad and is doing what they are suppose to be doing and the mother is messing around and not following the court order then ...
Ask yourself
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For those of you who want to go back and forth about who's really getting screwed in this situation, here's a way to simplify it. Would you rather get ...
Whats a father to do ?
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I have been divorced for three years now. My two boys have spent as much time with me as their mother for the first two years. She has started to spend ...
Dead beat or dead wrong?
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Im a 28 yr old man who's baby mama is seriously crazy my son was born on jan 6 of 09 one day after he came into this world i was told i wasnt his father ...
How is it legal for the AG to order visitation, but not enforce it? The Texas OAG is a joke.
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Im am a 28 yr old fiance to a man that has been dealing with the Texas AG for 10 years. I have been here for 9 of those 10. From all the court dates and ...
My fiance needs some help
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Well where do I start.... I've been with my fiance for about 2yrs now and he's been going through hell. His BM is terrible I don't know who even allowed ...
What a joke!
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My husband has been going to cs hearings for the last 2 years~never missed a court date. He has 3 kids with his ex wife- 1 of whom was questionable but ...
Guardianship
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My ex had taken my daughter and disappeared off the face of the earth. My ex started to collect child support due to she was on assistance. I heard from ...
j seay
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I paid 18 years of child support only to find myself back in the control of washington state child support enforcement. They currently have my license ...
The Ohio Rip off Scheme
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I now live in Columbus, Ohio and am in the midst off financial ruin and the ripe old age of 28. First just to give you background I had a child at 20 ...
injustice in the CSEA
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My daughter is 13 yerars old, ive paid support on her since the day she was born. When she was around 4 years old her mother started to refuse me my visitation ...
Frustrated and No Longer Know What to Do
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I have been with my boyfriend for about two years now. He has been seperated and going through a divorce for over 3 years now. His ex (which is yes what ...
When the system fails you
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I have been raising my son for 3yrs and transfer to Tx with my job to support my family,only being the only income providing for my son i filed papers ...
DAVID T
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MY DAUGHTER NOW 19 TO BE 20 YEARS OLD IN DEC OF 2009 JUST CAME INTO CONTACT WITH ME AFTER NOT SEEING HER FOR ALMOST 11 YEARS,HER MOTHER SAID THAT SHE DID ...
Screwed by the numbers
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I am a single father with custody of two minor children in washington, and i recieve 130.00 in c.s from their mother. She has custody of 1 minor child ...
Doing the right thing hopefully still pays off.
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My story began shortly after returing from Desert Storm. I had a short lived relationship with a girl I met at a club and of course she had dreams of ...
you got to be kidding me.
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My case is in the State of Oregon. I divorced 6 years ago. I'm also in the military. Recently re-married and she has two children. Recently she sent me ...
NATIONAL FATHERS ASSOCIATION OF AMERICA
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FELLAS/ Fathers there is help and there are many ways to make the justics system work for you i have 2 children and i promise you my kids mother thought ...
Non custodial parents paying child support
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My story is as crazy as can be but, I know I'm not the only one. Lately, I been doing alot of studying the laws of my state and it has proven to have done ...
Not a father, a concerned ex
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Long story short my ex and I have 2 kids (2 and 10). He is very involved (kids stay with him during the school year to attend a better school) and he pays ...
Punished non-custodial father
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There is a evil woman out there treating my child whom when we were together conned me into allowing her to adopt my daughter and she now keeps her from ...
Trinity
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My husband had an affair a couple yrs ago and the girl got pregnant. She was openly sleeping with 2 other men at the same time she was sleeping with my ...
A Grandmothers Story
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In 2003, my son, was 28 years old and trying to cope with the life that was thrown at him. He turned to alcohol in his twenties to drown the sorrows of ...
What did I do wrong?
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I married a beautiful young female, in which I will always love and support. Unfortunatly, she had a change of heart! I had always supported her and my ...
Lost Child Support Case/Child Not Mine/Can I Leave The Country?
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You all are going to LOVE this story. Really it is about my friend but I'm a major part of it.
Cliff Notes:
Friend's Kids Aren't His
He lost court ...
Never Married to childs mother
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I was in a relationship with a woman we had a son, we were never married. There quite possibly as much as it kills me to think that the child might not ...
Discriminated for being a loving dad with a fair job
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Well I was divorced 4 years ago and I have two children. My final divorce decree stated that I of course pay child support of 900 month, pay the mortgage ...
Emily Hood
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I have been divorced for 11 years. My children are 13 and 14 years old. The reasons for my divorce are complicated. I am a genetic male that is suffering ...
Untreated fairly by the child support agency.
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Right now I am incarcerated and I am having a hard time to deal with some issues. I am having to pay child support for my three children. Right now I ...
JUST A SAD CASE IN GENERAL
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FIRST OFF, LA LAWS SUCK WHEN IT COMES TO THE MILITARY, I SERVED A YEAR AND A HALF FIGHTING IN AFGHANISTAN ONLY TO RETURN TO A COURT DATE FOR CHILD SUPPORT,...
Harsh times, Harsh problems
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The ex decided that when we split up that I could have nothing to do with the children. She got a protective order and no trespassing warrent on me so ...
Please Help the fathers
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Here is my story from hell.My daughter is 16 years old has a child hasnt' been in school since she was 14 years old. Her mother has been in and out of ...
Dead Beat ??? Maybe , Maybe not
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I have been dealing with the child support system for going on 18 years now. My support has been inconsistent due to changing jobs, life and lack of education....
DESPERATE IN SC
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I am a SC resident,happily married for the last 6 years with a beautiful 4 1/2 little girl and a 14 yr old step daughter, both of which lives in our household....
I don't know what to do!!!!
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I've been divorced for a year now, and ever since its been like pulling teeth to see my four year old daughter!!! i love her with all my heart??? it saddens ...
What am I supposed to do ?
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I make 12.65 an hour, Im about to be laid off, I pay 800.00 dollars amonth in child suport, regardless if I make 40 hours or not. I cant pay my car payment ...
SCREWED DADDY
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HI I AM WRITTING ON BEHALF OF MY HUSBAND. I KNOW THERE ARE PLENTY OF DEAD BEAT DADS OUT IN THE WORLD BUT NOW A DAYS THERE ARE AS MANY DEAD BEAT MOMS OUT ...
LOW LIFE CUSTODIAL PARENT
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My Husband has 5 children in total. 1 in NY she is the oldest 2 in Ohio and then 2 here with me NY. Oldest is 14. My hus was an irresponsible kid when ...
Monroe County, PA
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My Fiancee has been paying child support for almost 10 years on his daughter. When the child support order was made it was my fiancee voluntarily agreeing ...
Time For Change
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My name is richard smith, My story begins here in Mpls Mn. I have not seen my little girl or my son in almost ten years. I'm tired of being called the ...
TN CUSTODY NIGHTMARE!!
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My ex-wife seems to cruise under the radar of any wrong doing even with my having video and audio proof which has been presented to child services and ...
No Justice in Rogers County
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I have always paid my child support ahead of when it is due. Our divorce was signed on 2/6/05. She remarried in another state on 2/10/05. Her year long ...
child support and rights
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My baby mom is a drugie she is on tweek and who knows what else she is only 19yrs old and doesn't work and still lives with her grandparents.they barely ...
We have to stand up for our rights
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I have read many of the stories here and its sad to hear some of the things done to men. Right now I'm facing foreclosure because of the child support ...
Twins - Not!!!
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My husband is paying support for "twins" that he's never seen. The state conducted a blood test on one of the mothers other children, and not on the children ...
missing my daughter.
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I'm an Irish Imirant.I have a 2 and a half year old daughter and a 19 year old. My older daughter I have not seen nor heard from in over 5 years . Her ...
WahWahWah
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Each person should be reviewing their child support orders! Study on what is written in the order and object to anything you don't agree to BEFORE the ...
missing my daughter.
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I'm an Irish Imirant.I have a 2 and a half year old daughter and a 19 year old. My older daughter I have not seen nor heard from in over 5 years . Her ...
Father fed up in Indiana
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I am a father of 4 children. I have 2 with my ex-girlfriend(age 17). When my oldest daughter was 3, I won sole custody with no visitation rights given ...
What about the mothers???
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I had my son when I was 20 years old. My ex was out doing drugs behind my back and spent $10,000 we had saved without me knowing. I got a letter from the ...
Tired of doing the right thing
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I divorced when my child was 2. I have always paid child support with the exception of 2 months that I withheld b/c her mother moved her 2,000 miles away ...
Bad Judge
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I have to travel for work and with the economy going down I've had to increase my travel and miss some visitation days with my daughter because her non ...
Married my soul mate, so my kids mom filed
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I was with my children's mother for 3 years on and off. During that time she was physically, emotionally, and verbally abusive towards me. We lived in ...
Why Me
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The worst mistake of my life happened when a girl told me "Don't worry. I am on birth control." She lied and squeezed a baby off on me. She took my first ...
Tired
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Hello my name is Richard, I am from ohio this is what been going on. Well I was married for almost seven years and with the same girl for almost tweleve....
NEVER GIVING THE CHANCE TO BE A DAD
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WELL THIS IS A MIND BOGGLER. I WAS A DANCER IN OHIO ABOUT 18 YEARS AGO. ABOUT 7 YEARS AGO MY WIFE AND I WERE TOLD THAT MY WIFE HAD OVARIAN CANCER AND WASN'...
Ms."Father" now in Florida
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I have been divorced now for some time - my daughter is now 14 years old - she did go live with her father in Texas a few years ago. He has blocked me ...
What to do?
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I recently broke up with my girlfriend and now share custody of our daughter without having to go to court yet. I get our daughter 3 days a week while ...
You Have Rights. Common Q&A
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Quick Questions and Candid Answers By Outreach Pastor and Child Support Recovery Agent Jim Harnage
Will I Go to Hell For Leaving My Husband?
No....
Closed case in one state
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Closed case in one state only to find it open in original state and still liable.
I have a 30 year old son in Las Vegas. I was ordered to court ...
Mr J Elliott
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For the last 14 years, I was in the military and moved around a lot and it was kind of hard to see my daughter from an ex-girlfriend. I have been paying ...
What about the Mother.....
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I agreed to joint custody 18 odd years ago with my husband as the custodial parent. I was young, had not worked while married (3 years total)- we had ...
Crazy BabyMama
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After seven years of marriage, My husband and I have reached our limit with his crazy baby mama. My husband pays his child support, buys Christmas presents,...
Girlfriend of Depressed Dad
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To be honest I used to be one of those women who wouldn't care about a father paying support. I figured that if they are the problem and they leave, then ...
Visitation
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When my daughter was born I dropped out of school to take care of her and so at the time my girlfriend could finish school. Everything was fine while we ...
Children were abducted... I lost my job. And I am the "deadbeat"..
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My children were taken out of our home state of Ohio June 2006, we were separated at the time and my wife and 3 children went to Scotland for a vacation....
Mr. Roger Murray
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I'm a 36 year-old college educated insurance agent and father of 4 awesome girls, 3 of whom were from a horrible 5-year marriage that included severe drug ...
Drug Addict Mother with custody
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I was contacted six years after my son was born. He had been conceived while I was fighting for my country overseas. I lost touch with the mother when ...
Left Out and Hurting
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I have an eighteen year old daughter whom I have not seen or talk to in over 2 years. My phone calls are not
answered or returned, my cards that I send ...
Feeling very cornered....
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I have been paying child support on and off for three years ( I'll explain). I got out of the service and went to the child support people the day I got ...
Not all women are mothers!
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A man raised child for 14 yrs alone not one penny of child support was given from mother.
child went to live with mother at 16. Mother went to court to ...
STRUGGLING FATHER
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I am a loving father of five kids. Get ready! I have three daughters from my ex wife, I am raising a five year old boy, and finally have a daughter from ...
16 YR OLD BOY-23 YR OLD WOMAN
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DURING MY SENIOR YEAR IN HIGH SCHOOL AT 16 YEARS OLD IN 1994, I WAS DATING A 23 YEAR OLD WOMAN. NOT BEING ABLE TO GET INTO THE SAME PLACES AS SHE DID (BARS ...
My Rights Violated
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About 3 years ago, I was accused of a crime that I did not do. The charge was dismissed. So, I serve 6 months in jail for that. My ex, filed child support ...
child support emancipation/rights
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I am a divorced father of two children, an 18 year old boy and a 15 year old daughter. I currently reside in southern california and my ex-wife and kids ...
Child support inadvertently promotes social irresponsibility
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I am a thirty eight year old male that has been around the sun a few times and have seen a lot in my life. I was raised by a single mother. Around the ...
The true defenition of a dead beat
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I am a 23 yr old single mom with two kids. Yes they have different dads but that doesn’t mean a thing now a day... It’s not something I’m proud of but ...
Outraged
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I AM THE NON-CUSTODIAL PARENT; MY 17 YR OLD SON DECIDED TO LIVE WITH ME IN AGREEMENT WITH HIS MOTHER. SHE COULDN'T HANDLE HIM ANYMORE. WE CONTACTED AG ...
I NEED ADVICE!!! PLEASE HELP!!!!
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I currently pay child support for my 2 children who are twins, which were born out of wedlock. I have been the sole provider in their lives from day ONE....
Dad still plays by N,Y rules and still stepped on
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I am a father of two daughters in N,Y state. I have been paying my child support and any arrears that have been behind! And they still want more they add ...
VIOLATED FATHER
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I live in Spring Lake, North Carolina. My ex-wife took my son and ran in August of 2005.I had no knowledge of his whereabouts for nine months until I was ...
Angry Stepmom
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My husband made the mistake of having 2 children with a mother who uses bearing children as a means of financial support. The court system removed his ...
No contact, no records, no rights..
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The Arizona Department of Economic Security and the Arizona Attorney General's Office have always represented the custodial parents in all child support ...
I made a mistake
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I am 43 and my girlfriend got pregnant. We met on e-harmony. I got freaked out and basically allowed her to be alone almost her whole pregancy. Since ...
Labled dead beat
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Years ago I was orderd to pay 150.0 wkly child support figured off a 13,500. year income. I had a seasoal job. I paid then was always being lied to about ...
The solution
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I came on to this website for research purposes and got caught up with some of the comments.
Why are so many irresponsible people having so many children?...
Do fathers have any rights ?
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THERES FATHERS THAT DON'T PAY, BUT WHEN THERES THAT DO AND WHERE THE MOTHER AND HER MOTHER GO PARTY IT UP AND THE GRANDMOTHER TAKES CARE OR THE CHILDREN ...
Greedy Women
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As a father, I pay (and always have) my Child Support on time. I will agree though, in most cases the Attorney Generals Office will view all non-custodial ...
She took off to Cali... before the baby was born
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I have learned to stand my ground... and not be a casualty in the system.
I want to take care of my responsibilities. I want to be a GOOD DAD!!! But ...
What happens when it's the opposite...
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I am the "step-parent" in a bad situation. We haven't gotten married because we both know how bad marriages can end, especially with kids involved. In ...
Mother run off with child
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My name is Kyle I'm from Farmington Missouri and I was with a girl for a short period of time and things were going great. I got her a job, out of the ...
Texas FAMILY LAWS are as bad as thier "FAMILY VALUES"....
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I'm an an American born citizen, of Asian Indian origin. Raised in South-Asia, reverted to birth land United States (But globally known as Divided States ...
Vindictive and Spitefull Actions
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I'm a proud father of a 12yr old girl from Arkansas, and I was denied my standard visitations on numerous occasions. From changing my weekend to just telling ...
My Messed Up Story
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First off I was only married 3 months and I adopted my ex's daughter. We got married 1 month before my son was born and lasted 2 months after. She got ...
T.K. MAKING IT HELL FOR ALL!
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FOR THE FATHERS THAT ARE DOING THE RIGHT THING I APPULADE YOU, HOWEVER THAT IS NOT MY CASE. INSTEAD MY DAUTGHTER HAS A FATHER HOW HASN'T BEEN THERE FROM ...
Violating Parenting Plan
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First let me say that my son is 16 yrs old and I have paid child support from day 1. When he was 14 my ex-girlfriend sued me for more child support, I ...
A Dad After 7 Years
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After 7 years I finally got served papers for child support and got to request a DNA test. He is mine 99.9 %wow! Several court dates and thousands of dollars ...
Texas Child Support Laws Don't Work
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I have two daughters and my ex wife and I are real civil when it comes to them; unfortunately I have come across rough times. She remarried and is doing ...
Dead Beat Mom's and Child Support
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It was N.C. Government Jim Hunt in the 80"s who started the ''dead beat Daddy'' thing. THANK YOU GOV. HUNT. So, you see all Dads are mostly known as such....