Fathers that try: Mothers that hide

by Tasha
(USA North Dakota)

Children do need support but with love not money

Children do need support but with love not money

I am writing to obtain information to help me start a process to petition for a review of the Child Support Enforcement Laws. It has come to my attention with not only my own situation but other people that I have come in contact with that the Child Support Enforcement Laws are not equally created for the "custodial" and "non custodial" parent.


In my findings of the laws, they are created to strip the "non custodial" parent from ever right they have as a citizen of the United States of America. I believe the laws are unconstitutional and the "non custodial" parent is treated like a criminal when it is not a criminal act to have a child or for a couple to separate for what ever reason.

In doing so the mother in most cases is automatically given custody regardless of how the situation for the separation came about, until a father can prove in court that the mother is completely unfit, now I would like to know how that is equally giving rights to both parents. That is one sided as I see it. Not all but some of the parents that are considered "non custodial" parents are "non custodial" parents not by choice, this happens due to the "custodial" parent not allowing the "non custodial" parent to visit the child(ren) that are in question.

Further more either parent is uninformed of their rights, so in turn not knowing the laws and unable to obtain the information to be informed because they do not have the resources to locate the information and the process that comes with a child support case then they can not act on their own behalf to be able to follow procedures to take care of the support obligation that the parent has.

I am requesting at this time assistance in how to petition for a review to have the laws modified so they are more equally informative and clearer to understand what the process and requirements for procedure is when a child support case becomes open. I feel that when a child support case comes open, both parents should be notified immediately of the procedures that will take place, knowledge before hand is what it should be, the child support enforcement agency should have to advise the parents of what is going to happen during the process. And even so have the information available to the persons applying for the assistance let them be advised of the procedure and action that will be taken against the other parent if they apply for assistance.

I am sure there is a majority that if they are informed right when applying for assistance, of the action that will be taken against the other parent, regardless if that parent is in the child's life and helping with what ever they can, those people would get up and walk out of the assistance office and then continue to struggle because that is the American way.

I understand there are parents that just walk away from raising a child but for those that do that there should be harsh actions for I agree, but if a parent is trying, doing what they can and following court order as best they can, why? when they have trouble during economic down turn and they are trying to keep them selves alive and survive and can not keep up with the payments there will be a warrant issued for the arrest, or their license is taken away among other actions that can be taken, which in return does not make a bit of sense, how logical does it really sound think about it, a person looses their drivers license because they can not make child support payments, then when they finally get back on their feet and get another job ?surprise? they do not have a license any more because it was revoked, now how are they expected to go to work to pay the payments when they can't even get a job now???

I have more thoughts on the child support enforcement laws but I am hoping that this will bring some light to actual situations that are taking place. I want to help the parents and the children in these situations so it is more informative and equal for both sides.

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the fathers right`s movement/stand up and fight
by: Ronald Mendoza

I know our rights are being violated and it is downright mockery to want to talk to men about thier enjoyment of the blessings of liberty that our forefathers have set while being denied the complete use of our only means of securing a roof over our head and our child`s leaving the rights of equality to woman to pay thier own rent and thier own roof just as men do! we do not need child support as woman do.it this falls under the 9th amendment, wich is being violated by the state, please read the amendments.we need to make use of a method of protection known as substansive due proccess. this law has been created by the hatred towards men, read your history starting with Abigail Smith Adams wife of john adams and so on. we need to organize a movement just like the womans rights movement and civil right`s.write me at ronaldmendoza@rocketmail.com and let`s fight back and i bet that fixing child support will fix the econamy! are you with me to fight for our rights so lets show some balls cause this is not going to be easy!

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government paper pushers
by: Anonymous

I would agree that the government system in place is horrific. For those situations where a non-custodial parent is actually trying, they still get punished. I know many who are currently in jail because they were only paying a portion of what they owed and honestly were doing the best that they could. They were also the ones NOT running from their responsibilities, but because they could be found (staying near their child,e tc)...they were easy to pick up and enforce.

Now, lets look at the other side where the NCP does everything in their power to stay hidden just under the surface. They pay nothing, or a tiny fraction here or there to keep the enforcement letters from piling up. They are very smart in keeping their jobs as cash only and changing addresses whenever needed. And it really is not hard to hide in plain sight. No one seems to care about the one's that are not trying. As long as they stay a little under the radar they can get away with murder.

I have even tried to employ a private collection agency as my situation is the former mentioned. My state does not allow someone to use a private child support collection agency until the child is at least 18 years of age. Why in the world would they do this...given each child support agent has sometimes over 800 cases each. Would this not relieve the burden on them given some of us would happily pay a portion of what the private agency collects.

I have written letters, made phone calls, used an attorney and I still have not been able to make the NCP responsible. I have never kept my child from his father either...because as we all know these are 'two separate issues'. I have done everything I'm suppose to do, the NCP has done nothing he is suppose to.

I think this agency as they are currently run is simply a government jobs program for paper pushers. Because this is all they seem to get done. I think if some people outside the government could put their brains together, it would be pretty simple to implement a fair procedure for those who want to be responsible and for those who want to run.

-so tired of no justice for the irresponsible-


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LISTEN TO HIM!!!
by: Anonymous

i would have to agree everyone should be treated equally!

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surprised
by: Anonymous

i would love to help in anyway too! I dont know what i can do or where the petitions are to sign. i am surprised there arnt any protesters out there. if there is i havnt seen any.

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Good Luck!!
by: Anonymous

people ( me have been complaining for years and as long as the country makes money on it !!It will never change!

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Change in the Laws and then that does not always count.
by: Anonymous

I believe you will need to do more than petitien for change. You will need to change the laws in all states and see that each state does not interperte. Texas is the worst and Bexar county in Texas is even worse. Judges turn black into white and white into black.
I will be the first to sign petition you want to get started. Men in this country are being abused.

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