Frustrated in Arkansas
I have had nothing but bad experiences with both my daughters mother, and OCSE. First, She doesnt want me to be a part of my daughters life at all. She lets this be known that to her all I am is a donor, untill it comes to something she wants. I got told when my daughter was 3 months old that if I wanted to see my daughter I had to give her money every week. To which I replied, ok. Get it in writing and I will do it.
She never got back to me and I ended up having to take HER to court to get visitation and child support set up. Not that it mattered much, I was struggling before that and ended up loseing my house in the ordeal, as well as my job because I had to move an hour away to live with my family.
And over the years any time something came up and I lost a job or what not, she would throw a fit, claim i was a bad dad, and not supporting my child, even though i never missed a payment untill a few months ago when a client i was doing work for failed to pay me for 2 weeks work. Then she went off. Filed for wage garnishment(didnt do any good i didnt have a job anymore, which i tried to explain to her.)
So I went to the OCSE to try and explain the situation, the same orgnization who loses as least one of my payments every year and i have to go in with check stubs to prove i paid. They told me that she had in fact NOT filed for it(however i know she had) and to pay what i could when i could.
So now we are coming to my first paycheck at my new job. I got a letter today that wage garnishment will be starting soon. nice...
so I am so frustrated at this point because it got so bad about 2 months ago that i finally told my daughters mother that if she wanted me gone to send me the paperwork and i would sign it. so she did, no arguement from her.
tired of dealing with her, with OCSE, with the system, there needs to be a better one.