Frustrated in Ohio
by Damion Justin Morgan
I have been paying Child Support since I was 16yrs of age. I know what I am about to say will make me sound like a dead beat father but that is not the case. When I first started paying support I was ordered to pay $225 a month, I was only a high school student and I was living on my own by the age of 17. I had 2 options stay in school and not pay the full amount or drop out and work full time to pay my rent and other utilities and my support(guess what one I chose). The mother was working at a basket company making $12/hr while I worked for $5.50/hr(see the math?). I immediately started out $4,000 in the hole and have been behind ever since.Well since then I have had other Children I live with 2 of them but I pay for 3 others(sounds really bad doesn't it? hang on it gets a little better).Well I pay $600 a month with no high school diploma or GED(go figure).Anyways I bring home only $80-$100 a week if it wasn't for my fiance and my cousin I would be face down in the gutter dead or something.I have often considered walking away from it all but I can't because I love my children too much. I have currently been seeking employment for a while now and because of my credit I can't get certain jobs, and not a lot of places are hiring. I have been fighting to see my oldest child for quite some time now and I get denied but she can throw me in jail for non-payment. I know I'm not making any sense but I am not very good with words.
What I don't understand is that when you go in for child support(at least in Ohio) they say that child support is to establish a relationship between father and child. Can someone please explain to me how that is possible?And another thing I don't understand,how can they rightfully take away your home,your vehicle and stop your bank accounts because you fell behind on your support? They take everything,where is that fair? Something else I don't understand is how you are considered a criminal for not paying support?I am all up for supporting my children,make no mistake on that, but at what cost should I have to pay? At what cost should my children pay because I'm too busy trying to work my life away to make ends meet and pay my child support? Yeah Child support pays,it makes you pay the ultimate price, work work work and no time for my children(if I am lucky enough to get any) or go to jail and still not see my children. People say that child support is necessary but who benefits in the end? the children or the mother? in like 98% of the cases its not the children. I will end this now cause I can go on and on. Feel free to bash me and berate me all you like, I know my situation,how well do you know mine or any other situation that you chose to bash?