Non-Castodial Damn-Nation, By ScatteroTv Network by: Anonymous
Unfourtunatly We the non castodial parents are forced into labor and as a result of this unconstitutional act by the state of NY, our wages for said slavery are cut automaticly, meaning you have no choice in the matter they will garnish your wages wether you protest or not, If you fail to pay Money they will send a man/woman with a gun to your home, and this man/woman is atherised to use deadly force to detain you, so do not fail to make what the masters require, they will take your clothes and put you in a cage indefinatly. In short my friend you are at the mercy of the cort. the second you hade children you gave up all rights as a free human-being, My advice is to pay what they say and when your child gets old enough to understand explain that you love him/her but its time to stand aganst teriny and then get together with other persacuted parents and fight this issue...
Sep 26, 2011 Rating
Wage garnishment is her option by: Anonymous
Your ex-wife does not need a reason to request garnishment of your wages. It is always an option for your wife to choose.
Sep 03, 2011 Rating
wrongfull laws by: ralph
How can a mother that the state took her children from and placed in her mothers care be allowed to live in the same home with them and years later have chiid support stopped so she dont pay any thing any more.the children were took for abuse also.
Apr 25, 2011 Rating
child support by: Anonymous
he may be paying for back child support .before now back child support started to add up counting from the child was born. And if you have no proff of supporting the child .Then you get no credit ,and the current child support amount does stop when the child turn 18 years of age.However the back child support does not go away becasue of age .It goes away when you have paid it off.
Dec 07, 2010 Rating
non-custodial by: fed up
My husband is from Fla. born and raised there he left Fla.in 1995 and move to La. because his ex had him arrested when he was one day late. He has paid $186,000.00 in support for one child and still paying Fla says he is paying interest. The child is in their 30's come now. And every time he turns around they add more to it. Does any one know the the Fla law and how can they get away with this.
Nov 09, 2010 Rating
busted texas law by: Anonymous
All right, I understand your frustration with the child support laws. Here is my situation: I fell in love with a man four years ago. He had fallen in love with a woman (girl) when he was all of 19. She told him she was 24 (she was 18) She told him she was divorced (she was married) She told him she was on the Depro shot (she was, for almost two yrs) So for two yrs they had sex w/o protection np. But for the last two months of of their relationship she started showing. She said over and over she wasn't pregnant. She was. She took off, left to Texas to her family. Five years later she comes back and demands child support. Child support is fine, but how can she demand support for a child that she denied so long ago, left and never contacted him about? I.E. she was also still married up until three yrs ago yet she can demand support for a child for that four yrs? Also, the child lives with her parents, as per her facebook. It isn't fair. If she needed money for a kid, then I would totally understand. But she can just get money, so she is. The Texas law is busted and unreliable.
Jul 26, 2010 Rating
Custody Matters by: Anonymous
The mother of my son and I were 2gether 4 a year after my sons 1rst birthday, she cheated on me so we broke up but I was seeing my son on a normal basis. A year later my son is 3 Im jus finding out she had full custody ever since he was 1 I never got a statement in the mail notifying me that this was taking place because she gave family court her bestfriend address as if I lived there but Ive been living and goin by the adrees on my LICENSE ever since I was born which does match up with the address she gave them. 2 make matters worse she is taking me 2 childsupprt and she gave them the right address 4 that. How can I handle this siuation in a fast matter or do I have 2 go thru the motions like filling out modification slips and the whole 7 month process or however long it takes mean while I have 2 put up with not seeing my son unless its ok with her cuz she has full custody and if I have him I feel like she is gonna call the cops and tell them I kidnapped him. I miss my son truely love him 2death and I no he miss me and has been asking bout me 2.
Jun 30, 2010 Rating
How to Win the Pro Se Battle by: Robert R
To all. I have successfully concluded my "trials and tribulations" with the Oklahoma Child Support Services without the use of an attorney. Please see my conclusory remarks under "Malicious Autonomy of Oklahoma Child Support Services". You can do a good job on your own, provided you work within the statutes.
May 02, 2010 Rating
Frustrated daddy with no rights by: Anonymous
Since my husband and I have been together. His son mother will not let him see his son. My husband haven't seen his youngest son in 3 to 4 years. He paid his child support though the system. But when we went to the child support office they told him that was nothing they can do. Also, he went out to her mother house where his son lives and her mother let him visit with his son while the son's mother was away. when the mother returned and seen my husband there with our daughters she told him if he comes back and bring those children with him will go to jail. And he has no right to be there. Her mother gave him permission to see his son. We really do miss our son. We don't want to have anyone go to jail. But at the same time she is voliated a court order. My husband don't want to be the bad one, but he just wants to spend time with his son (that is now 6 years old). We are trying to save and get a lawyer. What do we need to do?
Apr 28, 2010 Rating
CHILD SUPPORT IS WRONG by: Anonymous
I agree with the person who gave a new meaning to the phrase "DEAD BEAT DADS." I knew a twelve year old who cried everyday because he could not see his father due to his mother's wrongful behavior. The twelve year old ran away and died in the woods. They found him laying down in a way that looked as if he were crying to death for days. He missed his father and did not want to see his mother abuse his father by yelling at him and keeping him away from his son. Come on now...please government try something else. Lighten up on these fathers. Never lock a man up simply because he owes money for child support. Have the fathers summit proof of income anytime in order to make sure the rate is fairly set. Stop causing the fathers to have to pay for an attorney and court cost to get the support reduced. Just have a simply form to fill out and allow him to submit some proof of income. Stop killing dads and their children.
Mar 21, 2010 Rating
there is hope for all of you by: fathers i feel your pain
my fiance is having the same issues. ( laid off, less income, sent to jail etc..) now he gave me the authority to handle his cases, he has two cases and both of them are friends and file charges every month if he is late.. since i have been handling it it is successful. when the court date comes i right to the calender judge and give doc. that he is complying the court dismiss the cases every time( furious they are when they show and he is not there).
fathers i have learned that the laws are where they are for the mothers because YOU ALL LET IT GET THIS FAR!!!!!mothers have all right because these freeloaders are at every event from sheriff offices to child support enforcers to help them. when enough speaks on one topic it is addressed.
why cant you guys object when you are being taken advantage of. I WANT TO HELP. i am not a lawyer that causes 350 an hour. i am A WOMEN WITH A VOICE THAT WILL BE HEARD THREW LETTERS TO MY STATE REP.
MY COURSE OF ACTION WILL BE AS FOLLOWS: I WILL WRIGHT A LETTER TO MY STATE REP. WITH ENOUGH FIGHTING FATHERS AND THERE LETTER WE WILL BE HEARD. THEN WILL WILL FOLLOW WITH WHAT COMES NEXT. WE MUST STICK TOGETHER TOP GET HELP.. WHY CANT WE OVER TURN THE CURRENT LAWS" OUR LAWS WERE CREATED WHEN THE ECONOMY WAS THRIVING NOT THE ECONOMY IS IN A RECESSION. PLEASE I AM SERIOUS AND I NEED HELP FROM YOU SUFFERING FATHERS.....
Feb 16, 2010 Rating
Both Sides by: Kathryn
Hello. I am a female who experienced the child support issue from both sides. Thirty-six years ago I had a child when I was not married. The father promised to help when he finished college, but never ever helped at all. (I have found him online; he is now a Lutheran pastor.)
When my daughter was three, I married a someone who was paying a large support for a child in the custody of his ex-wife.
If I start going into details, I will re-experience all the suppressed anguish from long ago. The other "mother" was horrible. Let it suffice to say that it was far, far more damaging to have been on the paying end than not to have received.
Dec 29, 2009 Rating
I agree by: Stephanie's Ex
We need to be able to deduct all the expenses we give to custodial parents from our taxes. Where to start?
Dec 28, 2009 Rating
New Laws for Non-Custodial Parent Claiming Child(ren) on Income Tax by: Anonymous
Since my divorce, I have been paying child support of $790.00 a month to my ex-wife whom is the custodial parent of two of my children. I have never been behind on my child support and am fully aware of my obligation to pay child support. I am remarried and have one child with my wife now. I practice my visitation rights with my children and even more so try to get them whenever possible aside from my visitation rights. When my children come visit me, their mother sends them with only the clothes they have on at the time of the exchange. Other than the child support I am obligated to pay, I also have to provide clothing, shelter and food as is my duty as a responsible parent. I have no problem providing for my children, however, I do have a problem when I file taxes and am unable to claim neither one of my children of whom I also financially support through the year along with my ex-wife. I provide medical benefits as well. I believe that the law should allow the non-custodial parent to claim one child if there are more than one children in the household or rotate even and odd numbered years for a household of which there is only one child. The law should state that this be only if a non-custodial parent has never been late on child support payments or if the non-custodial parent at one time or another was late but has a 2 year record of non-late payments. I feel this is only just and right to the non-custodial parent whom is loyal to his child support obligations.
Dec 25, 2009 Rating
get money orders by: Anonymous
it is best to get money orders if you suspect she may use your personal checks against you. try to plan ahead so that the date you purchase the money order and the date printed on the money order is the correct date. please save your part of the money order stub in case you need to show it to a judge.
Dec 18, 2009 Rating
Support and Suicide by: Anonymous
When you strip all that a person has and have them put in jail for having a child.Then they feel that there is nothing left but to take their own life,I hope these people who work for these systems are proud of their accomplishments,maybe they should be put in the same sorry hell hole,and see how they fair.The support system is going back to the dark ages,debtors prison,wages taken so its impossiable to take care of their present families,ruining everything that anyone thought they had or worked for their whole life What is left?When Fathers leave children fatherless after they kill themselves,leaving children wondering what they did wrong was it because of me that my Dad is dead.Instead of being suicidal maybe they should be homicidal towards those that got them stripped of everything even life itself! It gives a new meaning to DEAD BEAT DADS!This system SUCKS!!!
Dec 15, 2009 Rating
Frustrated FATHER by: BROKEFATHER
I got a divorce in 96' in Nebraska, I started out paying $300 a month for one child, now I am paying $600 a month in 2009 and I just recently was laid-off of my job of 6 years because of lack of work!. The STATE of NEBRASKA takes my supportn right out of my check at $138.01 per week "NOT" per month, so those month's there are 5 pay period's in that month I pay an "EXTRA" week's payment, and here is the part your going to "LOVE" about us "DEAD_BEAT DAD'S" is my ex-wife moved out of state almost 10 years ago and I don't even know where she live's or if my son is doing well and the state child support guy I told this did nothing the last time I told him this except "RAISE" my child support I beleive his name was TAD ERICKSON not sure. So unless you fathers out there have a "LOT" of money to blow on Lawyers that "WANT TO HELP US FATHERS" and can afford to shvel out a lot of money "GOOD LUCK" because under nebr law a father can have his support "LOWERD" for none visitation or spouse moving out of state but a "LAWYER" won't touch it for under $125-310 AN HOUR yes PER HOUR so "GOOD LUCK" to all those Fathers tring to do right by there kids and be a "GOOD" Father hang in there and keep paying "FOR YOUR KID's and maybe some day sume "HONEST" Lawyer or Judge will try tom do right by us and help us fathers to get our right's Back....!!!!!!......
Nov 09, 2009 Rating
California Child Support Rip-off by: Michael
I would like some help and advice my daughter turns 18 in 3 days. I just contacted California child support to see if the order would stop on the 13. I was told that it runs till the end of the month. It is the law! For a year and a half my daughter lived with me and they still took support out. I notified them and it took 3 months to get back me. Where is the justice? Where do "father's" go for help? Anytime I contact them it takes them months to get back to me. Each time it is the same old nonsense. There is nothing we can do, you will have to contact an attorney. I ask you who can do that with the payments that we are required to pay. I feel that the system considers all father's as "dead beat dads." You can and ask for help and they tell you that they can't. The system needs to be overhauled and needs to be adequate to the father's who are trying to do right. Please help me and I really do need to know where to start because I am not letting this go anymore. If I have to go to Washington I will, this is crazy. I am tired of being raked over the coals by a system that is outdated and overworked.
Sep 22, 2009 Rating
YOU CAN DO IT by: IN MISSISSIPPI
dear Dad, when i first started paying child support for my 2 boys i was paying way more than i was supposed at the time--well she ended up wanting me to pay for daycare on top of giving her over 800 a month--that would have been over 1700 a month--i was barely making it then--so i took her ass to court and come to find out i only had to give her 20% of my net not gross income--so i had my support lowered to under 600 a month --i was a happy camper--so i said to myself after court was done-up and all, how does the state know how much i am giving her on a monthly basis--well they didn't--so i stopped payment a couple of times on support and they ended up taking it out of my check automatically---now they know how much i am giving her because they have a f---in record of it now---maybe they have the same kind of deal where u r located--plus i don't have to give her a damn check every month from my person--hope that helps out--
Sep 17, 2009 Rating
It does not make sense by: Stephanie's Ex
The laws ARE designed for women and it's very frustrating. Something must be done. Why should women get all the breaks? My ex nickels and dimes me to death while she lives in a better house and drives a better car than me or my wife ever will. She takes trips, has manicures, pedicures and I pay for all of it with child support. She just raised it on me again. Meanwhile, she does everything she can to alienate my kid from me.
Sep 16, 2009 Rating
A Better Way by: Richard
I am a Non-Custodial parent who has his kids, 3 months in summer, X-mas 1 month, and spring break three weeks. Almost 5 months out of the year. May must I pay child support for support of my kids, yet don't get a dime from her? The laws are written for women! I asked the judge in my case, why during the summer time can I not get child support and she told me "its just not done that way" my question to her is "Why?". If a father is paying support of his kids, then why not a mother? I am not low standard father, so why should I pay a high stardard child support amount? Can anyone out there tell me why this is?
Sep 02, 2009 Rating
Jerked around by: Anonymous
I am getting ready to go to a hearing in Va. The problem is my ex-wife does not live in this state and the state is giving her a hearing. Even thoug she is not a resident of the state. However I had custody of my daughter for a year and she paid NO support!! The state of Virginia would not help me. Said I had to go back to Pa. where the original order was from. I called Pa. and low and behold they said No you have to go to Va. to get support. I am a Va tax payer and I get no help. On top of it there is all ready and existing order that I go back to paying the original amount when my daughter returns to live with her mother! What do I do!!
Aug 03, 2009 Rating
Will I be granted custody? by: Anonymous
the mother of my children (twins) was recently arrested for motor conveyance in NC. Her mother, childrens grandmother filed that charge against her. In addition, the grandmother has filed for emergency custody over the twins...claiming that mother is unfit and emotionally unstable. I have never seen the children they are four and a half years of age. I pay my support and continue to do so. I was denied by both(mother and grandmother) to see them although i pay support Plus, I cannot afford to go and see them since they live in a different state nor could I afford to take them to court for custody purposes. Mother told me that she had an abortion and fled to another state to go live with her mother.
Grandmother has a court date for the 6th for the custody over the twins. Can I show up to court and claim my kids? I am their father, if mother is unfit I am 100% available. Will my appearance affect anything? Will the judge hear me out? Afterall....I am their father and its not like I never wanated my children in my life...just was simply denied and a victim of the cirumstance! Please, if you have any input do share.
Aug 03, 2009 Rating
Not fair that dads don't get any credit by: Anonymous
I have two childrens by previous marriage in which we have joing custdoy and I and 2 childrens outside my marriage and 1 with my spouse now and I try to do what is right and take canr of my childrens previous marriage and outside marriage and I still dont get any creidt. I divorced in 1998 and now my 2 oldr sons are 15 and 12 and out of ther whole life I have only spent time with them 2 1/2 years of there life and have been paying child support and still dont get the proper visitiation to see them and s the x wife continue to want more child support and it continue to go up and in Mississippi Laws they say if the other children are not in the system for child support they only basic if of just like those are the only children that I have and that is not right . I think all my children deserve equal amount since I don't even get to see my elder 2 kids. Something need to be done in the whole system for some of these mothers that try to get over on the system and the system continue to let them get over and not work , fakeing disibality and just plain out trying to get over. if you know how I resolve this matter please make a comment back.
Jul 29, 2009 Rating
My Prayers are With all by: Salavtore O
2003 I was finally divorced with the decree stating I was to get the {3} children every other weekend holidays etc...she was awarded $495 a month after lowering it from $1400 a month with that said my ex tried everything in her power to stop me from seeing my children from taking T.P.O on me in two different counties which is against the law to due that. The state of GA. works in favor of the custodial {MOM} and the fathers have no rights but Pay Pay Pay they don't care where you get the money they don't see the economy and there are 560.000 people unemployed in the U.S. I just got out of jail over child support I wish that the banking industry starts putting people in jail for defaulting on there mortgages.
Jul 16, 2009 Rating
18 years and never allowed to see child by: Mario
I feel for you because for the past 18 years and still counting the custodial parent never allowed me to see said child in my case. The child does not even go by my last name, he goes by her first and now ex-husband's name. The court ordered for her to change the last name of the child when it was determined that I was the father. Did she ever do it? Absolutely not!!! Did I fight it with the Texas Attorney General's Office?
Hell I did, was anything done or was she ever held in "Contempt of Court" no she was not! They claim not to have jurisdiction over visitation right, change of last name, etc. Yet court documents written in black and white state such? The said child in this case turned 18 in November did not graduate in May because he was found in possesion of marijuana on school grounds. My present wife and I stopped by the summer school he was to attend to check if he had attended and completed the only credit he was missing for graduation and he has. At least he did, yet I am still being charge the same monthly amount including medical support which should have stopped since May? I was ordered to pay an additional $25.00 a month to cover a balance of $675.38.
It has been two years that I have been paying those $25.00 towards that particular balance, yet my financial activity report still shows that I owe the $675 plus cents. Instead of them crediting the $25.00 to the medical they credited it to the actual monthly support? When will I be given that credit? The mother of the child has done nothing but cause problems with my present wife for the past 18 years and months. She cannot see us doing well, if she does she is very good at bringing us down. The local office takes her calls very seriously, but when it came to my wife not receiving her child support from her ex-husband for over 7 years they did not take her serious. To top it off we have to be doing their work for them, yet they do not respond to my requests or telephone messages.
Jun 10, 2009 Rating
NY CSEU!! Beware. by: Scottg
I have had my income collected/garnished by the NY State Child Support Enforcement Unit since 2002/2003. I had never had a problem until a few months ago. My ex-wife has not recieved child support payments for the months of March,April, or May 2009, Even though the NY CSEU is still taking the child supporrt out of my income. I show about $2,000 of undisbursed money. The NYCSEU will not tell me why they are not sending it to my ex-wife. Its frustrating for her and me. It only hurts are two daughters. Does anyone have any ideas why the NYCSEU would do this?
Jun 02, 2009 Rating
There's hope by: Anonymous
I had mine garnished for a long time and when I changed jobs once they did not have the order so I started paying it on my own. The next time we went back to court the ex requested that it be garnished again and the judge ruled against her, based on the fact that I always paid my support on time and there was no need to garnish since I wasn't late or missed a payment. My best advice is to pray! There is hope try to focus on your good record and maybe it won't happen. I am in Florida I don't know about NY.
May 12, 2009 Rating
Greed by: Anonymous
In response to the person that wrote no if's or but's about getting a paternity test....A paternity test was conducted and as it turns out i am the father...
May 12, 2009 Rating
Greed by: Anonymous
The guy that wrote about his girlfriend having a so called abortion due to cancer and then delivering twins needs a paternity test no IFS ANDS OR BUTS!!!
May 03, 2009 Rating
What are my options? by: Anonymous
can anyone out there express to me what are my options in terms of my situation. I want to see my kids but i cant afford to go out there. When I mean can't afford it in terms of financially and cant afford of taking time off or i will be behind. $1000 montly plus arears....it kills! My only hope is when the kids are old enough they will understand and seek for me. From then on I will let them know the truth and explain my side.
Apr 27, 2009 Rating
Unbelievable by: Stephanie's Ex
It's unbelievable to me that a woman is allowed to take children from their father and not allow visitation of any kind. Moreover, how on earth can a man be expected to pay child support for children he's been lied to about? It's an outrage.
Apr 26, 2009 Rating
Greed! by: Anonymous
known her for 4 months, we became pregnant, we decided on having an abortion becasue she claimed that she was diagnosed with cervical cancer and was taken medication in which will effect the baby. Abortion was our best option. As we went to the clinic, the doctor told her they cannot complete the procedure unless she gave them more information...the name of the medication and her doctors name. She states" I will fax the information as soon as I talk to my doctor." The next day as I go to work...i recieved a phone call from her that she is at the clinic with her grandmother as we speak.. she faxed the information and they accepted her. Sooner after the procedure was completed she calls back crying, in pain, shocked etc..I try to comfort her over the phone...and we talked for a couple days after(over the phone) Consistantly she would cry and cry and at one point she says she wanted to end her life. I couldn't take it any more so I said I'm going to drive there (1hr drive) and check up on her. She refused and didn't want me to show up. Insisted that she's ok and not to worry. The next day i get a phone call from her and she states that she's going to move to NC to live with her mother. Off she went.... About 8 months later I get a phone call from her and she states, " I didn't have the abortion" and she's about to have the babies (twins) and you should be recieving something in the mail about child support..... after that never heard from her again. On countless times i call and call and no answer.
Yes, they are my children...I don't ever get to see them...and pay a court order of about $1100 mnthly
living off $300.00 to pay rent, food, auto insurance..you know the rest...currently working three jobs to maintain... Is this fair?...don't think so, Should I still pay the support even though she lied....Shouldn't she be liable for total percent of the care, afterall, she decided to skip town to NC....lied for no reason. Shouldn't the court force her back to NJ? Souldn't the court make her meet me half way at least...I cant afford to go to NC every weekend or every month to see my kids...I work a great deal..literally day and night and hardly have to time to do anything. What's keeping me alive is the fact that I know the truth. Those poor kids are the ones might suffer because dad is not in the picture....will i be considered as a dead beat dad? or will she be considered as a lier and a dead beat mom? Courts don't care about the truth..I'm not saying I don't want to take care of responsibilities just want it to be fair..
It's a woman's body her decision if she want to keep the baby or not...but what if it was the other way around..what if a man wants to abort
we are still liable for the support. My point, a woman has decisions it is supported, a man's decision is not supported....hold the phone it is....deeply into his pockets...
Apr 06, 2009 Rating
Hey Vegas Mom by: Stephanies Ex
Go down the street to the deadbeat mom (a teacher in Fabulous Las Vegas) who makes about $50,000 and lives in a $300,000 house with her boyfriend....who collects $400 a month for child support on our one child so she can go on vacations in Germany (and place the child in the care of her grandparents rather than in MY care even though I'm her parent). I'm not a drug addict, I don't drink. I'm not abusive. I'm none of those things and she did not even offer me the chance to watch my daughter, but instead took her to her parents house out of state. Of course, she still wants her child support whether or not I ever see my daughter. She lies to my daughter about me every chance she gets. My choice? Taker her to court and pay more attorney fees so the judge can up my child support again. The system sides on the side of the mother just about every single time. All men are deadbeats because of a few that caused this problem.
Apr 05, 2009 Rating
the system by: Vegas Mom
I can't believe how the system works here in the US. Unfortunately, they don't care about children but the first set that was born to a man. I have 4 kids and all the judge took out for them was $50.00 each...while the one child (17 years old) that my husband has from a previous relationship gets 420.00 a month. My oldest child is 8. The state is now trying to make my husband pay $12,000 in back pay because his baby mama says that he owes her. My husband has been paying child support since 1996 faithfully through a court order in a different state. Is this even legal? We had to hire a lawyer, to go to court with us because of this and are out $1500.00 because of it. To top it off we never even get to see my stepson and we live in the same city, 5 minutes away. The system is not set up in any way to help out fathers. In their eyes all fathers are deadbeats. Something really needs to change. What good is it to live in America if your rights can't be protected???
Mar 06, 2009 Rating
Understandable by: Anonymous
Have them garnished, just check the math. My ex liked to hold the checks through court hearings and then show my "pattern" of not giving a check until the last minute. Even with me having signed copies of the checks the date she got them in hand the judge sided with her and I now pay back support and more than half of my wages. All this because I have a penis.
Feb 27, 2009 Rating
Who can make a website? by: Anonymous
We should make a website and list the first and last names of all custodial parents who abuse the system to gain child support and withhold visitation. Then unsuspecting people can look them up before they date them, marry them, have children with them, etc.
Feb 27, 2009 Rating
Been there by: Anonymous
Believe me you are better off by having your wages garnished. This is one less argument between you and the mother and places the state in the path of her frustrations. I personally initiated garnisment for this very reason. The only problem I have found is that the state does not always issue checks in a timely manner.
Feb 18, 2009 Rating
Just another father... by: Anonymous
This seems so common to my situation, paying for my ex-girlfriends house and car as well as 2 other kids while she does nothing but withhold my son from me. This year is a new low as my arrears have started addind up due to my unfortunate real estate career choice. I am still being charged as if I make good money but no longer do. This system is broken, why doesent anyone care?
Jan 23, 2009 Rating
angry by: Anonymous
I am the girlfriend of a guy who pays child support on 4 other children. Now I understand that support must be paid to these children, but I have two children with the guy and one on the way. Child support leaves us around $300 a month to live on which isn't much with kids in your home. I have talked to child support and was told since I didn't have a support account my children didn't matter to them. When did the system start denying children what the financial support that is needed? They tell me to get a better job and help. What about the other mothers who live off welfare and have never even attempted to work? I feel cheated by our system and believe that my children deserve better than this.
Jan 20, 2009 Rating
Dads Get No Love You are Right by: Stephanie's Ex
I was not allowed to take my daughter to a valentine's day father/daughter dance because my ex (Stephanie) refused to let her see me because she was mad at my new wife (just for existing). That's how they are when they are mad and they should definitely be punished.
Jan 19, 2009 Rating
I pay child support and I cant see or talk to my kids by: Dads Get No Love
I recently got married......but not to the mother of my kids. I take care of my kids pay child support. I even buy school clothes and pay for sports if they want to play. I even helped her get her car fixed even though she has a man staying with her. But he dont work. I did it because thats how my kids get around. But we had a little argument and she changed her number and I can't talk to my kids like I use to. She told me I can see them and talk to them when they go over my mom house. But yet and still she still gets my money. I'm not complaining about paying money because I have to take care of my kids. But I think something should be done to the moms that don't let the fathers see or talk to their kids. If we don't pay.........what happens to us........JAIL......or probation. It's just not right!
Jan 07, 2009 Rating
THIS HAS TO STOP by: anonymous
THIS IS FOR ALL THE FATHERS WHO PAY THEIR CS ON TIME, EVERY TIME, I'VE BEEN PAYING CS FOR 7 YEARS NOW, I'VE NEVER BEEN LATE AND I'VE ALWAYS BEEN THEIR FOR MY DAUGHTER, HER MOTHER HAS MOVED MORE THAN 3 TIMES IN THE LAST 2 YEARS NOW SHE HAS MOVED OUT OF THE COUNTRY TO GERMANY, DO I HAVE TO CONTINUE TO PAY CS EVEN THOUGH SHE HAS MOVED.
Dec 17, 2008 Rating
21 year old so-How do I stop payments???? by: Anonymous
I have a 21 year old son. I have been paying child support consitentsly for the last 15 years, with arrears included to pay for the first few years after my first wife and I divorced. My son has already bought and lost his own home, is not in school and has now moved back in with his mother, not to mention he has a son of his own. How do I stop these garnishments, I can not even afford to live at this rate. I also wanted to know how to go about getting an "accurate" total of my payments history from the state of IN, who give me the run around constantly. Please help! They say I owe over 14,000, this entire thing mess is overwhelming to me.
Oct 21, 2008 Rating
Here is the problem by: Anonymous
People are dishonest. Dishonest men do not want to support their children. Dishonest women want more than their share. Children are stuck in the middle being pulled apart and we wonder why our nation is going to hell in a hand basket.
If your ex-spouse is not paying child support you should do what you need to do to honestly collect what is owed. You need to prove what they owe and not let the state "take over" like they love to do. Go with PROOF and remember, they are incompetent at the state level and unable to view a big picture so you have to spell it out.
If your ex-spouse HAS paid child support and you are lucky enough to have a non-custodial parent who wants to be involved with his/her children you need to SUPPORT AND ENCOURAGE that parent and not be a JERK. Think about the children and not yourself. That's part of being a grown up. That's why grown ups are no longer called "children"...although some grown ups still deserve the title of "child".
Oct 20, 2008 Rating
in defense by: Barbi
Okay. I know that you will probably not like what I have to say, but this is similar to what I am going through (on the flip side). I am the custodial parent and up until July my ex-husband has always paid child support directly to me. He has now abruptly stopped making payments. I rely on child support and felt that it was necessary to turn him in. I told the CSDU here in Texas that I was only trying to collect what was owed. They wouldn't listen to me at all! They said that any money not paid through the state is considered a "gift". I DON'T WANT THIS! To make a long story short, my ex-husband was told that he was in major trouble and behind $36,000 in cs. I'm only asking for $2000. What can I do to make them listen to me?
Oct 15, 2008 Rating
Something definitely needs to be done by: Anonymous
Why are women allowed to be such horrible mothers while good dads pay the price? This system is completely UNFAIR and I am a WOMAN. I don't understand how this repeatedly happens over and over again. No person should be allowed to withhold a child from the other parent without absolute proof of abuse/neglect. This system is broken. Children are being broken.
Oct 15, 2008 Rating
*The name stephanie rings a bell* by: Anonymous
My husbands daughter is dear to us we love her soo much. At home she slept in one room with her little brother, mother and stepfather SICK! Her mom had her first kid at 13, doesn't know the father and doesn't even have that kid living with her!!! Our baby had her own room at our house, pets, anything a child could wish for. We paid child support on time all the time, yet we only got her on the moms schedule! She never followed the rules, gave her to us at her convienience and completely took advantage of us. She used to make plans on our weekend and tell us at the last minute. We finally got fed up when instead of giving her to us for our summer time she put her in daycare!!! My husband was so mad he said he should just sign away his rights because he was sooo tired of never seeing her as we are supposed to. We had been mis informed of our rights several times at that point. Its been 3 months since we've seen her, this is the 3rd time we have gone with out her for a loooong time. (1 year, then 5 months, now this and the baby is only 7!) We have since found a lawyer and are taking this BITCH to court. It is completely unfair that the attorney generals office will prosecute a man for not paying but will not do a damn thing to a woman who doesn't follow the law!!! I am furious that we should have to come up with 2000 for this ridiculous bullshit! I feel like the person causing the issue should be responsible for payment. Many men out there are in this same position and cannot afford an attorney! Totally Unfair. The name stephanie rings a bell!!!!
Sep 14, 2008 Rating
You need to file the checks with the court by: John M
Garnishments suck, but one good thing is that you have an unimpeachable record against the mother. Barring that, I would tell her that from now on, the checks would be delivered to the family court clerk on the agreed upon date. Never trust the ex not to claim "oh, that was a gift"
Jul 23, 2008 Rating
Economic Stimulus Check Withheld by: Anonymous
Even though we have never been even one day late and can prove it and HAVE proven it to the State of Nevada, those lazy idiots running the office there were too neglectful to report us as on time. Since my ex-wife decided to falsely report us late, we had our stimulus check withheld and had to wait 6 weeks for it to be returned. What punishment does my ex get for reporting us late when we can prove we have never ever been late (by the actual cashing date/time from our bank)? Nothing. She causes trouble and walks away scott-free.
Jul 22, 2008 Rating
Wage garnishment by: NY father
I am glad I have it, comes out and I don't have to listen to my ex anymore about not getting paid, they take it from my pay and then pay her and my kids don't see a penny.
I like wage garnishment, I love being the bad guy who pays 750.00 a month for two kids and bring mome a little over 400.00 when they take it.
Next stop skid row.
Mar 25, 2008 Rating
Same Thing Happened to me in Las Vegas by: Stephanie's Ex
My spiteful ex wife decided to garnish my wages even though I have never paid her late. Reason? She is a teacher living in a $300,000 house and uses my support to pay her outrageous housepayment, while our child walks around in shoes that are too small. I have never paid her late, but now she wants garnishment.
