Frustrated Non-Custodial Step Mom

by D
(NM)

My husband's ex-girlfriend whom he has a 6 yr old daughter with is a royal pain. She was married to another man when she got pregnant and then refused to get divorced. Her ex-husband has filed and 5 yrs later they are divorced. She seems to think that since she laid down, spread her legs, and got knocked up that she is entitled to know my address, and all phone numbers. She stops by unannounced and uninvited all the time, and calls just to chit-chat with my husband about how bad her life is. We have tried to be nice and tell her that her personal life is none of our business and unless it affects the child we don't want to know. She is very hard headed and will not quit. We are moving into a new home in the same city, and we were wondering if she was entitled by NM state law for us to give her anything but an emergency contact number. I truly believe that any woman who gets pregnant and is not married should have to support the child on their own. MAYBE it would make young girls open their eyes and take responsibility for their actions. I can totally see support for divorced couples. Any information or research sites would be appreciated.