Frustrated Payer

I will tell this reality from a non-gender basis. Why is the Attorney General so interested in child support? Due to federal monies the state gets for each child support case it gets. Regardless of how well off either party is. So what happens if the parent getting child support refuses to allow parenting time? Nothing. That person has to hire an attorney, while still sending child support. It is for the kids, we are told. I say BS to that. Children deserve both parents. No one got pregnant alone. The primary conservator has all the power to manipulate the circumstances. My case, I have had to take my ex (who left the marriage) to court multiple times, as well as fight alleged abuse multiple times. All the while, support payments continue. My personal expenses just on enforcement have exceeded close to $100,000. Until judges take the crime of refusing contact (including telephone) when a court order exists, then it will never change. Why doesn't the offense alienation get punished? The courts get money. So now you have individuals who can have a decent income pushed to the brink of losing everything and being indigent by this total unfair system of law. What do I have to show for the past 13 years? Nothing. I have no relationship with my oldest daughter (who is now 19) because of all the exposure to bad mouthing, lies, manipulation, and alienation. I would have been better off if I would have just from the get go not cared. It is worse than death when you have children who are alive, yet don't consider you for jack. The other parent has had three other marriages and all those have failed. Who are the children encouraged to foster a relationship with - an ex step parent. Now that is sick and disturbing. All the while, I still pay. I am 100% disabled and how many phone calls do I get asking how I am? None, nill, zero. So, there you have my experience. The system in it's entirerty is a sham.